To think friend should have reminded me?

I am sure you don't want to post the entire message because it would be very telling about your behavior.

You knew in December that she paid for your ticket, and she was willing to wait for your next payday for the money. I find it hard to believe that you forgot
THAT quickly. Then you chatted in April, and I am betting she invited you to dinner to see if you were planning to pay. But, you didn't go and STILL hadn't paid her.
The friendship is over because you couldn't be bothered to pay for your ticket. It's not her job to remind you, as she isn't your mother.
I also am very suspicious that this was probably not the first time you "forgot" to pay someone back. It doesn't really matter that you cannot "afford" the ticket because you promised to pay her, so you STILL owe her the 200. Even if you pay it back 50 at a time.
It's a shame you ruined a 15-year friendship because you could not prioritize your friendship, and you wish to get out of paying 200 pds.

Pay back in installments. And you really need to sort out your finances if you're overstretched frequently.

Wow you’re a terrible friend. Pay her back!

Pay her.

You owe her the £200. Maybe you can pay it back slowly, £50.00 a month?

The least you could do would be to pay her the money you owe, even if you have to do it in instalments.

So, you couldn't afford it at the time, you "forgot", and now you can't afford to reimburse her?

You sound awful, and seem to think that it is your friend who is in the wrong here. In fact it is very much you who is in the wrong.

I very much doubt she will regret not having you in her life.

I can’t afford to send her £200.

And it seems you never could. So why did you agree to go?

YABU why is it up to your friend to remind you about it and why should she swallow the cost of your unused ticket pay her the money for it your so far out of order you don’t even realise.

You are an adult, it was up to YOU to remember to pay her. It's easy enough to put a reminder somewhere. It is extremely irritating to have to remind people to pay money for something, and it's not something that should need to be done.

You really need to check whether she got her money back and if she didn't, pay your debt to her.

I wonder if given you haven't managed to be in touch to pay the money back you forgot about I wonder if "friend" may be overreaching a little 😊

You’re avoiding the question, although I assume we all know the answer. Have you now paid her the £200, and apologised?

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Send her the money. YOU forgot,, YOU didnt pay her.

@abrabhf - Just get in touch with her and say sorry I forgot and ask her where to pay the £200. If she took someone else then she will probably say - no problem , ticket was used.

But in future I would pay up front. It is irritating ( I've had this ) when someone says yes to a ticket and then when they pull out last minute or forget it Is up to you to sort the ticket out.

I'd assume she didn't want you to go, so technically you didn't have the ticket, it was no longer yours. If she had physically handed it to you then you should pay her. She blanked you, did not arrange to go there with you, and has no interest in talking to you any more.
So I do think it's a case that she went with someone else. Seeing as she had possession of the ticket and paid, the fact she didn't reach out again to arrange attendance makes me feel you don't owe her.

I could see myself doing something like this and it's bloody awful. I haven't done it often, but I once did something a bit like this and my poor friend felt as though she didn't matter at all to me. It triggered issues of childhood neglect for her. She refused to communicate with me and I never saw her again. She moved house, moved on. I don't blame her but I still wish I could make it up to her.

You sound totally unreliable, inconsiderate and flakey. Not surprised your 'friend' hasn't been in contact.

When you said you'd forgotten about a gig that cost £200, I figured maybe you have lots of disposable income and go to lots of gigs. But then you said you didn't have enough money till pay day so presumably this isn't the kind of thing you do all the time.

I can't understand how you would forget. I have only ever once spent that much on a ticket to something and I was counting down the weeks to it and I'm someone who goes to theatre/gigs most months but no way am I forgetting my 200 quid ticket.

The time to remember and pay your friend was when you got paid, like you said you would. I hope you pay up now.

How in earth could you "forget," you owed money as you had a ticket that cost £200...was it Taylor Swift?

pay her back if didnt resell the ticket

how can you forget to pay someone £200?

youre a rubbish frirnd, she deserves better

Well if it was Taylor Swift she'll have sold on the ticket no problem at all, so you wouldn't owe her anything.
Also it's odd for a friend to not be able to message and say, are you OK to transfer the £200 over / let's make arrangements for gig / not even a woohoo so excited for gig texts?
Also must've been quite a major gig to be £200 ticket, I dont think it's feasible you could "forget" , but looks like the friendships over anyway, so I'd forget about that and move on.