To have given her extra food?

I wouldn’t have given her two slices of cake and I’d be annoyed if you did that with my child.
Your child is much younger but you’re going to have to learn to say no. Two slices of cake is too much for a child, especially after eating a full pack lunch plus whatever other stuff you handed her.

Gosh that's quite a lot of food in the space of an afternoon especially the fact she had two slices of cake on top of two meals.

I'm sure her mum was happy you could have her but I can see why she was a bit annoyed about the quantity of food she ate in just a few hours.

Also of course you can tell her she can't have any more surely you do that to your child too?

I'd put the chicken in a pitta myself, yes. I wouldn't eat the cake because life is too short to eat food that doesn't taste nice.

I like cake, many kinds of cake. I don't like cake that tastes nasty.

I like cake, many kinds of cake. I don't like cake that tastes nasty.

Ooh pushing the boat out with a whole pitta.

Cake does taste nice and I'm sad for anyone who doesn't like it.

I'd put the chicken in a pitta myself, yes. I wouldn't eat the cake because life is too short to eat food that doesn't taste nice.

Gold star for you

Personally I'd eat that lunch and the cake because life is too short! And I might even put the chicken in a sandwich. Can you believe it. Outrageous.

She said there ‘was nothing wrong with the original lunch, my dd(2) would eat similar’, she thought the child was still hungry as she ‘asked to try what op was having’.

if she was still hungry (which is not what she said) she could have topped her up with a bit of what she was having and/or some cake after, not serve her up a other plate of food, and 2 slices of cake on top of that, which the child didn’t even ask for.

it can be inferred from what was supplied by her mum that that is the amount she would normally eat at lunch and you know she’s a healthy normal weight because op has said so, so no issue with starvation etc..

i think op meant well but got too caught up in wanting the child to like her to use her common sense to think that food of that quantity could make her feel unwell later in the day.

I wouldn't call liking good basic food faddy. I'd choose the child's lunch over the Costco cake anyday because I'd enjoy it. Chicken, grapes and cheese taste nice. Soreen bars are okay, I'd happily eat one if hungry.

They are everywhere. It’s because we have the luxury of being faddy in this day and age.

It depends. But this woman seems intent on spoiling for a fight in messaging the OP so aggressively and then demanding a reply when she didn't get one.

I wouldn't want to hear what she said back or ever see her again so I'd block

Am I just old or is blocking incredibly childish ( unless a creepy stalker)?

I thought you'd be interested to know that she obviously hasn't seen this thread

She followed up her last message to me with 'No response to this?'

I have now left it quite late to reply anything at all!

Anyway, hopefully she realises her mistake but I don't think she ever will - it is clear I am the one in the wrong, in her eyes

Still a board full of food-Puritans, though.

Oh yes, maybe she gave her a plate with nothing on it.. I hadn’t thought of that, actually come to think of it, that’s obviously what op meant after all.. she gave her an empty plate of nothing.

OR.. she asked to try some and op gave her a plate of it assuming she would leave what she didn’t want (which is exactly what she said) but the girl was either hungry enough for that (maybe didn’t realise there was going to be cake after) or felt too polite to leave anything behind. And then she was given cake.. then given more cake..

giving two dinners and two puddings to a 7 year old is extreme and unnecessary, OP only stopped giving her stuff when she physically couldn’t eat any more..

To be honest I’ve known a few people like OP, they are genuinely well meaning and lovely people, they offer you something, then when you say ‘yes please, but only a small bit’ because that is what you would like, they give you a massive piece, or they pile your plate high cause they assume you were being polite in asking for a small piece/small dinner. You then feel awkward and rude if you don’t eat it all, it’s an easy trap to fall into, even worse if you are a child and don’t know your hosts very well. I just say no now, because they can’t be trusted to just take what you say at face value.

there’s being kind and respecting peoples choices, then there’s being kind and thinking you know better as to what they want/need and give it them regardless, op is obviously in the latter category.

She said the packed lunch was what her 2 year old daughter would eat. This was a 7 year old. There is at least the implication it was not enough. And the child asked if she could try some of OP's lunch. If I give someone a plate, that does not mean a plate full of food, but a PLATE on which some food will then go. Whatever was on the plate the child ate it all and then had room for a slice (size unknown) and a bit more of cake. I think she sounds either hungry or starved of nice food at home - i.e. her DM sees food as fuel not something you actually enjoy. Terrible attitude to food, if that's the case. Lot of Puritans on here, btw, who seem to think eating food because you enjoy it is a sin. It's not.

She said there ‘was nothing wrong with the original lunch, my dd(2) would eat similar’, she thought the child was still hungry as she ‘asked to try what op was having’.

if she was still hungry (which is not what she said) she could have topped her up with a bit of what she was having and/or some cake after, not serve her up a other plate of food, and 2 slices of cake on top of that, which the child didn’t even ask for.

it can be inferred from what was supplied by her mum that that is the amount she would normally eat at lunch and you know she’s a healthy normal weight because op has said so, so no issue with starvation etc..

i think op meant well but got too caught up in wanting the child to like her to use her common sense to think that food of that quantity could make her feel unwell later in the day.

Her 2 yo would be hungry because she is used to her mum stuffing her with junk food.

It could have been but op described it and said her 2yo would be hungry which suggests it was a small portion surely?

She could have just fancied it. I still wouldn't be bothered!

I personally would have been more concerned from the OP pov that the child was given grapes to eat by her mother! ! A grape stuck in a child’s airway is far more of a hazard than 2 slices of cake. I say this from experience from working in AE aand also personally choking on a grape when I was 21 …luckily my medic colleague did a fantastic chest thrust to remove it!
Absolutely no child on my watch is allowed grapes !