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polaroppositewife · 20/06/2024 09:34

Just looking for some opinions on if this would annoy anyone else or I am just moody.

I am lucky enough to have a spare/ guest room and additional bedroom that we class as a dressing room where perfume/make up etc is.
My in laws stopped over last week and when MIL came down stairs I smelt perfume I commented that she smelt nice and she just thanked me. However I now realise she had been in dressing room and used my perfume. This in its self isn’t an issue they can use what they want.

However it’s annoyed me that she didn’t ask and why not just say “oh I tried some of yours “ when I commented.

I am likely moody and sensitive but just wanted other options just think it’s quite rude.

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andfinallyhereweare · 25/06/2024 22:42

Just had a thought my sis in law would do this but she’s my best mate and she’d tell me and I wouldn’t care…

Staringatthewalljustmeagain · 25/06/2024 22:41

AnnaCBi · 25/06/2024 21:43

I mean I always have a squirt of fancy serums or the like when staying friends. My MIL keeps hers in an en-suite on a guest bedroom… it’s not the room we use but I always go and have a nosy. I assume people do the same at my house! One friend asked if she could borrow my moisturiser and I said of course, she used my expensive face cream on her legs …
but that’s kind of what happens with guests!

Well, you’re never coming to my house. Jesus fucking Christ. And neither’s your mate.

Staringatthewalljustmeagain · 25/06/2024 22:40

SallyWD · 20/06/2024 09:48

I wouldn't be annoyed about this.

I’d be fucking livid.

godmum56 · 25/06/2024 22:33

AnnaCBi · 25/06/2024 21:43

I mean I always have a squirt of fancy serums or the like when staying friends. My MIL keeps hers in an en-suite on a guest bedroom… it’s not the room we use but I always go and have a nosy. I assume people do the same at my house! One friend asked if she could borrow my moisturiser and I said of course, she used my expensive face cream on her legs …
but that’s kind of what happens with guests!

Not in my house it doesn't! And I wouldn't do it staying with other people either.

andfinallyhereweare · 25/06/2024 22:25

Are you sure she doesn’t just have the same purfume as you?

Bo1978 · 25/06/2024 22:19

If a friend had gone upstairs to use the bathroom on a visit, I would think that invasive and rude, but I wouldn’t care less if my MIL who was staying as a guest in the house did this, and I am quite a private person!

GoneFishingToday · 25/06/2024 21:51

I agree that it was really rude to go into your dressing room, and use your perfume without asking OP. I'd definitely not be happy if someone did that in my house. On the other hand, if they said something along the lines of 'I just walked past your dressing room, and noticed you've got a perfume that I'd love to try ....', I would immediately say 'go and help yourself'. It's not the perfume that's the issue, it's the taking without asking, that would annoy me. At the end of the day, it's just good manners to ask.

AnnaCBi · 25/06/2024 21:43

I mean I always have a squirt of fancy serums or the like when staying friends. My MIL keeps hers in an en-suite on a guest bedroom… it’s not the room we use but I always go and have a nosy. I assume people do the same at my house! One friend asked if she could borrow my moisturiser and I said of course, she used my expensive face cream on her legs …
but that’s kind of what happens with guests!

Newmum288 · 25/06/2024 21:29

I really don’t think this is that big of a deal…

MsCactus · 25/06/2024 20:15

No. This is very rude

Emmz1510 · 25/06/2024 19:17

I wouldn’t expect a guest to help themselves to my perfume, no. If they asked I’d say yes I’m guessing most people would be the same over a squirt of perfume! Seems a weird thing to do. And yes cheeky not to even mention when you’ve remarked it smells nice.

Bibbiddiebopbiddiedooyeah · 25/06/2024 18:44

Perhaps she has the same perfume?

Daffodildilys · 20/06/2024 11:04

She’s very cheeky to go into a separate room and nosy about.

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polaroppositewife · 20/06/2024 09:54

keylimedog · 20/06/2024 09:49

That's quite rude of her! I don't think anything in a guest room that's clearly used as a dressing room is fair game, especially if you commented on her smelling nice, she had ample opportunity to say she'd tried a bit of one of yours. In her situation I'd have asked to smell a scent, not just spritzed myself in someone else's perfume.

Is the room they stay in separate to the dressing room? Just trying to figure out from the way you phrased it, if she was in a separate guest room and went into your dressing room on purpose to use a perfume without asking or not.

Sorry my message wasn’t clear.
Yes she has had to go in to a separate room to use the perfume, it’s not in the one she was staying in.

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keylimedog · 20/06/2024 09:49

That's quite rude of her! I don't think anything in a guest room that's clearly used as a dressing room is fair game, especially if you commented on her smelling nice, she had ample opportunity to say she'd tried a bit of one of yours. In her situation I'd have asked to smell a scent, not just spritzed myself in someone else's perfume.

Is the room they stay in separate to the dressing room? Just trying to figure out from the way you phrased it, if she was in a separate guest room and went into your dressing room on purpose to use a perfume without asking or not.

SallyWD · 20/06/2024 09:48

I wouldn't be annoyed about this.

JollyGreenSnake · 20/06/2024 09:41

I think I can see both sides of this one. Anything we put out in our guest room, our guests are welcome to use. I think there probably wasn't a conversation about whether or not the perfumes were "guest amenities". But as her scent came up in conversation, it would have been polite of her to acknowledge it.