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To feel like the worst mum in the world?

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DD6798 · 18/06/2024 22:12

7 month old baby fell off the bed today.

I hadn't left her unattended, I was sat on the bed with her! I was folding clothes, she was right next to me in the middle of the bed and a second later she was on the floor. It was so fast.

She seems absolutely fine, she cried for 2 minutes and then she was back to her normal smiley self. Not a mark on her, no bumps on her head. It's not a very high bed to be fair. I kept her up later than normal because I was worried about concussion but she was getting overtired so I had to put her to bed at 9. Obviously I'm keeping a very close eye on her tonight.

I can't stop thinking about it. I keep replaying it over and over in my head, hearing the thud as she hit the floor, thinking what could have happened if she'd landed at a different angle etc. I just feel utterly shit.

Not sure what I'm expecting from posting really, just needed to get it off my chest!

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HiDaisy · 19/06/2024 08:25

My almost two year old also fell down the stairs! Top to bottom which was honestly traumatising but she's fine

Vettrianofan · 19/06/2024 07:07

Babies bounce. Don't worry, many of us have had this freak thing happen with our babies. My 17yo did this and fell off the changing table as a baby which is higher up than a bed.

Your baby will more than likely be fine, it's the parents that get more of a fright than anything else!

bows101 · 18/06/2024 23:10

Multiple times. I'm a terrible mum given that I hadn't learnt not to keep putting baby on the bed!

AnonSoc · 18/06/2024 23:02

DD6798 · 18/06/2024 22:12

7 month old baby fell off the bed today.

I hadn't left her unattended, I was sat on the bed with her! I was folding clothes, she was right next to me in the middle of the bed and a second later she was on the floor. It was so fast.

She seems absolutely fine, she cried for 2 minutes and then she was back to her normal smiley self. Not a mark on her, no bumps on her head. It's not a very high bed to be fair. I kept her up later than normal because I was worried about concussion but she was getting overtired so I had to put her to bed at 9. Obviously I'm keeping a very close eye on her tonight.

I can't stop thinking about it. I keep replaying it over and over in my head, hearing the thud as she hit the floor, thinking what could have happened if she'd landed at a different angle etc. I just feel utterly shit.

Not sure what I'm expecting from posting really, just needed to get it off my chest!

This happened to my DH when our son was a bit younger. DH placed DS on the sofa for two seconds while he got up to get DS's bottle and DS, who was only just starting to learn to roll at that point, rolled himself off the sofa, onto our wooden floor.
I was freaked out and a bit PFB, so I insisted that we took DS to A&E but there was nothing wrong with him.

BringItOnxxx · 18/06/2024 22:57

OP this happened to me but the worst thing was the pram almost rolling into the road and a woman grabbed it. I still have flashbacks. It was without a doubt the worst few seconds of my life.

lovemycbf · 18/06/2024 22:53

Many years ago I had baby on my hip trying to shut a bedroom door which wouldn't shut .....because my baby had put their fingers in the hinge side ,I was so upset I'd done it even though it was an accident.
It was just that for you an accident,we all do it at some point

NoNameNonsense · 18/06/2024 22:50

Don’t worry OP. Something will have happened to every single one of us on here I can assure you!! And we will all feel absolutely horrendous and at the time like the worst mum ever. But we are not and I’m sure all our DC are happy and healthy now!

DontBuyANewMumCashmere · 18/06/2024 22:49

My DSis had her son roll off a changing unit onto her neck when she lent down to get fresh clothes out the drawers...
I had both babies roll off the bed and one off the sofa too.

Character building!! 🤔😂

Abbyant · 18/06/2024 22:47

Can I ask is this your first child?
I’m sure your little one is perfectly fine, they’re going to fall and get bumps even if you wrap them in cotton wool they’re just great at it.

