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To be angry at sisters Eras tour present??

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Grealish · 19/06/2024 10:51

I have two tween DDs who are Taylor obsessed atm. Was gutted when I didn’t get a code to get them tickets.

Well yesterday my sister came round, and told me she had a surprise for the girls. Three eras tour tickets for me and the girls!! The girls (and me) were so excited, youngest ran off to show her aunt what outfit she was going to wear, and oldest kept announcing that it was the best day of her life.

and then my sister said: “it’s a good thing your DH has the weekend off too, he can drive you to the airport!”. Well I felt like bingo in that one episode of bluey. Airport? I’m not going to the airport?

Turns out the tickets are in London. This Sunday. We live in Ireland. My sister bought the tickets, but now I’ll have to book flights and hotel. I have work on Monday so I’ll have to try book that off. We have a family holiday coming up as well as my best friends hen party so really do not have the money for flights and a hotel, if I can even find a hotel this late notice.

I just wish she’d come to me first before telling the girls, as now I’m either going to have to crush their dreams or somehow find a few hundred quid to get us all to London.

AIBU to be so angry at my sister (even tho I think she thought she was doing a nice thing.) and to think that a present should not put the recipient out of pocket…. Sorry I actually don’t even know what I’m expecting people to say back I’m just in need of a good rant.

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Stripeysocks1981 · 19/06/2024 10:57

Ahh I totally get why you’re upset. Your sister is obviously unreasonable but seems to have done it with the kindest intentions, so don’t be too hard on her.

fatphalange · 19/06/2024 10:56

Wow that's terrible. It's a tough spot she's put you in. I'd ask her what her solution is to the problem she's made.

BlossomToLeaves · 19/06/2024 10:55

Yes agreed - lovely idea, but she should have spoken to you first to make sure the logistics were doable and affordable before telling the children.

But given that it's done now - are there things you can do to make it happen? Are flights possible? London is huge and there might be some cheaper accommodation available, even if it means more travelling - or staying nearer the airport or something. Where would you be flying from/to? When could you leave and return? Is it a school night (I think schools might be finished there?) or could you take an extra day? (Edit - sorry just seen you can hopefully take Monday off)

longdistanceclaraclara · 19/06/2024 10:55

She really didn't think that through at all did she.

can she take them?

2dogsandabudgie · 19/06/2024 10:54

Maybe your sister was just so happy that she'd managed to get tickets that she didn't think it through properly.

Shoxfordian · 19/06/2024 10:54

She should really have run it past you, maybe she can take them instead?

ranchdressing · 19/06/2024 10:53

You're totally right! Great gift, terrible execution and not very thoughtful.