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To be angry at sisters Eras tour present??

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Grealish · 19/06/2024 10:51

I have two tween DDs who are Taylor obsessed atm. Was gutted when I didn’t get a code to get them tickets.

Well yesterday my sister came round, and told me she had a surprise for the girls. Three eras tour tickets for me and the girls!! The girls (and me) were so excited, youngest ran off to show her aunt what outfit she was going to wear, and oldest kept announcing that it was the best day of her life.

and then my sister said: “it’s a good thing your DH has the weekend off too, he can drive you to the airport!”. Well I felt like bingo in that one episode of bluey. Airport? I’m not going to the airport?

Turns out the tickets are in London. This Sunday. We live in Ireland. My sister bought the tickets, but now I’ll have to book flights and hotel. I have work on Monday so I’ll have to try book that off. We have a family holiday coming up as well as my best friends hen party so really do not have the money for flights and a hotel, if I can even find a hotel this late notice.

I just wish she’d come to me first before telling the girls, as now I’m either going to have to crush their dreams or somehow find a few hundred quid to get us all to London.

AIBU to be so angry at my sister (even tho I think she thought she was doing a nice thing.) and to think that a present should not put the recipient out of pocket…. Sorry I actually don’t even know what I’m expecting people to say back I’m just in need of a good rant.

OP posts:
OrangeCrushes · 24/06/2024 07:38

Your sister put you in a real pickle. Well done for making the most of the situation!

Sweetvalleyhigh1234 · 24/06/2024 07:34

@Grealish you made it on to the mirror newspaper. Why do the papers keep doing this? It's one thing posting here but a national paper letting the whole world know... they've been doing this alot recently. No other news so stealing posts from here.

rookiemere · 24/06/2024 07:32

Horsebox27 · 24/06/2024 07:14

i hope you had a great night.
also hope you give your sister a massive thank you for making your daughters dream come true. It’s properly kind to buy these tickets and not even decide to go with your daughters herself
I also hope your sister doesn’t read this thread (or the daily mail) as if I were in her shoes I’d seriously reconsider being so generous with you / your family in future. 😔

I doubt the OP would want many more surprises like this.

A truly kind gesture would have been tickets for Dublin presented at least a couple of weeks in advance, London venue a few days in advance- when they could have been presented two weeks earlier- not so much as involved an expensive last minute flight and accommodation.

Always28 · 24/06/2024 07:25

Hope the concert was amazing and that you all had a great time

Horsebox27 · 24/06/2024 07:14

i hope you had a great night.
also hope you give your sister a massive thank you for making your daughters dream come true. It’s properly kind to buy these tickets and not even decide to go with your daughters herself
I also hope your sister doesn’t read this thread (or the daily mail) as if I were in her shoes I’d seriously reconsider being so generous with you / your family in future. 😔

Bobloblaw84 · 24/06/2024 07:13

How were you going to buy tickets at a hundred quid each if you can’t afford a few hundred quid to get to London?

UnpackingBooksFromBoxes · 24/06/2024 06:28

Embrace the chaos. Your sister has had the opportunity to get these tickets and thought of you and her nieces. Make a list, work through it and you’ll have a fabulous time with your daughters.

Ger1atricMillennial · 24/06/2024 05:10

I honestly cannot believe some people telling you to be grateful. It's a concert not a kidney.

This gift was never about the kids, it was about the gifter. If it had been about the kids she would have checked with you first, rather than putting you in this ridiculous position.

I hope you enjoyed the concert, and everything went well.

ReadingSoManyThreads · 24/06/2024 01:19

AquaFurball · 24/06/2024 00:44

Usually you do if you are flying, some airlines might accept expired passport but most require valid passports

Nope, as I said it's the Common Travel Area, which is an open border area with free movement. Airlines may request a form of ID, but there is no requirement to have a passport.

harriettenightingale · 24/06/2024 01:03

I saw someone above linked to Stasher. If you need a different location from those available which look like mainly mainline stations, try Radical Storage.

Stasher do exactly the same type of locations as your suggestion, they aren't just train stations. I've used them multiple times in London and other cities.

Runnerinthenight · 24/06/2024 00:47

AquaFurball · 24/06/2024 00:44

Usually you do if you are flying, some airlines might accept expired passport but most require valid passports

You just need ID.

AquaFurball · 24/06/2024 00:44

ReadingSoManyThreads · 24/06/2024 00:26

You don't need passports to travel Ireland to UK. It's in the Common Travel Area.

Usually you do if you are flying, some airlines might accept expired passport but most require valid passports

Runnerinthenight · 24/06/2024 00:27

OMG I know it's not the most convenient, but bloody hell, your sister has done an amazing thing for your DDs!! I have two crazed Swifties - though a lot older than yours! - and they would have been over the moon with this present! My pair are going twice, and they bought the tickets, though I have been stiffed with paying for flights from and to Europe for the younger one!!

I first took mine to see TS in 2011 when they were 14 and 12. TS came down off the stage and into the crowd - I spotted it happening and shoved them to the front of the line and TS held one of their hands and the other touched her too! Died and gone to heaven!! I imagine you've been now but trust me, this is a memory you will always cherish!

ReadingSoManyThreads · 24/06/2024 00:26

Welshmonster · 23/06/2024 23:53

Most stadiums you aren’t allowed to take in bags bigger than a piece of A4 paper.

it was naughty of sister not to give you notice as she could have still told them but given you heads up to sort out transport etc. what if all your passports had expired

You don't need passports to travel Ireland to UK. It's in the Common Travel Area.

bellabelly · 24/06/2024 00:02

Hope you all had a fabulous time! Well done for managing to make it all work - and I do think your sister was trying to do a really nice thing for your dds, just hadn't thought about the practicalities!

Welshmonster · 23/06/2024 23:53

Most stadiums you aren’t allowed to take in bags bigger than a piece of A4 paper.

it was naughty of sister not to give you notice as she could have still told them but given you heads up to sort out transport etc. what if all your passports had expired

Iamthemoom · 23/06/2024 16:03

Have a great time. Glad you managed to sort it out. We went on Friday and it was an incredible show. Green Carpark merch store had very fast moving queue while the smaller stalls seemed way longer wait.

Turquoise123 · 23/06/2024 09:27

Ah yes - presents that are not really presents ….I hear you

HopefulOptimistic · 22/06/2024 09:47

Been following this thread and am so excited for you and your girls. Even though your sister didn't think the logistics through properly, she did a lovely thing. This is what memories are made of and you will surely never regret it. Can't wait to see how it all went.

Dinosaumug · 21/06/2024 18:38

SuperFishy · 21/06/2024 16:44

Sounds like a great idea for a GoFundme or appeal to your friends on Facebook.

Eh? Perhaps read the thread, just a thought

BiscuityBoyle · 21/06/2024 18:15

Glad you got the flights booked. How far away is the relative? Which airport are you coming into?

comingintomyown · 21/06/2024 18:04

Nice ending I hope you have a really lovely time with your DDs 🌸

EachandEveryone · 21/06/2024 18:00

How far away is your relative?

shazshaz · 21/06/2024 17:43

Just remember your bag for entry to Wembley can't be any larger than A4 size. Would your relative be willing to hide a spare key somewhere or leave a key with a neighbour for you to collect?

SuperFishy · 21/06/2024 16:44

Sounds like a great idea for a GoFundme or appeal to your friends on Facebook.