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Touching a bird feather

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user19888891 · 18/06/2024 17:23

DH came home from work and I’ve had the kids all day. We’d been out in the garden and some of the toys were lying out. Almost instantly after looking out the window he says ‘I hope they weren’t playing with that feather’. To which I said ‘why?’ And he said ‘because it’s fucking disgusting’. So I said yes they had and it’s not a problem. He then said he wasn’t talking about it any further, or words to that effect, then proceeds to go out to the garden straight away to lift the feather with a bit of kitchen roll and put it in the bin. To be clear, this was a loose feather found in the garden, appears to be from a seagull. It wasn’t from a carcass or roadkill etc.
I really don’t see this issue? The kids are young and like exploring and they cleaned their hands when they got in. I think his reaction is quite odd because he seemed to think I was being outrageous for allowing this to happen? Who is being unreasonable?

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Hazelville · 19/06/2024 05:04

hot cut off but also bird flu which doctors at the hospital have warned me snout because of my health.

Hazelville · 19/06/2024 05:03

GasPanic · 18/06/2024 17:31

I wouldn't pick up random bird feathers or bits of animal fur.

Wild animals have parasites and mites and various unpleasant bacteria and are best left alone.

And while you may wash your hands afterwards, your kids may stick their fingers in their mouths or hair before they wash them, or transfer stuff to their clothes.

Still, I doubt whether they are likely to die from the experience.

Im sorry but I agree with the above. Psittacosis is can be transmitted by pigeons and doves but also birds kept as pets. My mum used to warn us about it when I was a child. You can’t always see when the bird is ill so not something you can tell on sight. Also bir

wiggleweggle · 19/06/2024 04:50

I have to admit, I am
Pretty crunchy but feathers give me the ick.

SnowFrogJelly · 19/06/2024 00:13
Confused
StarDolphins · 18/06/2024 23:48

i looked out the window the other day & my DD was tickling the dogs nose with a big feather then stuck it on her hair!

No probs at all, we wash hands when we come in anyway! & eve. The dog got a wet wipe nose clean!

He’s going to make them neurotic!

Godnotthisagain · 18/06/2024 23:42

He is insane.

Our kids are farm kids. They have feathers, bones, fur and god knows what else in their collections. They're taught the importance of washing before eating and things like that, but it's completely normal and healthy to be fascinated by the natural world.
Is it any wonder that we are raising a generation so disconnected from nature with loonies like him doing the parenting?

Beamur · 18/06/2024 23:04

I love collecting all kinds of rubbish but at the moment I wouldn't touch feathers. Avian flu crossing over to humans could trigger another pandemic. It's not worth the risk.
Not the same as domestic chicken feathers which are pretty grubby but unlikely to be contaminated by flu virus

user19888891 · 18/06/2024 22:59

Thank you everyone. Good points about avian flu which I hadn’t thought of

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soundsys · 18/06/2024 22:02

Ispywithmylittlepie · 18/06/2024 18:01

God I remember trying to make quills with them as a kid but I was a bit strange like that. My children love finding feathers. They are always messing with sticks too. We can't walk anywhere without one of them finding and carrying a feather or a stick. They haven't come to harm because of it.

Ha my 9-year-old currently had a few of these quill feathers in her desk so it's not just you.

My kids are obsessed with collecting feathers and my instinct is to think bleurgh but I let them get on with it and just insist on hand washing

WayOutOfLine · 18/06/2024 22:00

I would have said harmless and I always have loved feathers, but having googled it, it seems it isn't a good idea with bird flu going around, we are in an area which has had bird flu locally, so I shall bear that in mind.

Grumpyoldpersonwithcats · 18/06/2024 21:43

I always pick up decent feathers to use as cat toys. We keep a few in our living room. I genuinely never realised that some people are so worried by them.

iknke45 · 18/06/2024 21:41

I wash the feather!! 😆 or anti bac spray if we're out.

More bird flu now due to climate.

FairyRings · 18/06/2024 21:41

TitusMoan · 18/06/2024 21:26

Some people rip up all their dirty grass and put that plastic artificial shite down so they can wash it. The world has gone mad.

