To think friend should have reminded me?

Why didnt you set a reminder in your phone? Written it on a calendar? Notice board?
Wow, I'd be utterly mortified if I somehow forgot to pay. Or if I couldn't afford it, go ahead and agree for my friend to buy the ticket.

You cant afford to pay it now, couldn't at the time. Seriously though, did you perhaps hope your friend would waiver the fee and take you anyway.

If you agreed to attend the event (despite the fact you forgot about it), you need to pay her back as she wouldn't have bought you a ticket if you'd said no.

You clearly set an expectation that you knew you owed the money, as you said you said you had to wait for payday.

If I was your friend I'd be pissed off too.

You're in the wrong, very much so. Please do better with others moving forward.

Some people just don't like asking for money back.

She expected OP to pay and didn't believe that someone who couldn't afford tickets before payday would forget they owe £200 out of their wages.

That's probably why she's cut her dead, she doesn't want a friend who would behave like this.

I'm very fair on AIBU but I just don't believe that someone forgot to pay £200 back to a friend.

Did you not go to the concert? I think it’s easy to forget about the payment. I only just today asked a friend if I paid her just over £100 for tickets she bought months ago bevayy it we I could remember and these days it can be hard to locate and identify payments to things. I would have had to search through many months.

Or more likely, the friend came to realise the OP was a user and she was never going to be paid back and chose to avoid conflict. Many people hate conflict and will avoid it, even at great cost to themselves.

So is this an accurate summary?

You're a non-commital friend who doesn't make an effort. Your friend pays £400 for tickets to a gig that you've agreed to pay then conveniently forgot for months (yeah right).

Now you still can't afford it. What exactly did you think she'd do to get that money back, or is it ok for her to pay £400 for a night out but you pay £0 and then she's forced to go on her own.

You're a crap friend, I hope you learn from this.

have you paid her back yet?

who needs enemies with friends like you

So when she mentioned the summer gig that you were attending with others, that didn’t jog your memory about the other one and money owed?

You should be really ashamed of yourself OP! If you agreed to go in the first place, you must have either had the money at the time, or planned to save up for it. Why when your friend invited you round, and you weren't available at that time, didn't you suggest another date, or call her when you were free to get together?

You're basically a rubbish friend, and a flake! Pay her the money you owe her, even if it's only £10 a week. Disgraceful behaviour, and I hope she makes anyone else you know aware of it.

You sound like a pretty crap friend. shes had enough of having a crap friend. She didn’t remind you as a test, you failed the test.
shes out of pocket and the friendship is over.

You’re a terrible friend. You can’t afford to give her £200? So why did you agree to her buying the tickets?
pay her back £20 a month until it’s paid at least. Don’t be that person.

Every phone has a calendar with reminders. You have to pay the money back that you owe her.

You owe her the money. Why would you not pay her? It’s not her fault you ‘forgot’ you owed her £200.

Yes it was shitty to forget to pay her, and to forget the gig. It shows she is low importance to you.

But why didn't she say anything? Not even once? Of course she didn't have to but she literally cut her nose off to spite her face. It's like it was a test. If you cared you remember.

You need to pay, even if in installments. Everyone can forget, but once you realised what had happened, you should have apologised profusely and immediately started paying back, even if it takes a year.

You're trying to blame her for your mistake, you should take responsibility and try to make this right.

Please do the right thing, pay back what you owe her!

Yes, I think the friend was hurt by OP not inviting her to come to the Feb event with her friends or suggesting an alternative date for the April dinner, so she decided OP didn't deserve to go to the gig.

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Fifteen years of friendship down the drain, however you agreed to go the concert. If you had remembered the concert, you would have found the money to pay her. So I think you should still pay it or you may find you have even less friends when your friend tells others that you cannot be trusted to pay for things.

I sort of give OP the benefit of the doubt and believe she forgot, especially as her contact with her friend was sporadic.

I think it's possible OP even wanted to forget.

I'm extremely generous with my family and sometimes promise them things that I then forget to give them. My family know me well enough to remind me, because they know all I need is a reminder and I'll sort it and I do remember 95% of the time.

However, OP's behaviour on the whole is not good. As soon as she remembered she should have been on the phone to her friend to apologise and reimburse her as a priority. And not inviting her friend to come to the event with her or suggesting another date for dinner was the icing on the cake.

If a friend of mine was coming to a concert with me, I would remind her and say I still had the tickets and how much it cost. In this instance it could be the friend went with someone else and maybe feels bad that she did not go with you and this is why she is avoiding you.

You are so very unreasonable OP and not just that but also entitled and cheeky. I can’t believe that you’ve actually started a thread about her ‘failure’ to ‘remind’ you when there is a much bigger issue at play. How absolutely horrible. You owe your friend £200, no excuses, and irrespective of whether the friendship is rightly in tatters. You can’t treat people like this. Cough up!

Exactly seems as if she got her to pay then fk off.

You owe her £200. She bought you a ticket which you haven't paid for,, do the right thing and pay her.

So you think it is OK for the OP to fail to pay her friend back, @Crazycrazylady? Maybe the friend has been left seriously short of cash by @abrabhf or maybe she hasn’t - either way, morally, she is owed £200, and @abrabhf has no excuse not to pay her, even if she has to do it in instalments.

I think it is wrong to decide that the friend is at fault, and clearly doesn’t need the money - you have no way of knowing this.