To expect my working from home to be respected

Read the OPs post again and consider this is a mid 20s man. The verbal exchanges from OP are rude at best.

OP has a bedroom they can work from, causing grief with Dad isn't going to help. Dad can rightfully tell them it's time to go rent if they can't buy.

Anyone who frequently gets outbid for properties needs to take a look at what they are offering or check if they are just being unrealistic about what they can afford. Harsh but true.

Did you miss the part where the father set up a desk in the office for the OP?

You are being very entitled. If you want privacy go to the office. It is not your parent’s job to enable your choices about working from home. It is clearly something your dad is not ok with so you shouldn’t be doing it in his house. Didn’t you talk about it before deciding to WFH?

I work from home a couple of days per week. I am mid-twenties and living in my parent's house at the moment however I am actively making offers on flats. There isn't much on the market in my area and I keep getting outbid so it's been a longer process than I'd like. I also contribute money each month to the house.

I am in my first line management position. When I work from home I use the office upstairs and shut the door. My dad doesn't work and so is in and out of the house during the day. About 11am this morning, he opened the door to the office with no warning and said, "bye!" I was on a call at the time but thankfully not one where I needed to have my camera on or participate.

Later this afternoon when he came home, he walked in again unexpectedly. I asked him if he would mind not just coming in to the office when I'm working as I had literally just finished a call speaking to someone in my team about wellbeing issues they're having; given that I'm a manager my work can be about sensitive confidential topics. My dad's response was, "don't you dare. I can go where I like in my own house". I pointed out that until I can get a flat, it is my house too as I don't have anywhere else to go. He then left without shutting the door properly behind him. I got up to close it.

About 15 minutes later he burst in again to get something from the office. I protested again and he said, "it's my house. I need to be able to come in and out when I want. All I can speak for is me and what I need". I suggested that we at least discuss and come to an agreement that considers what we both need, such as him knocking the door first to check if it's ok to come in. His response was, "oh wise up!" said with derision, as though I was being ridiculous. I asked where he suggested I go to work where I won't be disturbed and he said, "I don't know, that's your lookout and for you to work out".

He is now acting as though nothing has happened and that I'm the bad one for being annoyed with him. This is always the pattern when we have a disagreement and nothing gets resolved.

AIBU to expect not to be unexpectedly disturbed when working from home?

This is harsh and mostly fabricated! We have no idea what op pays, what her flat budget is, what she's offering.

You contribute money to the house, sounds like you aren't paying a fair rent for utilies and a room imo.

It's your dad's house, your "protest" sounds very rude and disrespectful. If you have the privacy of your bedroom, then work from there. Just because your dad set up the desk in the first place didn't mean you have exclusive use of another room in his house when you feel like it.

You're a grown adult, be realistic about what you are offering if you keep getting outbid or look further afield and reduce your expectations to what you reasonably need not want. You already have the ability to WFH so a longer commute on days you have to go into the office would be the pay off.

Your dad is probably fed up of you living there and claiming you keep getting outbid, while working in a management position job and not paying full rent or bills. Depending on your other spending habits, he may also be looking at you're taking the piss and not saving everything you can.

I work from home a couple of days per week. I am mid-twenties and living in my parent's house at the moment however I am actively making offers on flats. There isn't much on the market in my area and I keep getting outbid so it's been a longer process than I'd like. I also contribute money each month to the house.

I am in my first line management position. When I work from home I use the office upstairs and shut the door. My dad doesn't work and so is in and out of the house during the day. About 11am this morning, he opened the door to the office with no warning and said, "bye!" I was on a call at the time but thankfully not one where I needed to have my camera on or participate.

Later this afternoon when he came home, he walked in again unexpectedly. I asked him if he would mind not just coming in to the office when I'm working as I had literally just finished a call speaking to someone in my team about wellbeing issues they're having; given that I'm a manager my work can be about sensitive confidential topics. My dad's response was, "don't you dare. I can go where I like in my own house". I pointed out that until I can get a flat, it is my house too as I don't have anywhere else to go. He then left without shutting the door properly behind him. I got up to close it.

About 15 minutes later he burst in again to get something from the office. I protested again and he said, "it's my house. I need to be able to come in and out when I want. All I can speak for is me and what I need". I suggested that we at least discuss and come to an agreement that considers what we both need, such as him knocking the door first to check if it's ok to come in. His response was, "oh wise up!" said with derision, as though I was being ridiculous. I asked where he suggested I go to work where I won't be disturbed and he said, "I don't know, that's your lookout and for you to work out".

He is now acting as though nothing has happened and that I'm the bad one for being annoyed with him. This is always the pattern when we have a disagreement and nothing gets resolved.

AIBU to expect not to be unexpectedly disturbed when working from home?

Excellent idea, I find threatening people always improves their behaviour!😆

The stroppy and entitledness came from her stating she 'was not best pleased' with him, while accepting his hospitality and using his home as her work environment.

He is being deliberate obstructive though isn't he?

I think you are overreacting. They're minor things, you might be the boss at work but you're not the boss of your dad!

He's popping in and being friendly, probably not up to speed with the whole wfh way of life now.

I think you're sounding a bit entitled. He's not being deliberately obstructive. Plus I wfh and there's allowances. People understand, as they too wfh with families.

Dad is very supportive of my daughter and proud of her work. He has always had a home office/study and suggested she use it rather than the bedroom. He would be horrified if she offered to pay !
But, at the age of 95, he just really doesn’t understand the wfh concept - not does he really understand the internet and how she can simultaneously be talking to people on Georgia and Vietnam.
Entitled and stroppy? Please!

I would add that if his interruptions put your job at risk, then your house hunting will go on for even longer.

I would have a conversation with him when he’s calm, and you’re calm.
Just say ‘oh dad about the other day’…. Tell him you respect it’s his house and you’re just the lodger, but you do need privacy while talking to clients on the phone…. You appreciate the office is a shared space but could you both agree to knocking and waiting before entering to give each other respect and privacy…
If he’s resistant to this reasonable request then he’s just being a pig