6 year child - stranger talking about her penis

According to Laurie Penny it's absolutely fine.

According to UK law, 'sexual communication' with a child under 16 is in certain circumstances illegal.

Exactly. Should I have told the 6 year old to fuck off who, the other day, asked if I was pregnant (I'm not....)?

Children ask questions. He should have stuck to 'I like wearing dresses'

This reminds me of the transwoman with a semi who went naked into a spa right next to a little girl and some posters claimed the little girl was 'rude' for looking at his penis.

Of course later it turned out that he was a convicted sex offender with a history of flashing.

Sadly some people just want to centre men and their feelings at all times, rather than actually think about safeguarding children.

You can tell a 6yr old it's rude if you like...they won't understand.
A little girl once asked my Dad if he was having a baby because he's overweight.

Why couldn't the person just say because I want to wear a dress?

Clothes don't make you a woman/lady..anyone can wear what they like in my view but if so set on being seen as a different gender then at least make the effort to shave.

If you don't, and basedon this conversation, I suspect you are doing it more for attention and shock value than because of any internal innate "gender"

Ladyritacircumference · Today 12:05

How rude of your daughter. Has she no manners?

Hmm, you sound like one half of The Modern Parents. Perhaps you should heed your own advice?

She's 6 years old, for fuck's sake! 6 year olds ask nosy questions all the time!

No matter how annoying a child is being, there is nothing which excuses an adult talking about their genitals to a child.

Is this for real? Ffs 🤦‍♀️

Way back before all the gender stuff hit the mainstream, I was in town with my friend's 8 year old daughter when we saw a man wearing a short skirt and heels.

My friend's daughter asked me, very loudly, "Is that a MAN or a WOMAN?"

I said, "A man dressed as a woman, shhh, don't shout, it's rude!"

I think if the same thing happened again now I would just say it was a man.

In your daughter's case it is complicated by the fact that she actually spoke to him.

I think I'd have said something like, "Some men like to wear dresses and call themselves women. They can wear whatever they like but they are still men and they shouldn't be talking to you about willies. If any man does talk to you about his willy, or tries to show you his willy, or makes you feel uncomfortable in any way, you come and tell me straight away and I will deal with it. OK?"

This.

I know this will be awkward, but if this is someone you now work with, I think you should consider either talking to him and telling him he made your daughter feel very uncomfortable by mentioning his genitalia, or reporting to someone higher up. He shouldn't be allowed to get away with such inappropriate behaviour.

How rude of your daughter. Has she no manners?

It is like when a child asks a person with a disability why they use a wheelchair, or what is ‘wrong’ with them.

Other people are not there to provide teachable moments for your child.

I suspect the trans woman’s reply was their way of telling your child to fuck off.

Absolutely not okay to reference his genitals in front of a child. Regardless of anything else.

Fucking weird.

i would not have taken a young child to an event where they were likely to run into such a person.
not a criticism OP, just an observation.
but then i am probably, must, be much older than you.
nothing you can do now, except explain to the child as you have.
maybe have to think ahead if poss in future.
all the best.

Lying to children is not okay. This is part of this ideology, normalising this to children. He should have just said he was a man who liked wearing a dress. That is what he will always be.

I would look beyond the transgender issues and stick to the fact that this adult should not be mentioning genitalia to an unknown 6 year old child.

I would tell the man this and then keep my child away from them.
I would then remind my child about the PANTS rules and how they apply to people talking to them as well as their own bodies.

I would emphasis to her firmly that if I grown up or anyone talks to her about their privates, that is inappropriate and she should tell you as soon as possible. She needs to understand that it is a potentially dangerous situation.

Absolutely. If she asked it as a genuine question, which it sounds like she did, the correct answer would be, "Because I like wearing dresses!" Pretty much all 6 year old would accept that and move on with their lives. No need to scold them, or mention genitalia!

Talking to unknown 6 year olds about your genitals is totally wrong. If it was a man presenting as a man people would be concerned. But if it's a transwoman then it's "inclusive" and educational. Yuck.