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Toilet cubicle etiquette

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MaryBethMayfair · 20/06/2024 10:49

Female toilets in work. As per diagram.
AIBU that C is the 'correct' choice of cubicle, assuming all cubicles are empty upon entry?

I was just in cubicle C, and someone entered moments behind me, and went into B. I think that's madness and can't fathom why, out of the two remaining cubicles available, you'd opt to go into the one right next to someone. curious to know if others would have done the same.

I believe that statistically, A is apparently the cleanest cubicle, due to it being used least.

YABU: B is a good cubicle choice, I like to be in the middle of things.
YANBU: B is madness and should only be selected when A and C are otherwise engaged.

Toilet cubicle etiquette
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FuckTheClubUp · 21/06/2024 05:35

I believe that statistically, A is apparently the cleanest cubicle, due to it being used least.

Since when? Why would I past two (hopefully clean) cubicles and go to the one at the end? I’ll use the first one available. I’ll be honest, I’ve never considered leaving a gap between the toilet I’m in and the one the other person is in. Who cares

NeverEnoughPants · 21/06/2024 05:25

Fairysteps11 · 20/06/2024 15:01

I'd use A.

More shocked that people poo in public toilets!

Not everyone is like Sheldon Cooper - some of us can't plan our day around our bowel movements.

PiggieWig · 20/06/2024 21:35

Logically you’re right but there might have been a turd in toilet 2 (sounds like an aeroplane announcement)

EatTheGnome · 20/06/2024 21:25

BlankSpaceForBrains · 20/06/2024 14:51

I'm with you, OP. I like to leave a cubicle in between if I can. But I will opt for A, B or C randomly and have no preference.

A little off topic ( and lighthearted!!) but I've always wondered do men not hate having to use the urinals with guys right there with them?? The thought of someone else looking at my genitals while I'm trying to pee freaks me out so I don't know how men do it.

Also lighthearted...Men just love penises. Think they are toys. I blame them being taught to stand up and wee and the nicelty never quite wearing off.

I am blessed to have a husband that sits down to pee and I could never, ever go back!

Jifmicroliquid · 20/06/2024 19:51

Whichever one doesn’t have skid marks in the pan… or a low lying turd.

TwixOwl · 20/06/2024 19:37

I just go to the first toilet with loo roll!

TiddlyCove · 20/06/2024 19:07

You don't know that they hadn't been into A earlier in the day and found no loo roll or some mess in there, so were avoiding it in case it hadn't been serviced since.

Wednesdaysotherchild · 20/06/2024 19:04

Yes, you always leave a gap unless you have no choice! Yanbu.

youngestisapsycho · 20/06/2024 16:44

Fairysteps11 · 20/06/2024 15:01

I'd use A.

More shocked that people poo in public toilets!

I’d prefer not to… but if you’ve gotta go…

Fairysteps11 · 20/06/2024 15:01

I'd use A.

More shocked that people poo in public toilets!

BlankSpaceForBrains · 20/06/2024 14:51

I'm with you, OP. I like to leave a cubicle in between if I can. But I will opt for A, B or C randomly and have no preference.

A little off topic ( and lighthearted!!) but I've always wondered do men not hate having to use the urinals with guys right there with them?? The thought of someone else looking at my genitals while I'm trying to pee freaks me out so I don't know how men do it.

amusedbush · 20/06/2024 14:46

I'm shocked that so many people just choose a cubicle at random. Granted, I can't even pee in my own house if DH is within earshot, but wandering into a cubicle without giving it any thought is wild to me. I would 100% leave a gap.

However, I avoid multi-cubicle toilets wherever possible. I have more than one invisible disability and raging IBS, so I have a radar key for when I'm out and about. My work has 4 private disabled toilets on every floor of the building and I'm so grateful that in the two years I've worked here, I have never once had to use the communal facilities.

Toottooot · 20/06/2024 14:39

Achanceencounter · 20/06/2024 14:21

Is that you Martha?

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Compash · 20/06/2024 14:30

Cuppateatea · 20/06/2024 13:55

Get tae fuck

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Gonnae stop bammin' each other up?

Compash · 20/06/2024 14:27

I usually avoid the one closest to the door because I suspect more and lazier people will choose that one, so it'll be more likely to run out of paper - I excpect the further away ones to be less bummed upon. 🙂

saltinesandcoffeecups · 20/06/2024 14:25

I’m curious if A is still statistically cleaner after it was reported that it was. Like did everyone see that same news story and now it’s the most used?

I think a follow up study needs to done.

Achanceencounter · 20/06/2024 14:21

Toottooot · 20/06/2024 13:29

Wooptie fucking ping - somebody used the cubicle next to you - nae really worth greetin’ over is it.

Is that you Martha?

Alwaystired23 · 20/06/2024 14:21

I've literally never thought about it before now. I just got in the 1st clean one. I will probably ensure I leave a gap after this ......

User171 · 20/06/2024 14:17

Always leave as big a gap as possible.

Using the adjacent cubicle is like sitting on a bus seat already occupied by a passenger when there are plenty of empty double seats left.

CeasarS · 20/06/2024 14:13

If I thought about it at all I'd go to the one with an open door, to avoid possible broken lock embarrassment, but other than that the nearest.

I thought this was going to be about talking to the person in the next cubicle, which I'd agree is very poor etiquette!

BeachRide · 20/06/2024 14:08

Maybe there was no loo roll in A?

maddiemookins16mum · 20/06/2024 14:04

I’m going to sound bonkers but hear me out. One of my major school memories is being in a loo at school and Julie Fairclough and Lorraine Casey from 4th year went into the toilets on either side of me and peered over. I was 12 and mortified.

Until this day I always go (where possible) to a cubicle on the end if they aren’t floor to ceiling walls. In fact I go to the end one mostly regardless.

Cuppateatea · 20/06/2024 13:55

MaryBethMayfair · 20/06/2024 13:50

Gonnae no’ dae that
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More the merrier!

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Get tae fuck

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EatTheGnome · 20/06/2024 13:52

youngestisapsycho · 20/06/2024 13:42

Lol.. our office toilets have 2 cubicles and for some reason only one of them is ever used. There is always only one person in the toilets at a time... if someone is in there, we wait for them to leave before going in. It's just an unwritten rule 😂

Right!? My husband used to tell me about the Office Grunter, who used to make all sorts of pushing noises 😅 😱

EatTheGnome · 20/06/2024 13:50

You're right OP. Its like being on an empty bus or train and someone choosing to sit right next to you. Why would anyone choose bot to give and have more personal space?

It's bad enough having to take a shit at work with someone in there at the same time, never mind having them right next to you and then navigation the awkward sink moment 🙃