To expect my working from home to be respected

Why not work from your bedroom as several people have suggested?

Speak to your work HR if possible and say WFH is no longer suitable as you live in family accommodation. My work has the option for staff who don't have a suitable WFH space. We make a way and find them a desk full time in the office.

The next thing is you may need to suck it up until you find somewhere. It is your dad's home yes you pay rent but it's prob not the same cost as rent on a privately rent flat/ room.

It's rude of your dad yes, but as it doesn't sound like it's going to change on his part you need to make the change on yours.

He is just doing it to show dominance. He is also showing you he doesn’t respect you.

How long have you been back living with your parents? You say at the moment - how long has the moment lasted? I think your dad wants his house back and is impossibly a bit worried that you are not trying hard enough to move out. Want to be treated like an adult - you'll need to behave like one and prioritise getting your own place.

I pointed out that until I can get a flat, it is my house too as I don't have anywhere else to go.

That does not make it your house!
The entitlement on this thread. Not your house, not your office.
Work in your bedroom - he has no reason to walk in there

It seems your dad wants you to move out sooner rather than later.

can you not rent with friends? go yo the office every day? Work in your bedroom?

Buy a kettlebell weight and use it as a doorstop on the inside of the door. He’ll not be able to just barge the door open.

YANBU. It's only 2 days a week, short term, and he agreed to it. It's so disrespectful of him to barge in. I wfh for a time when I was a similar age, living with my parents, nearly 20 years ago when wfh wasn't much of a thing. My parents managed to understand and respect my working hours, although they were sometimes surprised I wasn't free to join them for coffee whenever they wanted. I made sure I agreed times to have coffee / lunch with them and that worked really well. Do you do that?

Your dad is clearly struggling with the lack of control over his office and perhaps regrets the agreement.

I think a lock on the door / a sign on the door / wedge under the door etc but do tell him about it and make it clear you only do it when you can't be disturbed.

It sounds v frustrating OP. Of course it's kind of your parents to allow you to stay, but it's basic bad manners to burst in on someone.

I think it’s really sad that it’s being suggested that OP might have to give up her wfh job until she has her own home.

Maybe that is the only solution as I think the Dad is deliberately coming into the room to assert some sort of dominance. However, I think that disregard for boundaries causes long-term damage to a relationship. Essentially, instead of supporting her, OP’s dad is sabotaging her first management role to prove a point.

OP is only living at home short-term. The power dynamics between parents & children shift very suddenly as parents age. Mutual respect & support when OP is a young adult would mean that her father was entitled to expect her respect & support as he ages. I’m not suggesting that family relationships are transactional - but I’m saying things even out over time.

But I agree OP needs to move out asap.

YANBU. Your dad is being very unreasonable.

I have WFH, been self employed for 20 years and sometimes work in the office. Working at home is by far better for dealing with wellbeing or private calls.

Your dad is being territorial. Tough shit it's my house attitude is awful and unkind. He could be jeopardising your job. At the lest he is making himself look foolish.

My DC are late teens. I do not go into the office when they are studying. They have asked me not to and I treat them with the same respect I expect to be reciprocated.

I would move your office set up to your bedroom. I assume he doesn't burst into there?

WFH at least part of the time is normal for a lot of people post COVID. I understand that this can be disruptive for people at home, especially of you are working and they are not.

Good luck on your flat search, hope you find somewhere soon.

I can imagine how you asked your dad to stay out of the office.

How much do you contribute? I expect not enough yet you are full of how much you're entitled to occupy your parent's office.

Go have a chat with your manager about the home not being a suitable environment for your work - ask them to fund another option - it's not your parent's job to fund your lack of office accommodation.

No advice - but my dad once turned off the router “to save electricity” while I was halfway through a work call…..

It must be challenging, good luck finding a flat!

Technically he is right. It is his house and he can go where he likes in it. He has made it clear that he will continue to do this. So set up your office space in your own room and lock the door when you are working. Start looking into getting your own place to live.

I couldn't imagine being like this at all. Like why would you not just be supportive of your child who is actively trying to move out?

It's a couple of days a week for christ sake like I'd let my child get on with it if I thought it was helping them out. And yes, this is my house but I wouldnt be a twat just for the sake of it.

Work from your bedroom. When I lived with my parents for a few months between houses I worked from my bedroom I didn’t go in my dad’s office because that was his space.

To be honest, she is being bloody minded. Suggestion of headphones and an 'office background' are good. But it is his house.

You're an adult living and working at home in their mid 20s - it's HIS house and it's pretty entitled of you to think otherwise. Do you pay rent for the use of the extra room (office) in addition to your bedroom?

It's his house. He makes the rules.
My DD and her DP both work from home. I have walked all the way upstairs to her office to ask her something (not trivial) and I call before I go up, and wait out of sight on the staircase (it's the attic bedroom of a Victorian house) if she is on the phone. Not a clue what she is talking about so no real problem if I overhear, but I stay way down the stairs, so I don't. Nor do I go up lightly, it's her house and I am a guest. Don't go in DP's office either, though he keeps the door open. I am allowed, as a guest, to go wherever I wish, but I don't, it's their house.
If you want privacy go to work in your office, rather than at home. You will find it much more conducive to good relations with your father. And get a flat asap - even a share.

Your DF sounds like a tit. But it is his house so all you can do is move out as soon as you can.

Remember how he treated you when you needed help, when he needs help though.

Your dad is being difficult but he’s right, it’s his house and he can go in the office room if he wants.

In general, I think it’s the responsibility of the person wfh to ensure they don’t disturb normal home life rather than the other way round. If you want to work, go to your workplace. It is irrelevant that your workplace can’t accommodate you. They don’t have the right to force your parents to accommodate their employee.

It sounds like maybe your dad is finding it hard to accept you are an adult with a job, so you are his equal and no longer a child to be told what to do. It sounds like he's not taking your adult life seriously - maybe realising you are an adult now makes his more aware of his mortality/age. Difficult to tell without knowing what he is like in general. I hope you get your own place soon - I feel so sorry for young people who are struggling with rents, it's ridiculous you have to bid for a place to live.

Most normal people would respect your privacy and work around you. Your dad is obviously a bit or an arse but unfortunately it’s his house so there’s not a lot you can do. He isn’t going to be persuaded to be reasonable.
This is why adults should never live with their parents.

I would go and explain to your line manager that your parents aren’t happy with you working from home, and can you make a request to go into the office every day instead; you might find that they can make reasonable adjustments to support you.

If not, then it doesn’t sound like a WFH job isn’t right for you at the moment and you need to look for a new role. Perhaps you can reconsider this when you can rent/own your own home.

If your calls include sensitive information then I don’t think it’s suitable to take them whilst in a home with other people.

This! WFH had its use but I think it's less respected now

I think it depends on your role and your responsibilities. If you have a lot of meetings it can be really annoying