To think friend should have reminded me?

You need to agree a payment plan and pay her back.

I am gonna guess that you have spent the last few months avoiding her on purpose because you decided you can't afford it and she decided to keep quiet and see how much of a CF her 'friend' was. Cost her £200 but now she knows.

If we're talking TS tickets then there is no way you 'forgot' about it. I am not a fan at all and it's hard to avoid it in the news/social media etc. It's everywhere, even on this forum.

Can she afford to lose £200? Presumably you thought you could afford this at the time you agreed to go. What has changed?

I'm not sure she went on her own. Surely she would've reminded you if she was going to do that.

This. You owe her £200, do the right thing and pay up, in instalments if needs be. You let her pay for a ticket in anticipation of being reimbursed.

So you are saying her friendship is worth less than £200. You have behaved badly, I suspect it isn't the first time and I suspect your friend is really hurt. She was waiting for you to be better.
You need to step up here, apologise so profusely, invite her round for cheap meal at yours and pay her as much as you can afford each pay day. Do not buy any new clothes or go out for any big meals/occasions until you have paid her back. She has probably seen your socials of you going out with other people etc and you have left her to effectively pay £400 to go on her own to a gig that would have been much nicer to go with a good friend.
Step up here, be better

YAB massively U.
You need to pay her back, even if done gradually. I know circumstances change, but sounds like you were strapped for cash when you agreed to go to the gig and paying your friend back should have been a priority. I can’t imagine agreeing to pay £200 for a gig (presumably at that price a very well known band/artist and exciting gig!) and forgetting about it. A £200 ticket is a massive deal and big decision in my mind- something I’d only pay for/agree to pay for for a gig I’d be insanely excited about it!

Of course in normal circumstances I’d just message the friend that owes me money and remind her (although I do hate doing so), and make plans for the gig - but it sounds like there’s a back story to this and it’s probably not the first time you’ve been flaky with your friend and she just had enough.

If I’d bought someone a gig ticket I can’t think of why I wouldn’t message them saying “looking forward to gig on Sat.. etc” other than a) she never bought you a ticket anyway, b) she gave it to someone else c) she didn’t want to go with you anymore, you’re ghosted. Whichever it is, you don’t owe her any money

That seems really passive aggressive of her. I can't stand people who 'forget' about money they owe but she went about this all wrong.

If the friend had posted here before the gig, a few posters would have told her to be proactive, remind you, and then if you don't pay to go with someone else.

She did absolutely FA and is now sulking.

I can’t afford to send her £200.

Then why did you agree to have her buy the ticket? What use would it have been that she reminded you? No one forgets that they owe someone else that much money, especially not if that person is a friend.

I don't blame her. You've completely taken advantage, and you don't even seem to care.

Why did you agree for her to buy the ticket if you still can't afford it?

And why didn't friend remind you and/or sell the ticket on?

Odd behaviour and lack of comms from you both, but mainly you.

Find the money. Sell something.

Name fail change or sock puppeting @Frogpole ?

You can’t afford to pay her back now and couldn’t afford it then? Why did you agree to go? Why hadn’t you made plans?

All very strange.

But yes pay her back and see it as a fine for behaving so poorly.

You still owe her £200. You are so rude!

Then pay what you can and pay monthly until debt cleared. You should never have agreed to book if money is tight.

We all do that, help a friend, I've just paid for tickets for me and a friend. I know she'll sort it when she can, but to promise to pay on a certain day and then you don't. Then you forget. It's a bit annoying. When you've text and called her was it about the gig. Did you mention the money to her? If I was you I'd of been like I'm so sorry forgot to send that money, send me your details and I'll get it straight to you. I know things happen but she. Might of just felt a bit used. I think you've got some.making up to do. Maybe go see her, take some flowers and a card, write an apology in it incase she won't see you and give her some time to think it over. Also, pay her the money because you did say you'd pay and she may of lost out on it especially if you contacted her after the gig.

Did she say in her message if she'd managed to sell 'your' ticket to someone else? If so, then at least she'd have recouped her loss but, whether or not, your attitude to all this is appalling.

If you can't afford to send her £200 - now or then - why on earth did you want a ticket in the 1st place?! Did you expect her to fund it? And how do you just 'forget it? You sound like a shit friend!!

If someone owed me £200, and left me hanging for weeks (let alone months), I’d be reminding them about it in no uncertain terms. And then selling the ticket if I had to. Very odd.

But your behaviour is really poor. Now saying you can’t afford the £200 is outrageous. I expect you’re busy justifying this in your head ( her fault for not reminding me), but really - you can either be a good person here or a shocker. Your choice.

PAY HER BACK.

I cannot believe you "forgot", miraculously, in just a few weeks until payday that you owed your friend that much money.

Can everyone here who is piling on the OP in usual MN fashion honestly say that if they bought tickets for a friend they would just sit back and never mention it again and then turn up to the gig by themselves and watch the £200 go to waste? That's not normal behaviour. I'm not saying what OP did was OK, but people can forget. But everyone commenting here is obviously so perfect they've never forgotten anything?

There's clearly a back story here because the friends behaviour was weird. I dont know of any healthy friendship where that would happen if someone genuinely forgot about something they'd agreed to.

@Frogpole in all my time on MN I have never seen such an odd way of posting.

I think if this was the friend posting she’d be getting a hard time too but for being such a walkover and so passive. Who buys something expensive and lets it go to waste? It’d be obvious on the days before the concert that with no arrangements made that the ticket was likely going to waste.

Frogpole are you the op?
If not, are you ok, hun??

I dont blame your friend one bit.

You have behaved appallingly.