Yep same people spraying anti bac spray everywhere. God only knows what these kids’ immune systems will be like as adults. Living in sterile environments is not good for them at all.
Everyone knows kids with pets have healthier immune systems because of the filth 😆 and kids living on farms healthier still.

MartyFunkhouser · 18/06/2024 21:32

My son, when he was little, filled a scrapbook with feathers he collected and labelled.

My husband still brings home nice ones!

Letmehaveabloodyusernameplease · 18/06/2024 21:28

Bloody Hell, I remember being a kid on Blackpool beach in the seventies and we'd stick seagull feathers in the top of sandcastles then eat fish and chips with our hands.

TitusMoan · 18/06/2024 21:26

mondaytosunday · 18/06/2024 18:31

What? Finding feathers and collecting them is absolutely fine! No different than touching grass or picking up a leaf.

Some people rip up all their dirty grass and put that plastic artificial shite down so they can wash it. The world has gone mad.

newroundhere · 18/06/2024 21:22

When I was a kid I remember being told that feathers were dirty and not to pick them up. Looking back I'm not sure why but it's fairly ingrained in me and I don't like DS picking them up now...

PMPBlue · 18/06/2024 21:18

Oh and we now keep chickens so it hasn't scared me off birds for life.

PMPBlue · 18/06/2024 21:17

NeverDropYourMooncup · 18/06/2024 18:08

People are weird about birds (and it's largely based upon historic attitudes - bird flu hasn't helped, but I reckon it's all tied in with chicken needing to be cooked through, stories of elderly people getting ill from parrots or racing pigeons and because they're wild animals who could have ticks or mites. Oh, and the shit.)

A good handwash after touching a feather is sufficient.

I got ill with psittacosis (the illness you get from parrots).

It nearly bloody killed me!

To add insult to injury, I hadn't been anywhere near a parrot for years- but apparently, less than 1% of wild birds carry the bacteria. I'd recently stayed at a Centerparcs, so I blame them 😁

Anyway, I wouldn't freak out but I'd definitely ask the kids to leave the feathers alone and wash their hands.

Dymaxion · 18/06/2024 21:13

DS and DD each had one short episode of illness ( a couple of days ) through their entire primary school days, ( and no I never sent them in ill, they just didn't get ill ) DD had none in secondary and DS only had one when he had covid, the symptoms lasted less than 24 hrs.
They both grew up surrounded by horses, chickens, barn cats, dogs etc , scrabbling around in the dirt, being slobbered on, hugging random animals, putting stuff in their mouths they probably shouldn't etc.
Never mind mites, headlice were the real bane of my life through primary !

Apollo365 · 18/06/2024 21:04

TotalAbsenceOfImperialRaiment · 18/06/2024 20:58

Your husband seems to have led a sheltered life. Does he realise that some people have birds and animals that live in the house with them?

This is a pet though, totally different!
like having a pet rat Vs a rat in a sewer

TotalAbsenceOfImperialRaiment · 18/06/2024 20:58

Your husband seems to have led a sheltered life. Does he realise that some people have birds and animals that live in the house with them?

WappityWabbit · 18/06/2024 20:55

What a loon! Is he normally so paranoid?
I keep a few hens so I'll acquire the occasional feather stuck to me. If I see a nice feather when I'm out at the beach, I'll pick it up and take it home. I like to use them for various art activities. 😂

GrannyAchingsShepherdsHut · 18/06/2024 20:55

I would consider a feather to be no different to picking up a stick, or a rock, or a leaf. It's good that they're interested in natural things - and feathers are fascinating imo.

In fact, just this weekend DD picked up a scruffled up crow feather and gave it to me, she was fascinated when I 'combed' it with my fingers and got it all to lie flat and neat again. And no, we didn't wash out hands until we went to the loo later on, didn't even occur to me that we should. But then, I don't routinely wash hands as soon as I get home, and I sit on the bed in my normal clothes, so it's a miracle we've all survived and not caught bubonic plague I suppose. I even ate some haribo I dropped on the patio earlier. 3 second rule, innit.

BraMaHaLas · 18/06/2024 20:45

We used to clean bird skulls with Colgate as kids so I certainly wouldn’t fret over a feather.

(Just to clarify they would be skulls found in the wooded area of the garden, I wasn’t killing and butchering them with own hand!)