To think friend should have reminded me?

YOu need to find a way to pay her back. It's awful that you haven't.

Sell some of your things if you have to. But get the money to her.

It's not her responsibility to fund you in life and you're acting like it is with your cavalier ' I can't afford to pay her'.

You need to bloody figure it out!

Did you actually forget or did you just not get in touch with this friend because you knew you needed to pay her for the ticket you agreed that she would purchase on your behalf ? Then feign forgetfulness when you knew the concert was over? Either way, you owe your friend the £200.

You’re wrong. You need to pay

Actually I agree - I think it would be normal to have reminded you about the £200 and asked if you were going to the gig. I forget stuff all the time and would just assume my friend had forgotten and needed a reminder, rather than going all pass agg about it.

OP you sound like a terrible friend. Id be ditching the friendship too. She did you a favour by paying for a ticket that you couldnt afford at the time, you should have paid her back with December's payday, at the very latest January's. Even when you owed her money she still invites you out both in February & April, both of which you couldnt do, you could've invited her to the festival and also rearranged on the second occasion. When you spoke to her it shouldve been the first thing to cross your mind, oh shit I owe her £200. It sounds more like youve completely avoided meeting up with her, shes realised shes not going to get the money back, so she's backed away from the friendship. You knew all along that you couldn't afford that ticket and were hoping she would forget about it. Terrible friend, but also terrible person. This wasn't an accident.

I've seen this said a lot on here... what does it mean please?

Oh my god she’s trying to get out of paying it back.

you are awful. Absolutely awful.

The absolute bloody cheek…£200 sounds like a fair price to be rid of you as a friend. You couldn’t afford to go why accept? You didn’t forget to pay, you chose not to pay. Nothing stopping you paying them back in instalments. If you had any character at all that is what you would be doing, regardless of whether the friendship is salvageable or not.

How do you forget you owe someone £200? You are not only being unreasonable but ridiculous, your ex friend is not your mother.

From what little information you’ve given it look likes you are not a good friend and that’s why you didn’t get reminded (also as an adult you shouldn’t have needed reminding)

she has reached out several times to invite you to things all of which you have refused (even though one of the examples you were already going so could have asked her along if other friends were ok with that) or accepted then not given the money for and then forgot about.
You did seem interested in either seeing her or offering any alternatives to things when you couldn’t make an event she invited you too

it Sounds like this friend has just given up trying with you?

im not saying it’s on purpose but from what little I’ve read I wouldn’t be massively happy in keeping going a friendship with you either. Of course there may be good reasons of course but none of those are mentioned here so I can’t comment

You are a thief.

Send her the £200 and apologise profusely!

You're a shit friend too then?

Doubt @abrabhf is coming back...

She obviously took someone else. Don’t get in touch. Until she does: then play dumb ha ha

So have you paid your friend yet, @abrabhf? Paid at least part of what you owe her? Offered a payment plan? Grown a conscience?

If you can't afford the £200 you shouldn't have let her buy your ticket! No wonder she's binned you

Pay the money!

If you can’t afford it all at once, pay £20 a month. Set a standing order so it goes straight out if your bank account.

So your friend has invited you to three things - the gig, the event, and dinner - you’ve not been to any. And you wonder why she’s dropped you?

if a friend had invited me to these things my responses would have been:

gig: yes please, can I pay you on pay day? (And paid, and attended because it was in my calendar)
event: I’m already going with sue and chris - would you like to join us?
dinner: damn I can’t make that, how about next week?

I think your friend is well rid of you tbh.

Your fault for forgetting, it wasn’t on her to remind you to pay her the £200 or even remember about the gig full stop…

So she was the one always ready to meet. But you weren't?
I think she thinks your a shit friend, who hasn't contacted her, and she probably didn't text you as a test to see if you put in as much effort as she does.
And it looks like you didn't.
If you think of her as a close friend, and if you still want the friendship, you've got some damage control to do and put some effect in the friendship.
Also do u have adhd? Because it would explain a lot (if you see her as an important friend)

This, and I don't think you can call yourself a friend..

The one shining and delightful thing about this thread is the absolute ratio you’ve been handed, @abrabhf.
PAY THE GIRL HER £200.
And be a better person in the future, which should be relatively simple.

To have a friend, be a friend.

WTF? I'd never speak to you again either. You didn't pay the £200? And the concert had been and gone?

Obviously you need to pay her the £200 and it's up to you to remember, but it's odd that there were no messages before the gig ie where/when are we meeting to go see the band which would've reminded you. If I were her I'd have mentioned it rather than just saying absolutely nothing and letting it go by.

You do need to make finding the £200 a priority though to reimburse her.

Come to think of it, id be deeply saddened if my daughter, out of the goodness of her heart, paid for a ticket upfront for a friend and then got screwed over and went to the gig all alone. Horrible.