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DH not checking in when away

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Swiftie90 · 19/06/2024 21:11

DH is away overnight with work for the first time since I had DC1 6 weeks ago. He left this morning but hasn’t checked in with me all day. He’s out with clients this evening. Our DC is very colicky and it’s a nightmare settling them, so I thought he might at least send a quick message. AIBU?

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feathers7 · 19/06/2024 22:59

YANBU, I would expect a text at the least!

Everythingiscalmfornow · 19/06/2024 22:59

I agree with you OP.
It wouldn't have taken him a minute out of his schedule to send you a quick message. Your baby is only 6 weeks old for heavens sake. Wouldn't have cost him much to show he cares about you both.

Windinmyhair · 19/06/2024 22:57

YANBU

It doesn't take 30 seconds to send a quick check in text. Especially given you have a colicky newborn at home, I would have come to the conclusion that i wasn't important enough for 30 seconds of effort.

BeaRF75 · 19/06/2024 22:57

Why does he need to "check in"? He's only away for one night. If you are concerned about the baby, or anything else, then contact him! Because, like all of us, he will assume that "no news is good news".

StSwithinsDay · 19/06/2024 22:57

YANBU. At all.

Babychewtoy · 19/06/2024 22:56

YANBU. Having a collicky 6 week old is very hard, and difficult for people who haven’t had a screamy baby to fully comprehend. So yes I think he should have made sure you’re okay.

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Swiftie90 · 19/06/2024 22:55

Well he worked from his office space, then checked into a hotel and presumably chilled for a bit, then went out? I thought in all that time he might have found 1 minute to send a message.

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ButWhatAboutTheBees · 19/06/2024 22:53

He's been out with clients you say though, so he's been working

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Swiftie90 · 19/06/2024 22:51

Well he doesn’t usually work away all night? This is the first time I’ve been with the baby all night alone. I thought he might actually care how we were getting on tbh!

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ButWhatAboutTheBees · 19/06/2024 22:30

Do you expect him to text whilst at work normally?

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