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Stalker house buyers

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Lozgal24 · 19/06/2024 21:49

Slightly exaggerated title šŸ˜‚

We are selling our house and the family buying it are buying their first house in the UK. Iā€™m starting to feel a little irritated as on an average evening they walk past our house and look I the windows approximately 5-6 times. Itā€™s really invasive. They donā€™t come right up to the windows but the street is only 1-2 m from the windows and they do a really slow walk past. It drives our dog nuts who barks repeatedly as they are close and essentially staring in the living room and squinting past the gauze blind. They sometimes wave- probably twice a night. This happens 5 ish nights a week. They are not en route to anywhere. We have another two months till completion.

They have four kids, they also walk past approx 2-3 time an eve between 7-10, separate to their parents and slow walk past. They openly stare. They are from a different culture so Iā€™m not sure of this is the norm where they are from? It seems odd by anyones standards.

AIBU to think this in invasive? Just ask to view it again? Weā€™ve offered but itā€™s getting silly now.

Would you say something and risk sale or just deal with it?

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Poddledoddle · 25/06/2024 00:18

Lozgal24 · 19/06/2024 21:49

Slightly exaggerated title šŸ˜‚

We are selling our house and the family buying it are buying their first house in the UK. Iā€™m starting to feel a little irritated as on an average evening they walk past our house and look I the windows approximately 5-6 times. Itā€™s really invasive. They donā€™t come right up to the windows but the street is only 1-2 m from the windows and they do a really slow walk past. It drives our dog nuts who barks repeatedly as they are close and essentially staring in the living room and squinting past the gauze blind. They sometimes wave- probably twice a night. This happens 5 ish nights a week. They are not en route to anywhere. We have another two months till completion.

They have four kids, they also walk past approx 2-3 time an eve between 7-10, separate to their parents and slow walk past. They openly stare. They are from a different culture so Iā€™m not sure of this is the norm where they are from? It seems odd by anyones standards.

AIBU to think this in invasive? Just ask to view it again? Weā€™ve offered but itā€™s getting silly now.

Would you say something and risk sale or just deal with it?

I've been told I fly off the handle. But on this one I dont even care, I'd just cancel the sale.

spicysamosahotcupoftea · 19/06/2024 22:21

I'd ask your estate agent to have a polite word.

It's fine them being from another culture and not being aware, though this doesn't mean they can't be made aware, if that makes sense

If that doesn't work, close the curtains / blinds every time they stop and stare, hopefully they'll get the message

DuckPancake · 19/06/2024 22:19

Stick some mirrored screening on your windows, maybe they'll get the hint. Pretty cheap on Amazon and can be removed.

PeonySeasons · 19/06/2024 22:18

Put up reflective window film so they can't see in.

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Lozgal24 · 19/06/2024 22:17

They live around the corner- maybe two short roads away we live in a really quiet and peaceful area and to be honest, they seem to chase the most noise/ kerfuffle by them walking past together and talking! doesnā€™t bother me, Iā€™m not precious about them talking loudly or whatever but I do like my privacy.

Weve stopped to chat to them every weekend since we sold but itā€™s getting bit much now. We donā€™t want more friends grom
an area weā€™re moving out of but they seem to want hand holding. Weā€™ve had to explain. British system to them several times as theyā€™re solicitors are pants. They thought they moved in on exchange date! Asked us why we werenā€™t fully packed up! We had to help them understand not to cancel their rental or them and their kids would have been homeless! All sorted now but I do feel for them, it must be daunting. That said, I still want my privacy back!

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WhereToStartAgain · 19/06/2024 22:01

I donā€™t knowā€¦ Iā€™ve often seen advice to visit a potential house at all times to check for potential awful neighbours (loud music etc). At least theyā€™re being friendly and youā€™re leaving soā€¦

Itiswhysofew · 19/06/2024 22:00

They're obviously excited, but yes, it is odd behaviour. How close do they live to you?

Hope your/their neighbours don't end up having to suffer potential weirdos.
Pop out and ask if they've got any questions they'd like to ask, as you're getting a bit concerned.

Gakpo · 19/06/2024 21:54

Absolutely not the norm and profoundly weird. Iā€™d be tempted to give them a two fingered salute every evening but I suppose you donā€™t want to scupper the sale.