To think some of the things said on here, very few people actually think/do in real life?

The women on here whose husbands never get bloody pissed off because the kids are screaming their lungs out/mother in law is staying for six weeks/the new car has been pranged. The women who say their husbands would never be unfaithful because they are too respectful and "not the type". Ditto, their husbands would never watch porn. The women whose teenage kids always clean their rooms and clear up after making a sandwich. The women on here whose husbands have half a can of lager a week, at most.

I do sometimes wonder if I live in some strange micro bubble, although I have friends and colleagues from a fairly broad range of ages and backgrounds. Are these perfect situations real?

The faux misunderstanding when someone uses the wrong words - draw/drawer, bought/brought - never happens in real life. Everyone knows exactly what is meant and doesn’t feel the need to belittle someone for a wrong word.

I’ve never forgotten the vile poster who, on a thread where a woman had been punched in the face by her partner, pretended not to understand what “we’ve just brought a house and all my money is in it, I’ve got no savings left” meant.

Nobody in real life would actually say to someone in clear distress “I don’t understand, where did you bring your house?”

Copious amounts of bleach. And leave for a while before flushing. I’ve never had anything in my toilet that this didn’t fix!

I haven't seen some of these comments. But I think toilet brushes are truly disgusting and wouldn't have one in the house

Bidet hose

It’s similar to when someone on here uses certain words of turns of phrases to make themselves seem posh or superior and belittle someone else like “oh do” followed by what they want to say or something like that but no one actually talks like that or on a posh thread of the queen or someone that everyone obsesses over they’ve got to be using their most posh words

Gloves and a sponge 🤢🤢🤢

Oh my goodness I so agree.
Lots more I come across on Mumsnet daily but never see people doing in real life.
i thought it was just me living some alternate universe to people on here! 😂

I agree that people are often deliberately contrary or hugely exaggerate their own assertive/ witty come backs when in tricky situations but I can assure you I don’t have a loo brush and never have.

Er...what do people use if not a toilet brush?

Yes to the majority but I, genuinely, have never owned a toilet brush - they’re disgusting. Sorry!

In real life I see quite a few instances where someone is rude but normally the person doesn’t stand up to them and create a scene whereas if you go by MN the standard response is to put people in their places.

Opposite sex siblings (wanting to share a room) until one moved out at 19? That's weird and sus nothing to do with finances!

I agree with you on most but I really grew up in a house with no toilet brush and have never had one in any of my homes as an adult 😀

@JacquesHarlow I can honestly say that in real life, in my experience, it's only the ones who are very obviously taking the piss that cause the issues.

One woman I spoke to had recently taken over a new team. She'd picked up quickly that there were issues with one person but she couldn't quite work out what they were as this woman has HR-agreed reasonable adjustments to take into account a disability and she was concerned that the team didn't appreciate that. But then she discovered that the reasonable adjustments weren't the problem - everyone was fully supportive of those, whcih had been in place for a long time. it was the fact that the reasonable adjustments had been bastardized by this woman - so originally they were designed to help her avoid rush hour so come in early leave early or com ein late, leave late. But instead, she was coming in late (post school run) and leaving early (pre school run) and was completely offline on either side of it. Last I heard, this woman was considering disciplinary processes.

I've also often had clients tell me that x or y won't be on the call or will be dialling in late becuase of emergency childcare issues, and the sense has always been that it's no big deal.

So my experience is generally nicely balanced although I'm sure it's not like that across the board.

Yeah, but then something related to those views are presented in the MSM as a 'Twitter storm' and there are demands for the government to take action to resolve the supposed grievance.
In reality, it's half a dozen nut jobs and agitators.

LTB. Yes, there are so many harrowing tales on MN, but equally there are so many LTB over minor transgressions, obviously bringing 3 kids up on your own on minimum wage, running yourself ragged, worrying about every bill, is a better life than picking your husband's underpants off the floor.
And there's the folk who seem to have no comprehension about poverty - well just go out and buy some then, or why are you in a NMW job, get a better job?

But - I don't have a toilet brush!

I agree with it all bar the toilet brush and I blame Mumsnet for that! I was younger and influenced easier and threw it away, but to be fair they are gross.

Nothing you’ve listed feels like the kind of thing ‘nobody’ thinks or does. They’re just things you don’t personally agree with.

Also, who the hell inspects everyone’s bathrooms for a bog brush every time they go for a wee at a friend’s house? Who is even interested in how anyone else cleans their toilet?

Yes. Me I did it for over a year.
I hated my job and knew I wanted to leave after she started school
I was also good enough at my job to do what they needed and no more.

But my goodness, I've seen certain colleagues in other teams, who refuse to ever come on camera, who can't make meetings at all during an entire afternoon, or who are continuously on mute and never contribute to a meeting because of childcare while working

@JacquesHarlow not having a pop at you, but this really annoys me. Employers should be dealing with this, not letting it go

Lots of keyboard warriors on MN encouraging others to be unnecessarily aggressive / hostile to people

Also, many who refuse to answer the door

And, many people who struggle to make / keep friendships. Go figure

I think money should definitely be a consideration when deciding whether to have children (or more children), and people shouldn't deliberately create children they know they can't afford to feed, clothe, and care for, but sharing a room isn't the end of the world.

Some people on here knowingly spout nonsense, but there's also a fairly broad range of opinions and experiences.

@GerbilsForever24

You said:

"eg people working from home with small children - I am a consultant and i speak with a LOT of clients and I can tell you that in real life, this is a hot topic of internal gossip and debate. NOTHING riles up a team more than when they suspect a colleague is routinely having their child at home while "working" (most are sympathetic to emergency situations. Just not when it's always)."

I agree with this partially. I think people who get riled up by this on principle, as in "they're getting an advantage that I haven't got"... are just wrong and should focus on something else.

But my goodness, I've seen certain colleagues in other teams, who refuse to ever come on camera, who can't make meetings at all during an entire afternoon, or who are continuously on mute and never contribute to a meeting because of childcare while working.

Ugh! I am a woman, a mother, I support mothers, but FGS, don't take liberties and actually distort the concept of working.

I do think a lot of the super-frothy, 'far left wing' views on here are views that no-one in real life actually thinks. No-one I know thinks like that in real life. On the internet, Twitter, Facebook, message forums yeah, but not in real life.