Devilsmommy · 18/06/2024 22:45

TemuSpecialBuy · 18/06/2024 22:21

This happens to pretty much everyone.

happened to our oldest….youngest is still yet to roll off a bed but my husband did manage to only pick up one Basinette handle and dramatically “unfurl”/ roll our 3 day old baby a meter or so across our hall. 🤦🏻‍♀️
ultimately no babies were harmed

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🤣 I'm sorry just the image of an unfurling bassinet cracked me up. Babies are wily, they'll get into all sorts of shit and leave you standing there thinking what the fuck? 😳

TippedOverTheGravyJug · 18/06/2024 22:40

It happens. And in the nicest way it won't be the last time. My 4th dc I put in pushchair. Didn't strap in as was in lounge but feeding them ( highchair covers were in washing machine) figured I'm sat here the pram bar was on.
However it wasn't clicked in. Dc leant forward and flipped out head first. 6m old onto tiled floor.
Felt so bad .
Other dcs gave fallen of beds , sofas you name it.
Please don't beat yourself up

DD6798 · 18/06/2024 22:39

HiDaisy · 18/06/2024 22:28

Happened to me around the same age - I called an ambulance Blush she was absolutely fine

Oh I thought about it! But I thought it would be quicker to get my husband to come home and take us to the hospital. Called him sobbing, he rushed home and ran through the door and she grinned at him. He looked at me like I was mental 🫣

I have to say he's been lovely and keeps telling me not to beat myself up. Before this happened, I'm not sure I would have been so gracious if it was under his watch! But I genuinely don't even know how it happened

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DD6798 · 18/06/2024 22:36

These responses have made me feel so much better, thank you all so much ❤️

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Foreverexhausted1 · 18/06/2024 22:35

When my son was learning to sit up he went to throw himself backwards and I reacted quickly to stop him from banging his head on a solid wall. I reacted so quickly I pulled his elbow and we had to take him to the children's hospital so they could manipulate it back into place. Not my finest parenting moment!

Knitgoodwoman · 18/06/2024 22:31

My DH smashed our 7 month old’s head against a stile when he was in the baby back pack out walking! He’s now 9 and top of the class. We’ve all done similar things app.

HiDaisy · 18/06/2024 22:28

Happened to me around the same age - I called an ambulance Blush she was absolutely fine

outside1inside · 18/06/2024 22:27

DD fell off a table at 2 months. I put her there in a baby snug thing while I did the washing. She was fine the first 10 or so times but then she learns to move and I didn't know. I took her to a&e I was terrified. But she was fine.

upanddownandupanddown · 18/06/2024 22:26

Happened to me. He now makes fun of me for it (he’s a 6ft+ teenager now) He was fine!

Ihaveneedofwaternear · 18/06/2024 22:23

I accidentally punched my 7 day old baby I'm the face when I was trying to pull a scarf out from round my neck! I was devastated, I sobbed and sobbed, way longer than he did. He was fine 🤣 Second born fell off the sofa twice as a baby. It happens 🤷‍♀️

TemuSpecialBuy · 18/06/2024 22:21

This happens to pretty much everyone.

happened to our oldest….youngest is still yet to roll off a bed but my husband did manage to only pick up one Basinette handle and dramatically “unfurl”/ roll our 3 day old baby a meter or so across our hall. 🤦🏻‍♀️
ultimately no babies were harmed

CatsRuleOkay · 18/06/2024 22:21

I left my baby on the cot top changer to have a quick wee - knew I shouldn’t have but was desperate & baby wasn’t old enough to move around much.

Obviously he fell off, I felt like the worst Mum in the world, he’s now 17 - just a distant memory from when he wasn’t six foot!

bzarda · 18/06/2024 22:20

Completely understand that sick feeling.
My baby launched herself off the bed and the changing table once too. I was standing in front of her both times and she still managed! She also once flung herself back onto our hard wooden floor when she was learning to sit independently. No lasting damage and I was more upset than her every time.

What helped me was someone told me that there are only 2 types of parents - those that have had their babies fall off something under their supervision, and liars!

vodkaredbullgirl · 18/06/2024 22:20

Welcome to the club, both mine have done it too all fine.

xerneas · 18/06/2024 22:19

My baby slid off the bed while I was stood in front of her!!! It happens to us all.

Screamingabdabz · 18/06/2024 22:18

Don’t worry op. That happens to every parent. The fact that you are fretting about it means you are a good mum. 💐