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Cat Deeley making fun of epilepsy

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Weemammy21 · 18/06/2024 18:58

AIBU in thinking that any tv presenter who ridicules people with serious health conditions should not be in post? This is what I think about Cat Deeley ridiculing people with epilepsy during This morning yesterday. People like this should not be tv presenters because of their intolerance and making fun of children and adults with epilepsy. AIBU?

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Idontjetwashthefucker · 18/06/2024 20:41

Not a fan of hers but she made a silly joke and has apologised. Move on

Springchickenonion · 18/06/2024 20:34

You don't need to be offended by everything.

XenoBitch · 18/06/2024 20:21

FFS, she made fun of her own dancing, not people with epilepsy.

She didn't even mention epilepsy. Seizures happen for several reasons, with some being nothing to do with epilepsy. They are a symptom, not an illness.

Lou16777 · 18/06/2024 20:16

NotADailyMailJournalist · 18/06/2024 19:28

I thought her apology was badly worded. She said "I made a light hearted comment". She should have said it was "intended" to be lighthearted. Sounded like she was belittling the people who complained and making it clear she was apologising under duress.

If you can't control your gob don't work in live tv for a huge salary.

This. I thought I was the only one who thought her apology was badly worded and very forced!

My daughter and partner have epilepsy, whilst no one is responsible for our own personal triggers, I didn't think it was right to say. However, I don't think she should be cancelled.

Bunnybear42 · 18/06/2024 19:58

A bad insensitive joke that is all !! The world has gone mad!!! OP get a grip!
I hear comments about people joking they must be deaf when they don't hear something/ it doesn't offend me and my daughter is deaf. I know they are not being rude about the deaf community. It's all about the context . We need to stop the madness... t

LittleMonks11 · 18/06/2024 19:55

Oh get away with yourself - and take your pearls with you.

Sue152 · 18/06/2024 19:54

Weemammy21 · 18/06/2024 18:58

AIBU in thinking that any tv presenter who ridicules people with serious health conditions should not be in post? This is what I think about Cat Deeley ridiculing people with epilepsy during This morning yesterday. People like this should not be tv presenters because of their intolerance and making fun of children and adults with epilepsy. AIBU?

Are you one of the professionally offended? Do you suffer from epilepsy or are you just choosing to be offended on behalf of other people?

The comment was poorly thought out but might actually end up bringing attention to the disease and hopefully This Morning will do a slot on it to increase understanding further.

When deciding whether to be offended by someone the first thing I do is look to see if the person intends to cause offense. If they don't then a little education is always the best answer.

Dontcallmescarface · 18/06/2024 19:53

Dp has epilepsy and the he'd find her comments funny... he often jokes about how he could win a breakdancing competition whilst having a seizure.

MartyFunkhouser · 18/06/2024 19:45

Roundroundthegarden · 18/06/2024 19:44

Where is everyone reading the apology?

She apologised on TM today. It was that or get put in stocks by the professionally offended.

AthenaBasil · 18/06/2024 19:44

I’m offended - not everyone who has a seizure has epilepsy! See it’s easy to be offended but gets tiring.

In real life I find people say things like this all the time and no one is offended.

Roundroundthegarden · 18/06/2024 19:44

Where is everyone reading the apology?

MartyFunkhouser · 18/06/2024 19:42

She was dancing, jokingly said ‘I’m just having a seizure’.

It was a silly comment and she apologised. But, let’s be honest, it was exactly the sort of thing people in rl say all the time.

She absolutely wasn’t ridiculing anyone. People can’t wait to be offended.

MyBreezyPombear · 18/06/2024 19:41

My DM has epilepsy and the comment didn't offend her at all. It's the kind of thing she'd find funny.

soupfiend · 18/06/2024 19:39

Not all seizures are caused by epilepsy though, I wouldnt even think of epilepsy if someone mentioned seizures, I would think of someone having a seizure. Thats it.

piningforautumn · 18/06/2024 19:38

The only way to avoid offending someone, somewhere, these days is to never say a word. None of us should have the right to never be offended, and we're doomed to disappointment if we think we do. Or, if we manage to force everyone around us to carefully weigh every word or give fake apologies for fear of being 'cancelled', we'll live in an extremely dull and colourless society, which seems to be the way we're currently headed.

Kinneddar · 18/06/2024 19:38

Weemammy21 · 18/06/2024 18:58

AIBU in thinking that any tv presenter who ridicules people with serious health conditions should not be in post? This is what I think about Cat Deeley ridiculing people with epilepsy during This morning yesterday. People like this should not be tv presenters because of their intolerance and making fun of children and adults with epilepsy. AIBU?

Only that's really a pretty exaggerated version of what happened

neverbeenskiing · 18/06/2024 19:38

Hotgirlwinter · 18/06/2024 19:33

I must have a dark sense of humour bc me and my friends mock our many conditions, disabilities, mental health problems and traumas all the time. 😬

I do think there's a distinction between making light of your own condition and making fun of someone else's. She was right to apologise IMO. Now she has apologised I think a line should be drawn under it though, I can think of plenty of male TV personalities who have said and done much worse and not been pilloried for it.

PCcrisps · 18/06/2024 19:35

I do think it was a strange mistake for someone so media savvy to have made, but was a mistake and she's given a prompt and proper apology. .

I don't necessarily think seizure = epilepsy in the minds of people who aren't affected

MaggieFS · 18/06/2024 19:35

Oh give over. She made a mistake and she's apologised. Take the positive, it's brought this into the limelight and now more people will hopefully think twice before saying the same.

Hotgirlwinter · 18/06/2024 19:33

I must have a dark sense of humour bc me and my friends mock our many conditions, disabilities, mental health problems and traumas all the time. 😬

Anyotherdude · 18/06/2024 19:33

YABVVU, and the mental gymnastics you have performed to reach that conclusion indicate that you haven’t learned how to think - same as Cat’s lapse. At least she owned her error and acknowledged it.

MrsClownland · 18/06/2024 19:33

Presumably not ok to say "you nearly gave me a heart attack" since that belittles the serious impact of an actual heart attack (I am going by what it's claimed she said on this thread - if she actually said something offensive I would take that back)

LittleBitAlexisLaLaLaLaLa · 18/06/2024 19:32

She shouldn’t have said it but it doesn’t seem like she intended to offend anyone, she meant it to be self deprecating and she promptly apologised, as she should have done. If she doubled down/refused to apologise you’d have a point OP. But that isn’t what happened.

Hotgirlwinter · 18/06/2024 19:31

You think people with epilepsy (or any other condition or disability) can’t make fun of themselves or have a laugh at their own expense?

She wasn’t punching down, she made a silly, impulsive joke that wasn’t an attempt to ridicule.

But again, why do you think disabled people haven’t got a sense of humour and wouldn’t see the comedy in someone saying oh I’m such a bad dancer I look like I’m having a seizure?