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To be angry at sisters Eras tour present??

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Grealish · 19/06/2024 10:51

I have two tween DDs who are Taylor obsessed atm. Was gutted when I didn’t get a code to get them tickets.

Well yesterday my sister came round, and told me she had a surprise for the girls. Three eras tour tickets for me and the girls!! The girls (and me) were so excited, youngest ran off to show her aunt what outfit she was going to wear, and oldest kept announcing that it was the best day of her life.

and then my sister said: “it’s a good thing your DH has the weekend off too, he can drive you to the airport!”. Well I felt like bingo in that one episode of bluey. Airport? I’m not going to the airport?

Turns out the tickets are in London. This Sunday. We live in Ireland. My sister bought the tickets, but now I’ll have to book flights and hotel. I have work on Monday so I’ll have to try book that off. We have a family holiday coming up as well as my best friends hen party so really do not have the money for flights and a hotel, if I can even find a hotel this late notice.

I just wish she’d come to me first before telling the girls, as now I’m either going to have to crush their dreams or somehow find a few hundred quid to get us all to London.

AIBU to be so angry at my sister (even tho I think she thought she was doing a nice thing.) and to think that a present should not put the recipient out of pocket…. Sorry I actually don’t even know what I’m expecting people to say back I’m just in need of a good rant.

OP posts:
SparkyBlue · 19/06/2024 14:18

Oh my god OP I'd be raging if I were you. To add to it Aer Lingus are going on strike this week so definitely don't book flights with them, I'm in Ireland so going to the Dublin concert and the return coach trip for 3 of us was about €80 which I've already paid so I've all my tickets and main expense paid nearly a year ago. We are off on hols in 3 weeks so if someone landed a really expensive weekend like that on me this week I really wouldn't be able to afford it

TakeOnFlea · 19/06/2024 14:17

Aer Lingus sat-Mon to LHR is €540 for all of you.

Most of the Heathrow hotels are coming in at £210-250. Choose one with a pool for something fun to do.

Elizabeth line into London and lots of free things to do there. Greggs for meal deals and China Town for £5 all you can fit in the box buffet.

Yes, it's going to cost you about £800 but you'll have an absolute ball with your girls and they'll never forget it.

Tell your sister that you'd like her to put as much towards this as possible in lieu of birthday and Christmas presents for the next year and never to do that again without speaking to you first

magicstar1 · 19/06/2024 14:13

YANBU at all! I'm in Ireland too, and my friend gave me a concert ticket for my birthday a few years ago - for a band I liked when I was a kid thirty years ago. I had to pay for flights, hotel, food etc. and the concert was crap.

Your sister should have spoken to you first, and given as much notice as possible!

pontipinemum · 19/06/2024 14:12

AW God what an absolute pain the arse!!!

I know she thought she was doing something great and I am sure the girls will love it but she really wasn't thinking.

Even Ryanair is coming up at €300 pp for the flights alone. Maybe call you sister and be like, so what time are the flights? I know she doesn't have them booked but see what she says!! At least let her help in organising it.

I bought DH and FIL tickets to an ag show for Christmas which is actually on this week. We're also in Ireland it's in Scotland. I booked their flights as part of the present I didn't think they could just materialise themselves over the Irish sea

BobandRobertaSmith · 19/06/2024 14:07

If it’s any help, you could probably get a cheap hotel for around £50 with late availability in the London suburbs near Wembley that are a few stops away on the tube or Overground eg Harrow or Watford. Saturday nights are usually expensive in Travelodge/Premier Inn budget hotels but Sunday is usually the cheapest night.

redskydarknight · 19/06/2024 14:05

RedYellowPinkGreenPurpleOrangeBlue · 19/06/2024 12:36

This. ^ I like TS and think she has done very well, and I am pleased for her. She is very talented, very pretty, and seems like a lovely down-to-earth young woman. But I am constantly stunned by her concert ticket prices. Shock

Her superfans say 'oh but TAYLOR doesn't set the ticket prices!' But if that is the case, then why not?! It's HER TOUR! Why is she not more in control of the ticket prices? She must have some say in it. There's no way they need to be as high as they are!

She has lots of young fans, and parents who are at their wits end trying to get these crazily overpriced tickets. And on top of potentially paying almost a THOUSAND POUNDS for just TWO tickets, they are having to spend a bloody fortune for accommodation and train tickets in many cases. (And even plane and ferry tickets in some cases!)

As I said earlier, I am very glad that I don't have young children now. I wouldn't want to be dealing with this shit!

!

Edited

DD paid £90 each for tickets in London. A year ago, as part of the actual main ticket sale.

Taylor Swift has no control over the inflated prices that ticket touts are selling tickets on for.

Grealish · 19/06/2024 14:04

Definitely legit tickets for anyone asking! Her sister in laws sister (does that even make sense, my head is fried trying to make plans lol) got them at the original sale and then ended up not being able to go.

For everyone saying wouldn’t I have spent this money on tickets anyway- the original sale was almost a year ago. That money has been long spent, financial situations have changed, and also going to Dublin would have been a 45 minute drive for us. No need to buy flights, accommodation, buses, trains, food for the weekend etc. And would have had a year to plan.

