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abrabhf · 2024-06-19T20:45:37+00:00

Friend paid for hers and my ticket to see a recent gig, cost £200 each. These were bought months ago and I forgot about it, we also have barely spoken since purchase. I never paid her back and now the gig has been and gone and she’s ignored my texts and calls.

Carock · 19/06/2024 23:42

do you even have a friendship between you? It seems madness that two friends haven’t been in contact, or at the very least organising to go to this said gig?

it sounds to me you were ghosted for some reason OP, and the ticket went to someone else

bows101 · 19/06/2024 23:40

It's odd she didn't speak to you before the gig to make plans and arrangements?
Maybe she thought you weren't so keen on going anyway if you hadn't paid and seemed to have forgot. I'd be pissed off I brought tickets then someone just forgot everything about it!

Aquamarine1029 · 19/06/2024 23:37

abrabhf · 19/06/2024 22:35

Well yes I presume that’s the reason she didn’t send it. I also have no issue with her not sending it.

You’re going on about a random point that’s irrelevant. Odd.

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You're going on that you "forgot" you owed someone £200. Now that's odd. You didn't forget btw, so nice try. No one forgets that.

saraclara · 19/06/2024 23:35

Apparently the majority of people on this thread can afford to lose £200, to the point that it's not even worth them spending 30 seconds sending a reminder text to a friend who's clearly forgotten to send the money.

Lucky them. I've never been in that position.

Jeannie88 · 19/06/2024 23:34

I manage to keep my own calendar and immediately note anything I'm doing. Otherwise how can one keep track of life? Xx

CountryMumof4 · 19/06/2024 23:33

Just send her the money, apologise profusely and try to salvage your friendship. Job done. Loads of people feel awkward asking for money they're owed. Your friend seems like one of them. Yes, you didn't go, but it's the principle of it. And if you value your friendship more than £200 you forgot about, surely it's a no brainer?

RedYellowPinkGreenPurpleOrangeBlue · 19/06/2024 23:33

@abrabhf

How on EARTH could you have 'forgotten' to pay your friend £200 back FGS?! Yeah she could have asked, but you SHOULD have offered it to her.

Good grief!

BoudiccaOfSuburbia · 19/06/2024 23:32

SofaSpuds · 19/06/2024 23:09

The only thing you need to do right now @abrabhf is message your friend and say "so sorry I forget about the concert, did you find someone to buy my ticket? If not I'll transfer the money to you right now, don't want you out of pocket! Hope you had a good night"

This.

But I suspect that after you contacted her in April, didn’t mention the £200 you owed and declined her invitation without suggesting an alternative, she sold your ticket, hopefully at a huge profit, and has washed her hands of you.

GracieLee · 19/06/2024 23:30

As much as I always pay for everything immediately and never owe anyone anything, I think all the perfect people in these replies are just being a bit weird! People can forget things ffs! It's strange she never sent you a reminder, its strange she went alone without checking. Seems like you were never really good enough friends for her to have done that. If this had have happened with any of my friends I'd assume they'd forgot because they'd never take the piss out of me and intentionally not pay me. People are so weird on MN.

SofaSpuds · 19/06/2024 23:27

saraclara · 19/06/2024 23:16

The friend must have loads of money if she didn't feel the need to remind OP.

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Going by the number of threads that appear on MN about people who can't / won't ask for money they're owed I'm not surprised the friend didn't remind OP, even if her kids were starving.
I am glad the friend went without OP, as usually the person goes to the concert but still doesn't repay what they owe.

NightsWithYou · 19/06/2024 23:25

saraclara · 19/06/2024 23:16

The friend must have loads of money if she didn't feel the need to remind OP.

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Maybe, maybd not. I think some people would feel uncomfortable asking, especially if they thought the person was avoiding them anyway to get out of paying, which this does look like.

Somd people really struggle with being direct on things like this, they feel awkward. People who try to get out of things rely on that to get away with it.

XenoBitch · 19/06/2024 23:22

saraclara · 19/06/2024 23:16

The friend must have loads of money if she didn't feel the need to remind OP.

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Why should she remind OP? Why can't OP set her own reminder and pay the £200 back?

saraclara · 19/06/2024 23:16

Evilspiritgin · 19/06/2024 22:59

you're rather a flakey friend aren't you?, you must have loads of money if you forget owing £200, that's completely cheeky fuckery behaviour

I would imagine she realised what a crap person you were when you didn't pay her back in December , I definitely wouldn't be reminding you, then come April she invited you to dinner and you blow her off

The friend must have loads of money if she didn't feel the need to remind OP.

saraclara · 19/06/2024 23:15

This thread is odd. If I was the friend I wouldn't see it as being OP's PA. I'd see it as needing the money so I'd message saying 'can you transfer the gig money please?'. Wouldn't anyone? Unless you're stinking rich?

ChrisPPancake · 19/06/2024 23:10

SofaSpuds · 19/06/2024 23:09

The only thing you need to do right now @abrabhf is message your friend and say "so sorry I forget about the concert, did you find someone to buy my ticket? If not I'll transfer the money to you right now, don't want you out of pocket! Hope you had a good night"

Agree.

SofaSpuds · 19/06/2024 23:09

The only thing you need to do right now @abrabhf is message your friend and say "so sorry I forget about the concert, did you find someone to buy my ticket? If not I'll transfer the money to you right now, don't want you out of pocket! Hope you had a good night"

boobleblingo · 19/06/2024 23:08

I suspect you declining dinner but not suggesting an alternative date in April was the last straw for her, and she decided not to bother with you anymore

earlymorningcurlewcall · 19/06/2024 23:05

You should have remembered but equally she could have reminded you.

Now both of you are in the wrong 🤷‍♀️

FiveShelties · 19/06/2024 23:02

This must be a reverse.

Evilspiritgin · 19/06/2024 22:59

you're rather a flakey friend aren't you?, you must have loads of money if you forget owing £200, that's completely cheeky fuckery behaviour

I would imagine she realised what a crap person you were when you didn't pay her back in December , I definitely wouldn't be reminding you, then come April she invited you to dinner and you blow her off

ThunderQween · 19/06/2024 22:41

If it was girls aloud you missed out big time

Gracelet · 19/06/2024 22:36

Do you have her bank details to pay her back?

WetBandits · 19/06/2024 22:35

Awful behaviour on your part. I’m assuming you have posted this thread from a smartphone or computer, in which case you have access to technology that allows you to set reminders for things, such as paying a friend the £200 you owe them.

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abrabhf · 19/06/2024 22:35

XenoBitch · 19/06/2024 22:31

Maybe you need to spell it out properly.

Why did your friend not send you the ticket? Was it because you had not paid? If so, then that is perfectly understandable.

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Well yes I presume that’s the reason she didn’t send it. I also have no issue with her not sending it.

You’re going on about a random point that’s irrelevant. Odd.

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ConsuelaHammock · 19/06/2024 22:33

Ps you’re as bad as each other.