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Littlechesnuttree · 20/06/2024 18:27

I’ve cross posted because I’m desperate and I’ve literally no where to turn

So my husband of 7 years went on holiday and never came back (3 weeks ago, not dead just a shithead).

he’s left me with 2 young children. 4 and 2. I work full time. New role in probation strict 3 day in office rule.

im fucking drowning. I need to work to live. I need to be up at 6 to get breakfast before school and get ready for work myself. Im doing the bare min house wise meaning it’s all pilling up, like clean laundry etc. I tidy kitchen and kids tear apart lounge. I have no one, no village, no family (see other thread for dm situation). I’m not getting to bed before midnight most nights, I get back at 6 from work, get kids, reheat dinner, by the time they’ve tantrumed and then eaten it’s nearly 7. Then the bedtime routine, books, bath, tidying etc and then bed at 8/8:30

then I normally have to finish work I’ve not done in the day and then I need to properly clean up, sort food for the next day and before I know it it’s 11pm or later.

honestly I’m drowning

how do single mums handle it and work full time?

please if you’re a troll or love a pile on please don’t here, I feel so very fragile

OP posts:
jeaux90 · 20/06/2024 18:32

Talk us through current childcare situation etc and honestly they do not need a bath every night.

Littlechesnuttree · 20/06/2024 18:31

jeaux90 · 20/06/2024 18:29

OP are you on a decent wage? Lone parent for 15 years here.

Low £50ks so about 3k after tax and deductions but looks like im responsible for everything now

OP posts:
jeaux90 · 20/06/2024 18:29

OP are you on a decent wage? Lone parent for 15 years here.

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