To think friend should have reminded me?

I wouldn't want to be your friend. You sound hard work and lazy.

In fairness you sound like a really crap friend to her. Yet still she has made an effort with you and you haven't reciprocated. Instead you were busy with other friends and couldn't go for dinner. She's clearly not a priority. She is presumably still out of pocket by £200. You at the least owe her that and flowers. If you can't afford it, stop having nights out with your other friends, sell stuff on ebay, find a way to get the money and invite her around for dinner at yours. Personally i would have dropped you too.

How can you forget to pay her on payday? If you’re that forgetful set reminder on your phone. It should have been one of your first priorities.
I also don’t understand forgetting about a concert unless you weren’t bothered about going in the first place or spending time with that particular person.
you say later that you can’t afford to send her £200… but it’s okay that she’s out of pocket £200 is it?
no wonder the friendship is over, wonder how many more entitled things you’ve done and are seemingly obvious to.

How on earth could you forget to pay someone £200?

You need to pay her back. Otherwise you are a complete piss-taker.

Then you say you can't go to something else with her because you're going with other friends. I hope you at least offered for her to join you?

Then you can't make a dinner date.

All the above looks very grim on your part.

Are you seriously surprised she's dropped you?

pay her back and then stay away, she deserves better

youre a thief

You are absolutely the asshole.

You give two examples where she suggested things to do together that you couldn't do, but it doesnt sound as if you suggested anything instead. This would give most people the impression that someone just didn't really value spending time with them. It's common foe people to resent feeling like they're doing all the running to keep a friendship alive. It is odd that she didn't check with you or remind you about the gig, or find someone else instead but hey I don't know her, maybe her confidence is on the floor, maybe she doesn't have many friends. I think it's a shame you feel the friendship is over.

But you still need to pay her back… isn’t that obvious?

It is really strange that she didn’t remind you and ghosted you. Have you done this before to her?

I expect your friend went on her own but sold the ticket you were supposed to use. I really doubt she is out of pocket to the tune of £200, other wise you'd surely have heard from her. Sounds like she wouldn't put herself out. So rather than call you to clarify the plans/money situation she's blanked you. If that is what 15 years of friendship meant to her I wouldn't spend any time fretting over it. She obviously isn't.

I have forgotten some big important events/meetings in the past... actually, even now things can go completely out of my head. There are a lot of righteous people on this thread who'd never forget anything. Bully for them. Sometimes some us get overtaken by other things going on in our lives. Some of us have brains that work differently.

You sound like a terrible friend. You need to pay her back the money. What an awful thing to do to someone

But managed to afford to go out with other friends on a separate occasion according to one of the updates....

Are you genuinely so self absorbed as to be confused why she’d not want to maintain a friendship with you any more when you cost her £200, still haven’t offered to reimburse her, clearly missed or ignored all prompts to even remember she existed let alone pay her back a significant amount of money and then have the audacity to suggest she’s at fault for not reminding you?

Youre a fully grown adult OP, pull yourself together and have a word. Use reminders or something. It’s completely unacceptable to behave like this.

If you can’t afford to send her £200, how were you planning to pay for the gig?

😂 very true 😂

I can tell you what she's lost @DonnaDonna0 . £200!

This!

Pay the £200 that you owe her Op!

Not fucking surprised!

To be clear this is not about £200, your friendship is not ruined because of that. Your behaviour is the cause.

big up to her for going alone, and if she was in Stratford this weekend she would have had an amazing time without you.

You’ve lost a 15 year old friendship not sure what she’s lost but it’s not a friend.

Did you suggest another date? Why is she having to do all the running… if my friend suggested two things I couldn’t do I would be making effort to arrange an alternative.

Your cheekiness is off the scale really. You owe her £200 so regardless of whether you feel you can afford it or not, you need to pay her as she's out of pocket.

If you owe someone money, the onus is on you to remember to repay it. I'm honestly amazed that you're somewhat blaming her for not reminding you.

Her friendship is clearly not that important to you.

So now what you want is everyone to agree she should have reminded you so you don't feel you owe her the £200.

You owe her the money. You wanted the ticket when she purchased it and were happy for her to be out of pocket until you got paid. You told her you would pay her. You knew when the concert was. She had no further obligation to you. You owe her. Your responsibility was to pay her.

Do you know if she managed to sell the other ticket? I sincerely hope she managed to get her money back one way or another but the least you can do is offer to pay it back, even if its £10 a week, she should NOT be out of pocket. It doesn't matter that you 'can't afford' to give her £200. You owe it. End of. Find a way to pay her back.

On a second point, I'd be furious if you owed me £20, let alone £200, and you were going out and about with other friends before settling your debts. Priorities all wrong here.

Pay her back. I wouldn't be having any more 'treats'; takeaways, nights out, even a bottle of wine - every spare penny would go towards putting things right. Tighten your belt for a month or two.

There’s more to it than that but I’m not going to post the entire message. 15 year friendship seems very much over. I can’t afford to send her £200.

She sounds like a pushover (or a martyr) who should have womaned-up and asked you for the money when it became clear you'd gone MIA 'forgot' to pay her.

You, on the other hand, have got more brass neck than the Tin Man - saying you can't 'afford' to pay her. 🙄 Hark at the sound of the world's teeniest 🎻.

Should have paid her at the time then, shouldn't you?