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Sick of people contacting me

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EVIEeeee · 19/06/2024 07:57

I hate it. I know im lucky to have family. I know i am lucky i have friends. I know im lucky i have work aquaintances. But honestly i get so sick of phones and having to reply to texts and wanting to go on whatsapp to message someone but if i do ill have to reply to the other person.

Its silly niggly stuff like those what you doing today texts from my sister. The work friend whos ringing me 3 times on my day off to rant about her shift. She sends you ok?messages all the the time.

My sister whos always so busy with her own life decided last night at 8.50 to ask if she can ring me to tell me something half funny and half sad. I was so tired i did not have the energy for a half hour phone chat. This is the thing. Everytime my sister or a couple of work people and friends call i have to weigh up if i can stop and be on the phone chatting. For up to an hour.

Dont get me wrong i sometimes love a catch up. But i feel prickly today because im tired and back at work tomorrow and ive hsd so much stuff on this last few days.

I miss the 90s when people left you alone.

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TeachesOfPeaches · 19/06/2024 08:21

Put your phone on Do Not Disturb and you won't receive any notifications but can still use your phone if you for other stuff if you want

WhatNoRaisins · 19/06/2024 08:15

How do you think these people would take it if you were to message can't talk right now and suggest a better time?

Hinkuy · 19/06/2024 08:12

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That's so rude. I have ADHD and as part of that an aversion to calls and a need to prioritise my 'alone time'. Doesn't mean I'm abnormal it's just different.

ThisNaiceLemonSloth · 19/06/2024 08:08

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S00tyandSweep · 19/06/2024 08:07

I get it, sometimes I just want peace and quiet.

I tend to put headphones in for family phone calls now and simultaneously clean the bathroom, make the dinner, walk the dog etc; kills two birds with one stone.

pasturesgreen · 19/06/2024 08:06

With your sister, surely you can be blunt and say something along the lines of: "Sorry sis, I'm exhausted, 8.50pm not a good time for a long chat as I'm off to bed soon. Talk again at the weekend or whenever". Then turn off/mute phone.

People ramble on chatting for an hour because you let them.

Birdseyetrifle · 19/06/2024 08:05

I know exactly what you mean. I’m not too fussed by texts or WhatsApp but phone calls in the evening aaaaaarrgghh!

I spend 10 hours a day talking to people/being talked at as a nurse. I don’t want to do it for another hour in the evening. One of my days is literally all phone calls too so no, I don’t want to spend my free time on the phone.

A quick 5 min call wouldn’t be so bad but Why talk the same shit over and over. I switch off to and then realise I’ve no idea what’s been said.

IncognitoUsername · 19/06/2024 08:01

Just turn the phone off or set a time after which you don’t reply (unless it’s an emergency).