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My cleaner chucked her cigarette butt into our hydrangea bush

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JuneM · 19/06/2024 18:51

Our cleaner does four hours a week - a couple of weeks ago I noticed a cigarette butt in a small gu pot on our back porch.. very usual as we don’t smoke! I thought it might be the gardeners, my husband mentioned he thought it was the cleaner.

this week, our cleaner who charges £18 per hour went out for a cigarette break, we have cctv at the back, and I saw that she chucked her cigarette butt into our hydrangea bush. I’m not happy about this at all. I think it’s disrespectful and disgusting that I now have to clean up my cleaners dirty cigarette butt.

I also often make her a tea or glass of water, in the past it has irritated me that she doesn’t actually put the cup in the dishwasher and I have to clean it up once she’s gone.

I know we need to raise this with her but what would you do.

AIBU?

OP posts:
Wishitsnows · 19/06/2024 19:03

Wow you sometimes make her a glass of water. The effort that must take!

MartyFunkhouser · 19/06/2024 19:03

JuneM · 19/06/2024 18:58

For the record, we do not smoke. I do not have an ash tray and do not see why I should have to provide one which I would then need to clean out.

We also have a porch next to our baby’s nursery and often have the window open so I don’t like the fact she smokes on our property without asking.

Perfectly reasonable to request that she doesn’t smoke.

It’s pretty skanky of her to do it while working, tbh.

AmusedMaker · 19/06/2024 19:01

Tell her politely that you are a non smoking household ( and that includes the garden ) so could she please not smoke on the premises again.

vodkaredbullgirl · 19/06/2024 18:58

Well tell her not to smoke on your property.

Original poster
JuneM · 19/06/2024 18:58

For the record, we do not smoke. I do not have an ash tray and do not see why I should have to provide one which I would then need to clean out.

We also have a porch next to our baby’s nursery and often have the window open so I don’t like the fact she smokes on our property without asking.

OP posts:
Singersong · 19/06/2024 18:57

I wouldn't be providing ash trays at my non-smoking home and I'd be telling her to take her fag butts with her.

MartyFunkhouser · 19/06/2024 18:54

Give her something to use as an ashtray?

Ask her not to smoke when working? I wouldn’t want her stinky fagness in my house, but I accept that might be ott.

MissMoneyFairy · 19/06/2024 18:54

Stop making tea and tell her to use an ashtray, 4 hours a week I'd be asking her not to smoke in my house.

ASighMadeOfStone · 19/06/2024 18:54

JacquesHarlow · 19/06/2024 18:52

Best comment . Should be /endthread

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It should.
Sadly this will run for 28 pages with people saying OP shouldn't have a cleaner and maybe the cleaner's anxiety has caused her to lob her fag ends into the hydrangea.

AGodawfulsmallaffair · 19/06/2024 18:54

Lucky cleaner, ‘often’ getting tea or water.

vodkaredbullgirl · 19/06/2024 18:54

Talk to her, give her an ashtray.

Badassnameforadojo · 19/06/2024 18:53

Provide an ash tray. Or make a rule that she can’t smoke on your property (and then start looking for a new cleaner when she quits).

Wills890 · 19/06/2024 18:53

JuneM · 19/06/2024 18:51

Our cleaner does four hours a week - a couple of weeks ago I noticed a cigarette butt in a small gu pot on our back porch.. very usual as we don’t smoke! I thought it might be the gardeners, my husband mentioned he thought it was the cleaner.

this week, our cleaner who charges £18 per hour went out for a cigarette break, we have cctv at the back, and I saw that she chucked her cigarette butt into our hydrangea bush. I’m not happy about this at all. I think it’s disrespectful and disgusting that I now have to clean up my cleaners dirty cigarette butt.

I also often make her a tea or glass of water, in the past it has irritated me that she doesn’t actually put the cup in the dishwasher and I have to clean it up once she’s gone.

I know we need to raise this with her but what would you do.

AIBU?

I'd get a new cleaner, she sounds absolutely shocking!

JacquesHarlow · 19/06/2024 18:52

sweetpeaorchestra · 19/06/2024 18:51

Give her something to use as an ashtray outside.

Best comment . Should be /endthread

sweetpeaorchestra · 19/06/2024 18:51

Give her something to use as an ashtray outside.