To report my neighbour for indecent exposure in his garden?

Someone I worked with was charged with indecent exposure (20 years ago admittedly) for being naked inside. Local kids said he was standing at his large living room window with his dressing gown open and they could see his dick. He said he was trying to program the tv and his dressing gown fell open. All the details were in the local paper but in my old age I can’t remember the trial outcome. He was definitely charged though.

Phew! Thankfully this has now been dealt with. If it happens again please don't hesitate to call again 👍

Does he have family visit ? If so - I know this would be an awkward conversation- but maybe chat to them . I say this because I worked as a carer for the elderly for a short time and I would see this kind of behaviour in those with dementia sometimes . It’s like they are unaware of it being inappropriate. It’s not appropriate at all and if you can see this and there’s a chance your children could then it needs to be stopped , but if it’s down to dementia then calling the police might not be the right way .. but saying that , maybe calling the police might lead them to contact adult social services . Maybe if you can’t speak to family then 101 might be the best step.

There was one man I used to visit who would regularly just get naked and I found him in his garden naked a few times ( he wasn’t masturbating , just acting completely normal - but naked ) he was in the early stages of dementia and it was though he wasn’t aware he was naked .

For everyone debating whether you should take photo/video evidence.

When my neighbour did this to me I took photos as proof. When I reported it to the call handler, she told me that the photos couldn't be used and advised me to delete them, as technically I shouldn't have taken photos of him naked. I kept the photos as I expected the police officers would unofficially ask to see them when I mentioned that I had taken them, but knew they could not be used as proof. Which they did.

The police officers were taking my complaint seriously anyway, but from their reaction when I showed them the photo it made it very clear to them how creepy his behaviour was.

It’s more to do with visibility from someone else’s property or from public property.

Oops sorry just saw the update!

Don't be messing about with notes through the door. Let the police deal with it.

What makes you so sure that’s the way the law works on this? Because I’m not so sure.

He's a dirty old man and this type of behaviour often goes with other sexual offending, or it escalates to it. Don't have great confidence in the police after the scandals though.

Oh just saw your update- well done OP!

The reason they take it seriously is because flashing like that usually always escalates- there is a ton of research on this and flashers often progress to more serious crimes so its taken seriously as an indicator of potential future issues. I am glad he's been warned.

I think there has to be intent to cause public outrage or whatever it’s called. I knew a woman who lived in a high rise flat whose windows overlooked a male prison and she was done for deliberately standing in the windows naked to taunt the prisoners.

@jumbojumbo

i think it was the 'answering the door' that crossed their line.

Thats is absolutely gross and yes, dementia can cause disinhibition but equally, many men (yes, including the older ones too) are just perverts who get off on this kind of thing. I suspect he was just as disgusting when he was younger too. We had an old man living two doors down from us, he did NOT have dementia, and he used to regularly try to look into our bedroom window and spy on me and other women in the street. It was horrible. He'd also make lecherous comments all the time and try to start up conversations which quickly turned sexual.

Definitely report it- its completely out of order and the police need to speak to him.

@festivallove this is one of the most obvious examples of pretty privilege I have seen in a while!

had she been overweight and /or unattractive would that have changed your view? Would have been less puzzled by her deviant behaviour?

why on earth would an attractive person possibly be unkind/violent/abusive/?

Don’t film it!!!!

I expect the most likely thing would be he has some kind of Dementia. I think you should get the police to deal with it. They will be used to this kind of thing.

I work with the police

i avtually asked this question once before.

tou can call the police. Even in his own back garden sexual activities cannot cause alarm.

call them.

Can’t believe you left it a year. He’s a sexual deviant. These men usually escalate their behaviours. Flashers and wankers always need reporting.

Could you put up a fence?

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She's had enough of erections

What???

So what was he being accused of I wonder that this was a deciding factor?

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Sorry but 😂

It's irrelevant if he's compus mentus or not

He's wanking in the garden, it's a problem!!

Phone 999. He's committing a sexoffence jn public

Sadly the perp got away with it as the poor victim couldn’t tell if the perps penis was erect or not.

What???

So what was he being accused of I wonder that this was a deciding factor?

Glad to read of the police response. Hope it is never repeated.

I have heard of cases where people have been dealt with by the Police even if it is in their own garden. So I agree with the person who said ring 101 and discuss it.