To think friend should have reminded me?

Well I assume she went and took someone else or sold the ticket.

So you don't owe her anything. Else she'd not ignore your texts.

@abrabhf

I'm confused (it doesn't take much these days), but you decided to go to a concert with your friend. She agreed to front the tickets & you could repay her after payday.

if you were prepared to pay £200 for a ticket, how could you forget about the concert?

How do you manage to not have paying her at the front of your mind? I wish I could be so 'chill' about these things.

then not see her for ages... it's so 'not my life'...

but as you've sent her messages & she's not replying, I'd assume she no longer wanted to be friends & had probably sold the ticket or treated someone to the concert. It seems so weird to me that NEITHER of you discussed the concert, travel arrangements etc.

id put it behind me if she doesn't get in touch.

Yoy should have paid, but friend could have easily messaged to remind you.

Can’t quite believe you forgot a gig costing £200. Even though you didn’t go, you still owe her the money.

Did you go to the gig?

Assuming you didn't, then the friend bought 2 tickets to a gig and presumably went with someone else. You didn't pay for a ticket so you haven't lost out.

If you did go and you haven't paid the £200 yet then what are you waiting for? Do you not have friend's bank details?

The way this works is, one person pays for another person. You agree to a date, check calendar and write down the date so you can remember then you pay them back immediately. If its a wait til payday thing you do it then. Set an alarm "pay so and so".

There is no excuse for being so flakey.

I'm not sure why you feel hard done to.

She paid for the ticket, all you missed out on was going to the gig, but financially you're not out of pocket.

As for being reminded, no, it's not her job to mother you, if you forgot to pay and forgot to go to the gig or contacted her, you can hardly expect her to be chasing around after you.

Yep, I have read it that OP's friend went to the gig anyway, and lost out on the £200 that OP owed her... and has now blocked OP as they seem oblivious as to what they have done wrong.

Really weird, if she had the tickets and was going with you, yes it's very strange that she didn't remind you or contact you to arrange where to meet etc. I wouldn't be in a rush to give her money if she didn't do this and is also ignoring you

You didn’t forget though you may have hoped she’d forget you owed her hundreds of £££. You didn’t pay for it so it wasn’t your ticket and she’s given it to someone else.

You didn't pay her back, the ticket was hers. I'd imagine she found someone else to go with. Maybe as you hadn't spoken for months she didn't want to remind you as it would be awkward to go together.
You shouldn't need reminding that you owe someone a lot of money for a ticket. You put it in your diary and make it a priority.

OP did you forget to pay her, or forget to go to the gig, or both?

If you went to the gig and just didn’t pay her back, that is bad. If you weren’t sure when the gig was and you’ve just found out it was last week and she didn’t contact you to say “when are we meeting?” or anything, yep I do agree that’s pretty rubbish. It isn’t her job to remember for you, but it’s weird of her to never even mention it.

Did she give you the ticket? If so, did you go?

I thought it had to be a reverse until you said this.

You are SO unreasonable. Pay her back the money and give her a sincere apology. I hope she managed to sell your ticket (and no, you don't deserve that money).

So she bought tickets for you out of her own money. Not only have you not made the effort to remember to pay her, you have also not made the effort to speak to her.

To be fair, if I was your friend I would have made a point of reminding you, or contacting you with the intention of jogging your memory in a roundabout way. But regardless of what I might have done, the onus was on you to pay her back.

I assume she has either sold the ticket to someone else or gone on her own and lost a lot of money.

Either way, it was badly handled on your part.

Not sure if I would be interested in continuing a friendship under these circumstances. I suggest you buy a nice card, do a handwritten apology and push it through her letterbox.

How can you forget you owe some £200
in just a few weeks?

That's a massive assumption on your part.

OP is an adult. She shouldn't need reminding that she owes her friend a large chunk of money.

One of my biggest bug bears is when adults say “remind me”. I’m not a PA or Alexa to be set for reminders. No-one I know would forget to pay for concert tickets and £200 quid is a lot of money. Your friend probably took someone else who paid for the ticket and could remember the date.

Arent people misunderstanding? OP didnt go to gig and wasnt reminded. Sounds like friend found someone else to go, so no harm done.

Yab(totally)U - suggest you transfer the money now and apologise profusely.

YABU.

£200 is a lot of money. She was generous enough to let you wait until payday. It was up to you to remember which I don’t know how you didn’t. I hate the feeling of knowing I owe money and I make sure to communicate reminders that I’ll get it to them and haven’t forgotten etc.

Forgetting is a joke. She had every right to be pissed off, so awkward and uncomfortable having to chase someone for money owed. You put her in a horrible position .

If I was due to go to a gig that cost £200 a ticket, I would have the date tattooed inside of my eyelids.

It was up to you to remember.

You forgot you owed someone TWO HUNDRED QUID?

You knew she was buying the ticket and you’re an adult, not a child. Totally on you to remember to pay. I live a hugely busy life and I cannot imagine forgetting that I owe a friend £200. That’s awful. It makes me wonder (somewhat enviously) how many fun and pricey events you must be planning all the time if you can forget about a gig this expensive!