To expect my working from home to be respected

YABU

Even in an office environment you will sometimes get interrupted.

If your calls include sensitive information then I don’t think it’s suitable to take them whilst in a home with other people.

Can you just do it in your bedroom instead?
I assume he wouldn’t just barge in there?

This is no different to the multiple threads of mum’s who are asked to keep kids quiet when their DH’s are WFH - it’s a home first.

If the home environment is not suitable for WFH then you need to rent an office.

WFH is not suited to every household.

Work from your bedroom. If it's his office and his stuff in there you don't really get to call the shots unfortunately

I also contribute money each month to the house.

How much are you paying?

If it’s market rent plus bills, I would ask to sit down with your dad and thrash this out-find out what the problem is (is it that he wants to be able to use his office? Is it he downs like the way you speak to him? Etc etc)

If you are paying eg £250 a month, you are onto a pretty good thing and he’s potentially thinking you’re taking the piss.

As you are working in the office upstairs, assuming your Dad does not actually need to be in there too, then he is being an annoying idiot. Surely he knows you are on calls.

Can see it both ways here. My DH had to work from home during Covid lockdowns and we had a new baby. We have no desk or spare room so he would work at kitchrn tsbke would be annoyed if I was in n out or baby was noisy but I would say u work in our home we don’t live in ur office ! I’d suggest u either work for ur bedroom or get ur on place asap

Could you lock the door or put a wedge under it?

I was going to say, fhe divided opinions on here are clearly those who WFH versus those who don't!!

These pp saying he can burst in if he likes, would you like it done to you?
Do your DHs constantly go into your DDs bedrooms without a knock or is it ok?
OP is paying her way and he knows she's working, he is being rude and a bully.

I assumed the OP was a man by the way

I hope all the people from the "it's easy to buy a home, you just need to suck it up and live with your parents until you're 47 like we did in the good old days" thread are reading this.

Is your dad normally an arse or is this his one weird quirk? If the latter is there a family member he respects who will help you make one more attempt at explaining to him that you are actually at work?

If it were my child then I would do all I could to help them be successful in their job. He is BU.

Wow some of these responses are crazy, calling your Dad an arsehole for daring to open a door in his own house!
Get a decent fake office background for any video calls and most headphones these days filter out ambient sounds. Sorted.

My husband pops in whenever I am working at home to make me hot drinks, the kids also stick their heads in when they get home from school, doesn’t bother me at all.

You need a discussion with him about which rooms you can use in the house and when. I'm sure he doesn't come into the bathroom or your bedroom without your consent. So he can agree that on certain days, at certain times, the office is similarly 'out of bounds'. You may need to put a notice on the door (and perhaps a wedge under the door) if he's liable to forget.

I think if you're acting towards him about it as you're coming across here, he will have no reason to take you seriously, even if you're right on this issue.

I'm a manager. I have line management responsibilities. My team all come to me to solve their problems because I'm so sensitive and capable and important.

He can't be disturbing confidential calls so I think you'll have to use your bedroom or ask your manager for office space. It does sound as though he's fed up with you working from home in shared space though.

I suspect the underlying problem is that your dad is a bit fed up with having you in his house.

Even if you are paying rent you've still got the parent - child relationship going on there and I suspect he wouldn't have got a lodger, so he probably feels like he is doing you a favour.

Doubly so if you are not paying market rent.

The obvious solution is that you move out to a shared house and then you'll either need to work from your bedroom or pay for two rooms.

If you want to stay for financial reasons you may need to accept that there is a price and that's your dad wandering in.

To be fair it doesn't sound like your company is great; if you are discussing wellbeing etc matters on a call you should either be able to be in an office or in a private space of some
Kind which is probably your bedroom.

Do you think your Dad is trying to assert his dominance over you?

If it was my Dad work wouldn't be the only issue here. This kind of behaviour would affect my whole relationship with him. He is rude, unreasonable and doesn't respect your boundaries.

A bit off topic, I know. But I am intrigued what's behind his behaviour. Does he feel emasculated by you in some way?

This if it is possible, we work from home as the office space has been withdrawn , may be he is the same. Many businesses reduced their office space to reduce costs with so many working from home

Hi OP: I can see your dads POV and yours

I think you need to explain to him that sometimes you have to talk about sensitive issues and it’s unprofessional of you if others hear that .. your dad may not have thought of that (as he possibly still I thinks of you as a little kid too!)

Find a system to communicate ‘do not disturb’ - a sign on the door, or wattsap him that you cannot be disturbed from time x to y

also: you need to communicate to him that you respect it is his house & he is used to walking around freely

HTH - have had to do some of this when family visit as they like to walk through my office to use the en-suite attached

Living with your parents in your mid 20s is a privilege not a right.
The endless posts on here about 20 something kids living at home and parents complaining - with all the responses saying time they moved out.

I'd imagine if you're home all day hogging his office he's going to be pretty inconvenienced.
He probably wants his house to himself during the day to enjoy retirement and his actions are clearly stating you don't own that room.
Respect his rules or move out and make your own but you don't get to make your own demands in his house.

You are not being unreasonable. Your dad is being an arse and you have the right to continue to ask him to knock before he enters. It's not his right especially if you're paying to live there! I could never treat my child in this way.

Where has there been any suggestion that her father would ask for a set of keys when she buys her own property?

Yikes some people really do not get working from home. I would put a lock on my bedroom door and work from there, then he can't barge in. And find a new place to live - quick!

@footballinthepub when you do get your own place, do not give your parents a set of keys, your dad has no boundaries. ETA perhaps increase your search area too, to help you find something quicker!

I know that, but VolvoFan said: "but why do you get to dictate where he can go in his own house? And why should he walk in without knocking first (in his own house)?"

So by VolvoFan's logic, that means she's not even entitled to any privacy in her bedroom, because it's "his own house".