To think friend should have reminded me?

Who was the artist?

Maybe you need to spell it out properly.

Why did your friend not send you the ticket? Was it because you had not paid? If so, then that is perfectly understandable.

You’re an adult. If you agree to go to something, you put it in your calendar. If a friend agrees to pay for now, you don’t forget to pay her back.

I would find it hard to believe you forgot and would be more likely to think you were avoiding me as you’d changed your mind and didn’t want to pay.

I hope you have sent your friend the money and a big apology!

I bought tickets once for me, DH and a friend. We ALL forgot about it, which was a big shame as we liked the band. I can’t remember the cost but friend did offer to pay. I refused as it was such an overall cockup, it didn’t seem worth it to bring in awkwardness.

If I was due someone £200 it would be on my mind day and night until I paid it back.

She was probably, understandably, pissed off because you were supposed to pay her on payday, and didn't. I wouldn't be chasing you up either if I could sell the ticket on.

This - Why didn't you write it down if you couldn't remember??

Its also weird that she didn't text you reminding you of the gig.

Maybe she decided to take someone else and has been avoiding you

Sorry but I'm not buying the whole forgot about the gig 🙄
At £200 per ticket I'm guessing a pretty big artist-TS, Pink? You didn't put the date in your diary/on calendar on your phone? And there was no mention anywhere about the tour prior to the date your tickets were for?? Nah
Anyways, she's your friend -not your Mum, grow up and be more organised. You owe your friend an apology.

I'd message her and say that you were sorry that you had forgotten about it and ask if she found someone else to buy the ticket.

Get to the point. Are you going to pay her back or not?

I think you've both been weird in this situation. You should have put the gig in your diary and been in contact with your friend and I'm amazed that owing her the money for the ticket didn't cross your mind at all between December and now, but also I think she's been really odd to not get in contact with you and say hey where's my money and to make arrangements to go to the gig with you. I agree that I think she sold the ticket on and that there are other reasons for her not wanting to be friends with you outside of this.

You said that she never sent you the ticket... and why would she if you had not paid for it?

This thread just smacks of you not wanting to pay for the ticket because you didn't go... even if your friend was £200 out of pocket as a result.

Absolutely pathetic excuses OP - you should have noted to pay her immediately when you got paid (although I find it very difficult to believe you forgot). No doubt you have a phone with diary and reminder features so there is absolutely no excuse.

Was it Taylor Swift? She'll have been able to sell the other ticket (not your ticket. It's not yours because you never paid for it) about a hundred times over.

I don't understand how you want to see an act so much that you're willing to pay (although you didn't) £200 to see them.....and then you forgot

Agree with pp. Shes not your mum. It's not her job to remind you.

Jeez maybe you’d have remembered if you were 200 quid out of pocket over it.

no wonder she’s not talking to you.

she’s not your PA. I bet you’re not planning to pay her back either. Gig tickets paid for upfront by friends don’t come with personalised reminder services

Well she wouldn't send you the ticket if you owed her the money, that would be foolish.
You owe her an apology, but sounds like that ship has sailed. It's incredibly easy to make a note that you owe someone money and put a date in the diary or set a phone reminder. If I was her, I'd have thought you were ducking out and didn't want to go.

And when she invited yu to dinner you didn't say "I can't make that day how about X date?"

Do you ever initiate contact? What do yu give to the relationship?

Yabu. She is your friend not a parent. In your friends position I'd be uncomfortable at having to chase, but equally irritated at a friend taking advantage accidental or otherwise.

if you had to wait until you were paid before you were meant to pay your friend, I'm struggling to see how you managed to overlook having an extra £200.

If it were me, I would write a lovely apologetic card to my friend and withdraw £200 cash and post it through her letterbox.

I fail to see how someone can forget owing someone such a large sum of money!

You can’t afford £200 for a gig, but I expect you could afford £2 for a diary.

Let me get this straight:

Your friend bought you a £200 ticket for a gig. You forgot about the gig and so didn't go or pay your friend back?

But equally your friend didn't get in touch with you to organise arrangements for going to the gig together?

Why would she send you the ticket if you have not paid?

I really hope you manage to get in touch and pay her back.

I think it's odd your friend didn't message you to say something like hey, really looking forward to seeing x - what time shall we meet?

Which I presume would have then prompted you to 1) pay her and 2) attend the gig.

Yes you should have remembered to pay on payday but most friends could surely message and remind you... I think her ghosting you is a bizarre reaction.