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To think getting any help for my SEN child is nigh on impossible...

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Satanzlilhelpa · 19/06/2024 16:42

SEN - Dx ODD, adhd. 4 years behind academically - LA offer only mainstream. He's no clue what is going on. I feel like I'm banging my head against a brick wall.

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Hankunamatata · 19/06/2024 16:58

Have you looked around all the types schools in the area to see of any would be suitable?

FabricPattern · 19/06/2024 16:57

And yes - we were told they had no clue how to support my child and I couldn't risk them making them feel more desperate with ineffective and inappropriate interventions so we left because I just didn't have enough energy to fight every battle going. I'm not good enough. So I support my kid and honestly, they're doing so well that I don't regret it. But I do get not everyone can take that option. Equally, we couldn't not take that option iyswim

FabricPattern · 19/06/2024 16:55

The problem as well is that support varies so much around the country.

Are there any local groups near you that could point you in the direction of getting the ECHP updated? Even the local autism support groups would know the names of useful contacts in the LA / charities that help etc if there aren't adhd support groups near you?

There can be such a huge change in needs over that long - it's shocking that it can't be addressed easily ...

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Satanzlilhelpa · 19/06/2024 16:53

I get they don't want to give as much as a paperclip. Seems pointless having the useless EHCP. He's literally in a world of his own.

I think LA would like us to home ed as they can't be a....

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Satanzlilhelpa · 19/06/2024 16:51

Sadly, Yes @Hankunamatata

He has an ehcp. He is 9. @Octavia64

He hasn't had an Ed Psych since 2020 so his needs are not reflected in his EHCP.

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FabricPattern · 19/06/2024 16:51

This is why we home ed. Every option offered a challenge, a fight, a battle. We ended up choosing the one which meant least harm to my child which was being caused ineffectual and inappropriate support. You're facing a challenge either way, and while everyone bangs on about home ed being a privilege, being able access appropriate education is also down to luck of birth - and that fits in to the definition of privilege doesn't it?

We make huge sacrifices to do it.

My kid is thriving. Dx includes PDA

fedupandstuck · 19/06/2024 16:48

Sorry that you are facing such a battle to get suitable education for your son. Are there any special schools in neighbouring LA areas that might be suitable? I'm assuming your son has an EHCP?

Octavia64 · 19/06/2024 16:48

Does he have an EHCP?

How old is he?

Hankunamatata · 19/06/2024 16:43

Is he in mainstream school currently?

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