My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half.
He has lied to me a few times. These lies were generally small or inconsequential. He gave me 4 different numbers for his salary. Dropping down each time in small incraments but at the end it became obvious that he was on a considerably lower salary.
He says that he lies as an automatic response because he grew up with an abusive dad who'd beat him up whenever he heard something he didn't like.
My counsellor (that I see for an unrelated reason) told me that my boyfriend was a compulsive liar and he admits that he is.
Last incident, yesterday he told me that he went into the office but he was online on an app he couldn't have been if he were. He phoned me at lunchtime as well and it sounded like he was home. He kept saying things like 'let me go out to grab lunch and come back home - I mean the office' as well.
I asked him if he was at home and he adamantly refused. I'm almost certain he was but can't prove it. Thing is, I'm so sick and tired of not being able to trust him. No idea why he'd lie about this or whatever he's covering but I never had that in my previous relationships. Trust was a given.
On the off chance, perhaps he was in the office but at this point I'm considering breaking up because I can't trust a word he says and can't change a 35 year old man. AIBU?