To think friend should have reminded me?

Op did you see this friend at an event recently, not speak to each other and then text her to say she was rude for ignoring you? ?

Surely not £800 worth though

Nope you would have remembered at that invite and said omg I'm so sorry I totally forgot and I'm broke is there anyway you can sell the ticket....grovel...

You forget £5 not £200 you were stringing it out to suit you

i find this a bit ridiculous, if you’re friends enough to book and go, a gentle ‘I can’t wait for the concert’ to remind them doesn’t hurt

paid her back yet?

Sounds like a one way friendship. She pays for an expensive ticket in December which you forget about and don’t pay. In February she invites you to another gig (potentially hoping that would jog your memory about the gig you’re already going to together and have yet to pay for) you tell her you’re already going with other friends but don’t invite her along? That’s really cruel.
Then when she invites you to dinner you say you’re busy that date and didn’t suggest any other dates … then you just never got in touch with her again. Come on, no wonder she’s upset with you.
To be honest, you sound very selfish and not a good friend at all. Your behaviour is hurtful, it comes across as you really don’t give a shit about her.

Clearly you have form and this is the straw that broke the camels back. The absolute least you can do is pay her back the cost of the ticket. Hell, if it was my friend I'd be covering the cost of her ticket too to make up for being such a shit show and leaving her £200 out of pocket in December of all months!

@abrabhf You did not forget to pay her, you let her pay and then you didn't prioritise paying her back. I have a friend like you, will borrow money and then claim they can't afford to pay back despite being out and spending all over Instagram. You need to set up an arrangement to pay her back even if it's a small amount each month. She sounds like she's been a good friend to you, do you really want to lose her?

@Smartstuffed - the OP herself said that her friend went to the gig alone, and has said nothing about the friend managing to sell the ticket.

Judging on her own words, @abrabhf's friend IS out of pocket £200, and she should be offering to pay her, even if it has to be in instalments. That is what any decent person would do.

And yes, it is human to forget things - I have forgotten things in the past - but I would not expect my mistake to end up costing someone else £200 - I am sure you are the same.

Sorry OP it sounds like you need to take more responsibility for yourself and you should still do the right thing and pay back the £200 even if it’s a bit each month. It’s not up to other people to remind you that you owe money or the date of events you’d said you’d attend.

Initially on the fence here. Friend agreed to cover it for her until payday. OP should have remembered because £200 is a lot. However life is busy and can see how it would slip her mind. Friend (as they’re clearly very close to be covering £200 for her) could have said “don’t forget you owe me that cash!”. However, she chose not too. This could therefore have been a non-issue really.

However, she reached out Feb and you said “nah seeing other mates” and again invited you for dinner but you were too busy(?)

you then forgot the plans you made for the concert (but remembered a local event in the summer with other friends which presumably didn’t cost you £200 you hadn’t paid)

This is about more than the £200. She clearly feels you don’t value her friendship and it’s perhaps a one way street.

the right thing to do is cover your £200. You didn’t go because you have a terrible memory, but you did agree to go and she is £200 down because of it. Whether your friend or not, the other person shouldn’t have to fork out for your mistake. Pay her.

The last line seems to imply you had no intention of ever paying the money back. I’d be done too if I was the friend in question.

You seem like you've been a shitty friend.
Invites you to a gig in December buys a ticket then hears nothing from you she contacts you to do something but you're busy with other friends she suggests doing something else but that days no good either you forgot about a gig she had invited you to and forgot to pay shes your friend but not even remotely on your radar. You dont seem to have forgot your other days out with friends. No wonder she's hurt plus you don't seem to be sorry.

According to @abrabhf, her friend went to the gig on her own, @Hazyjaneishere.

Do you know if she went without you? Did someone else use your ticket? And it would have been better if you paid or at the time, if somebody didn’t pay me £200 for a ticket that they agreed for me to buy for them. I don’t think I will be very impressed either.

I’m sure your friend can’t afford to have thrown £200 down the drain on a ticket you ‘forgot’ either - you need to pay her, even if it’s in instalments

You need to check as you agreed to buy the ticket. She’s lost £200. The fact you can’t afford it is irrelevant, she couldn’t afford to loose £200. I don’t get why you’re playing the victim when you are clearly in the wrong. You say there is more too it, maybe there is, and then maybe it will paint you in a different light

She shouldnt have to remind you. Not paying back is bad enough but your attitude of its her fault for not "reminding" you is worse than the not paying 🙄.

You knew she made the purchase so you should have paid her immediately. The onus is on you to pay, not her to chase you up

You’re a bad friend, it seems.

You forgot on payday and 6 months later you've remembered but still can't pay. You had no intention of paying and should never have said yes to tickets you couldn't afford. I doubt your friend can afford to be £200 out of pocket but you've left her no choice really.

I'm not surprised she's ignoring you. I'd give her the 200.00 back. How could you forget.

What's happened here is you said you'd pay her on pay day, you forgot and she got really pissed off (rightly so) that she'd paid £400 upfront, given you an interest free payment plan till payday, then you'd not even remembered and sent it back. Its highly highly rude and I'm not surprised she's ghosted you. It should've been the first thing you did as soon as your pay came in, alongside a massive thank you to her for paying for it and waiting for the reimbursement
I don't think you can rectify this. If I were her I'd have just taken someone else, ultimately, because you didn't bother to pay her back then it wasn't even your ticket. She paid £400 for 2 tickets. You're not a good friend (and you really need to get a diary or a calendar and use it)

I know, some of these replies are genuinely horrible :( Not to say I don't agree that OP should be paying back the £200 somehow, but it doesn't feel unreasonable to have genuinely forgotten something. I remember buying tickets for a gig about 10 years ago and remembering about it the day after the gig 😅 fair enough I bought the tickets myself so wasn't owing anyone anything, and they were nowhere near £200, but just an example that it can be really easy to have something slip your mind.

This is such an odd situation! Surely she would have been better to message.. see if you still want the ticket and if so send the money over. If not she could have found someone else. You should have paid. She should have reminded you to pay.