From the title, you’d think an automatic YABU, but - after a 10 year emotionally abusive relationship, I met someone two years ago who was so into me, interesting, fun, adventurous etc, whom I felt I’d known forever. But the catch was, something always felt off - namely he would on occasion explode into a shouty tirade at me stemming from insecurity. I’d break it off, but we’d end up back together. Rinse and repeat. He had loads of counselling and got a lot lot more self aware, but I still would pull away and felt I’d never want to risk him around my young DC (as in, the risk of him having a go at me in front of them). He’s emotionally immature basically. We’ve called it quits again for about the 100th time, but I feel the pull and miss him. The weird thing is, after the counselling the explosive incidents went away, but I started to wonder if he was actually a decent person (I’d been attributing anything a bit snarky to his MH issues before). Am I addicted to the drama? Am I just sad and lonely without him? Or should I change myself somehow to make this work - is it worth it? Or should I press delete on the past two years and finally try and move on?!