To be angry at sisters Eras tour present??

She's also got money for every food shop she's done in the past....if we're highlighting irrelevant points I thought I'd join in....

Like that example, the hen do is money that's already spent so in no way comparable to magic-ing money out of thin air unless your only goal is to have a go at a stranger put in a very awkward position because you're jealous she's got something you want of course

But you have money for a hen do.

Exactly, some posts smack of privilege.
I'd be fuming if my sis pulled that, I just wouldn't have been able to afford it
Then what, sorry kids you can't go?

@Grealish just for future ref . It can be worth a look abroad I have brought my two sons to concerts in Belgium, France and Germany for half the price of Dublin tickets. I've done cheap transport and any accommodation, even camped.

I got the tip from a newspaper article years ago and have checked out alternatives and been lucky a few times. It has sort of become our family tradition now, see who can figure out the cheapest way to enjoy a concert 😜

It is sickening as I am a 20 minute Dart ride away,😭

Would you be able to get to Dublin for Sunday night with two kids and get the day off work on Monday?
If so, you are just lucky. Lots of people don't have flexible jobs and the spare money to arrange flights and accommodation at short notice.

I’m not sure how genuine about 50% of posts on this site are!

The first reply nails it, as is often the case. I was looking for the poll to vote YANBU. I'd be furious with my (imaginary) sister if I were put in the same position your sister has done with you, apart from the work aspect, which would be most difficult for many people, there's the expectation that you can just "bung it on a credit card" and pay it off later - family finances don't necessarily work like that.
That being said, I hope you have a lovely trip @Grealish and can enjoy it now the stress of organising it is over!

If it’s that stressful and inconvenient why don’t you swap them for Dublin or sell them?

OP, you have every right to be pissed off.
She never consulted you, just landed a present that will cost you time, effort and money in front of your children.
I would be very pissed off.
Not thankful at all.
Fantastic that you have made it work but I would be asking her to not do it again.
4 days notice is ridiculous.
Is she a bit dim?
She sounds it.

As someone who trawled the internet and looked in loads of European cities and eventually spent the price of a family holiday for my DD to go, I think you are entirely ungrateful.

I see now you’ve decided to go but are still saying you’re annoyed with your sister??

I hope she’s not on mumsnet. Bet she would be crushed.

Glad to RTFT and see that you are going. You (and your kids) will have a great time. We saw Taylor Swift recently and she puts on a great show. A month/ ten years from now all you'll remember is how great it was rather than what a 4-day PITA it was to arrange transport, etc.

Read the thread

Is your sister paying?

If so I guess you’re spending the money you were happy to spend when you were gutted not to get tickets on the travel instead?

I feel your pain OP, my lovely mum bought our daughter a full sized harp. Daughter loved it. We then spent thousands on lessons.
What time is your ferry coming into Holyhead? If you need help with train logistics, I can help.

Don't justify yourself @Grealish

Of COURSE you are pretty happy and grateful, as many would be with Taylor Swift tickets, but when a gift costs more to act on that it cost the buyer, it's not much of a gift really is it?! You're gonna end up spending more than what the tickets are worth.

Edited. I read your post properly and have seen you are going! Enjoy yourself!

well done for sorting it out OP. It was an incredibly frustrating present. And am amazed at all the women who could organise a weekend away on 2 days notice, with enough money, time off work, and childcare for monday morning - and be grateful for having to do so. they must live very different lives to the rest of us.

I hope you have a fabulous time - some day this will be a funny story.

I would be making my sister, in my presence, tell the DDs why they can't go.

Those people saying she is "ungrateful" obviously have endless money and no commitments. If if were me, I would be working at 9am on Monday Morning. if I couldn't get back for it - my choice would be pull a sickie and risk disciplinary action which might result in me losing my job, if they found out I wasn't sick, or don't go. You really think choosing having a long-term way of feeding your kids, makes you ungrateful?!!

I'm glad you're going. I really think it will be a concert your girls will always remember

But I do still get why you'd be annoyed with your sister!! I ran it by my sister before buying my niece a certain barbie.

I don’t understand the people who don’t understand that while this is amazing it’s also an arse-ache to organise with no notice.

You're confusing ungrateful with being given a gift that involves you in considerable travel hassle and money that you don't really have to spare

Don't be angry, it was a very kind idea, but wasn't thought through very well.

Can you stay with any friends/relatives in London? Or ask around if anyone you know has a contact who could put you up for a small payment (or maybe treat them to a meal out if they won't accept payment - it would be cheaper than a hotel). Booking.com has 2 nights for £368 in Kensington, which is a safe area.

It was a lovely idea , so chat to her about your concerns and do thank her, rather than feeling angry. Maybe she can come up with an accommodation solution & air fare plan, as these will be pricey being last minute. (oh, don't use Lastminute.com - had a disaster with them and Ryan air). Maybe she'll then agree that it was done with the best intention, although not thought through in the excitement of the moment and your girls will obviously be disappointed if it doesn't go ahead. There may be another occasion in the summer. But if you do go, have a wonderful time.

EDIT - just seen that you've decided to go, good on you! It's fun to be spontaneous. Take some sandwiches, fill up empty water bottles at the airport after you've gone through security to save money. Take hand luggage only. Use travel cards. There are lots of ways to keep the cost down.