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6 year child - stranger talking about her penis

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hermenmumster · 20/06/2024 09:58

Trigger warning : sensitive topic around Gender Identity

I was at a work event (private garden - bring family along deal) and someone there is a transgender woman- she was tall, bearded ,hirsuite and wearing a dress and heels.
My daughter (6) was roaming around with the other kids and i think must have asked the lady why she was wearing a dress.
She explained that she ´was born a man with a willy , and is now a lady ’

Something jarred in me about a grown person talking about gentalia to a 6 year old child.
What does the mumsnet think?
AIBU to be annoyed?

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Italianita · 20/06/2024 10:15

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Allthegoodnamesarechosen · 20/06/2024 10:14

But this never happens…..

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LL1991 · 20/06/2024 10:13

Yeah, I’m sure your daughter would understand the difference between man and woman and thus just saying ‘I was born a man and now I’m a woman’ would have been enough. No need to mention willy. I’d hope it just came out and that afterwards they also realised it was unnecessary but you never can tell!

Alwaysthesun24 · 20/06/2024 10:09

It doesn't sound great - I wonder what your child asked to be given such an unnecessary response?

IncognitoUsername · 20/06/2024 10:07

Is the transgender person someone you work with?
Use of the word Willy was unnecessary imo

Fraaahnces · 20/06/2024 10:07

Ew…. Uncomfortable. I would avoid further work do’s with the kids.

Tagyoureit · 20/06/2024 10:05

Yeah, that wouldn't sit right with me either!
Regardless of the trans subject, an adult whose a stranger shouldn't be talking about his genitals to a child!

IAmAnAdultHumanFemale · 20/06/2024 10:03

What did you say to him?
What did you say to your daughter?