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To not allow DP to use my mat?

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BestestBrownies · 18/06/2024 13:51

DP wants to use my lovely new pilates mat (thick, spongy one), as a mattress when he goes camping at a festival this weekend.

He has form for taking without asking borrowing my belongings and/or lending them out to others without first seeking my permission, so my annoyance may be coloured by his past behaviours.

YANBU Your lovely new mat will absorb all the gross camping/unwashed body smells and will never be properly clean and useable for pilates ever again.

YABU It's no big deal and the mat can just be cleaned afterwards.

OP posts:
TeaKitten · 18/06/2024 14:06

I can’t see why you need to make a fuss or ‘hide it’, just say no I’m doing Pilates this weekend and that’s my Pilates mat. Job done.

Then he can go buy his own mat, I paid £4 for a cheap one from Aldi last year they aren’t exactly expensive!

fluffiphlox · 18/06/2024 14:04

Hide it.

FOJN · 18/06/2024 13:58

No, tell him to go and buy one. It's a pilates mat not a sleeping mat.

He has form for taking without asking borrowing my belongings and/or lending them out to others without first seeking my permission, so my annoyance may be coloured by his past behaviours.

And tell him to stop this appallingly disrespectful behaviour.

I might be reading too much into it but he isn't behaving like someone who respects you as an individual, anything you have that he wants he just takes. I wouldn't do that with someone else's possessions and I wouldn't put up with someone doing it to me.

PiggieWig · 18/06/2024 13:58

I wouldn’t allow anyone to take anything I like to a festival!! YANBU

Leidenschaft24 · 18/06/2024 13:57

Nope. Could it go on a little holiday to a friends house or some other place he won't look?
It's a bit crap that he won't just accept your no tbh.

poolemoney · 18/06/2024 13:57

He has form for taking without asking borrowing my belongings and/or lending them out to others without first seeking my permission, so my annoyance may be coloured by his past behaviours.

This would ge me the rage. Who the fuck does he think he is taking your things without permission and lending them out? How would he react if you did the same to his things?

PLEASE hide your mat where he definitely can't find it.

Caroparo52 · 18/06/2024 13:54

nofuckingway
Hide it away.

Limbo2 · 18/06/2024 13:54

No don't let him, it will be filthy and ruined. I've never managed to get a camping mat fully clean once used

ToxicChristmas · 18/06/2024 13:52

YANBU. He can go and buy one for himself, camping mats are not expensive.

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