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Why are some men unreasonable when it comes to child maintenance?

27 replies

Zakyn · 18/06/2024 11:16

My case - why would my ex (divorce in process) quit his almost £50k a year job from home to avoid child maintenance, just to be unemployed, then look for work again, have 15 unsuccessful (full round) interviews and financially struggle/be broke/live with his mum.

He doesn't see his child. I have initially asked him for £50 a month😭which he refused before taking it to CMS. Why would anyone do this to themselves? Our child is only 5, so surely his initial thought weren't to be unemployed for 13+ years.

I've tried long and hard to think of a reasoning behind his decision but other than the fact, he's utterly stupid, nothing rational comes to mind.😩

OP posts:
SpringerFall · 18/06/2024 11:22

Because in an ideal world every child would have 2 parents who want them equally but just because 2 people have sex and a pregnancy comes of it doesn't not mean it happens

It can't be that hard to understand we don't live in a soap opera

Nor 'but I thought it would bring us together' is another gem, why?

something2say · 18/06/2024 11:17

To punish you.
Because they feel you are getting the money, not the child.
To wield power and hurt you with it.