To report my neighbour for indecent exposure in his garden?

Edited because I now see the OP has reported this to the police. Well done, OP.

A couple of years ago during Covid my DP was helping to deliver supplies to local residents. (My partner is a woman, by the way). She knocked at one house which had a solid front door but a long clear glass side panel each side of it. The man living there came down the hall stark naked, with an erection, and then touched himself when he saw her there with a box of supplies. She took a photo of him and left.

She reported him to the police and he admitted exposing himself (gave them some nonsense about not being able to find his dressing gown and waking up with an erection when she rang). She was asked if she wanted them to take it to court and as she'd subsequently found out from others that he often did this, she said yes. He pleaded guilty and now has a criminal record. So please, follow this up. Flashing and masturbating in public is often indicative of worse things done in private.

Why? There is no need to engage with him.it is a police matter.

At school we visited a Magistrate’s Court and sat through some cases in the public seats
One case was of a wretched man who was flashing a young woman on Richmond Station
The questions the Male magistrate asked were not good.
Sadly the perp got away with it as the poor victim couldn’t tell if the perps penis was erect or not.

The girls on the class were 🤬as we had all been flashed at at some time.

Yes it’s revolting-
Horrible little Turkey giblets - no one wants to see it-
@jumbojumbo Glad police took it seriously.

Did the police give you any details on what the guy said? Like… what the hell was he playing at?

Glad the police have been so proactive.

I've also had a similar problem with my neighbour. I contacted the police and they took it very seriously as well, although they didn't come out on the same day, but whatever they said to him has obviously scared the shit out of him and I've barely seen him since.

I would encourage anyone in a similar situation to report it straight to the police. I think we hear a lot about when the police have been useless or dismissive and that puts people off reporting things, but don't hear as often when they have been helpful.

Just keep reporting if you keep seeing it, hopefully somebody will go round.

It’s a truly a Mumsnet meme - over 50 =Dementia
Under 50 =Autism for anything remotely differing from the norm.

Well done OP.

I think the law depends on whether he is intentionally 'outraging public decency'.

If he thinks he is being discreet and not overlooked, that is very different from blatantly masterbating, knowing someone is watching.

I'd call the non-emergency number and ask their advice. Most adults are capable of averting their eyes. But if he was 'putting on a show' in front of children, that would be completely unacceptable.

I’m glad you reported the pervert op.

More often than not, men who exhibit this kind of behaviour have already committed or go on to commit other disgusting sex crimes. It should absolutely be taken seriously.

When I said 'in an indecent manner', I didn't just mean naked. I don't remember the specifics though.

Someone round here used to do that in their bedroom window and they were charged by the police. Definitely report!

This really annoys me, why should she be the one putting up a fence , or averting her eyes !
Smacks of victim blaming to me , but I may be over sensitive.
He's wanking in public view . It's a police issue not an OP issue...

Good result OP. I know someone who reported a neighbour for wanking in view of the street and the man was prosecuted.

I feel sick reading this. Absolute vile vile man.

Report today. Hope you're ok. I'd find that so upsetting.

I'm sat waiting to have something to eat in nandos an put me off my food now

Someone being briefly and unwittingly visible while naked in their own home is very, very different to someone standing in the garden and masturbating, which is what the OP’s neighbour is doing. Putting a note through someone’s door to say “Hi neighbour, would mind stopping committing sex offences against me and my children, please?” is not going to help anyone.

Missed the update (and managed to quote the op.. two big faux pas in one post.. sorry).

That's great news op.

"If you are that bothered"??? In what world are women supposed to be not "that bothered" about a naked man deliberately masturbating in their full view? An accidental exposure to neighbours while naked inside your house is nothing like what is happening here.

Someone local to me got done for indecent exposure in his own house. He answered the door in an indecent manner, and was reported, charged and plead guilty.

So no, it doesn't have to be in a public place. Good luck!

That’s good.😃

@fortifiedwithtea you seriously suggested that your daughter go and confront a man who was masturbating in public? I have young adult children and my mind is blown by this.

'@fortifiedwithtea
If you are that bothered could you out a note through his door or actually speak to him?'

This is a daft suggestion.

The OP should not directly engage with a potential sex perv/exhibitionist or even someone who is trying to attract the attention of children...

OP, ring the police as suggested and leave them to act on this.

They can also do a welfare check and involve social services if this is related to a health condition (dementia, mental health issues...).