OP posts:
YouveGotAFastCar · 19/06/2024 14:02

afrikat · 19/06/2024 13:54

Can I just check these are legit tickets through ticketmaster or axs, not through StubHub or another 3rd party site? Seen lots of people not getting in with the latter so don't want you to go to all that trouble then not get in..

I know a fair few people who have got in fine with StubHub.

I know two people who bought from Ticketmaster but using a strange "bought account" scenario and couldn't get in.

But yeah, I'd second checking these are legitimate seats, and that if they are restricted view or anything, they're still worth all the effort. That needs to be step number one.

lundland · 19/06/2024 14:01

roses2 · 19/06/2024 12:06

OMG I have just googled the cost of tickets - how does she have so many fans when tickets start at £400???

Other than that sorry to hear the present will cost more - that is very thoughtless of your sister.

Those fans have already bought the cheaper tickets! We paid loads less for Anfield.

afrikat · 19/06/2024 13:54

Can I just check these are legit tickets through ticketmaster or axs, not through StubHub or another 3rd party site? Seen lots of people not getting in with the latter so don't want you to go to all that trouble then not get in..

BusyMummy001 · 19/06/2024 13:46

Assuming you don’t need to repay your sister for the tickets, then the money YOU would have spent on those will now go on flights and a hotel - isn’t that a break-even?

Appreciate the travel and poss time off will be a bit of an inconvenience, but the memories this will make will be incredible. I’d shrug it off and be thankful for the thoughtful gift.

Sossijiz · 19/06/2024 13:45

roses2 · 19/06/2024 12:06

OMG I have just googled the cost of tickets - how does she have so many fans when tickets start at £400???

Other than that sorry to hear the present will cost more - that is very thoughtless of your sister.

Ticket prices are high because the artist can't make even a basic living from recordings alone. If everybody paid for the music they download, live performances might be cheaper to attend.

NashvilleQueen · 19/06/2024 13:12

I hope they're genuine tickets given the cost and effort it's going to entail.

MadeForThis · 19/06/2024 13:10

She's in Dublin for 3 nights the last weekend in June

There are very few ticket available and LOTS of scammers. Make sure the tickets were bought directly from Ticketmaster or AX.

rookiemere · 19/06/2024 13:02

This is a rubbish thing for her to do.Forcing you to buy flights when they are at their most expensive and finding somewhere to stay ( I would probably take up that kind mumsnetters offer of a floor).

When is she playing in Dublin? It would probably be cheaper to try and get some resale tickets for that show and try to sell on the London ones.

GhoulWithADragonTattoo · 19/06/2024 12:57

Get your sister on the case of booking travel and hotel and lend you the money for a few months.

GhoulWithADragonTattoo · 19/06/2024 12:53

She should have told you earlier so you could make arrangements in time.

Pianofingers1 · 19/06/2024 12:38

ByCupidStunt · 19/06/2024 10:59

Yanbu - you should never buy a gift if it's going to involve the recepient having to spend money.

Yep. It's like buying people art and then they have to go to the expense of framing it.

RedYellowPinkGreenPurpleOrangeBlue · 19/06/2024 12:36

roses2 · 19/06/2024 12:06

OMG I have just googled the cost of tickets - how does she have so many fans when tickets start at £400???

Other than that sorry to hear the present will cost more - that is very thoughtless of your sister.

This. ^ I like TS and think she has done very well, and I am pleased for her. She is very talented, very pretty, and seems like a lovely down-to-earth young woman. But I am constantly stunned by her concert ticket prices. Shock

Her superfans say 'oh but TAYLOR doesn't set the ticket prices!' But if that is the case, then why not?! It's HER TOUR! Why is she not more in control of the ticket prices? She must have some say in it. There's no way they need to be as high as they are!

She has lots of young fans, and parents who are at their wits end trying to get these crazily overpriced tickets. And on top of potentially paying almost a THOUSAND POUNDS for just TWO tickets, they are having to spend a bloody fortune for accommodation and train tickets in many cases. (And even plane and ferry tickets in some cases!)

As I said earlier, I am very glad that I don't have young children now. I wouldn't want to be dealing with this shit!

!

Motnight · 19/06/2024 12:27

ByCupidStunt · 19/06/2024 10:59

Yanbu - you should never buy a gift if it's going to involve the recepient having to spend money.

Exactly!

MidlifeChange · 19/06/2024 12:22

I’ve looked on sky scanner and Dublin to London flights are from £132 Fri to Monday. It’s a shame she didn’t tell you sooner though.

Bunnyannesummers · 19/06/2024 12:18

Moltenpink · 19/06/2024 11:07

If she had asked you first, would you honestly have turned them down? I’m betting you would have made it work!

This!

maddening · 19/06/2024 12:18

Ps ferry foot passage for 3 is about £160 return Dublin to holyhead, train return (holyhead to london) for all 3 is £260ish in total so that is more financially doable than flying

Honestyy · 19/06/2024 12:17

Those tickets are expensive and difficult to get hold of. The flights and hotel for one night might be about the same price as the concert tickets. Or maybe the auntie can take your daughters instead so you don't miss work?

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