Neighbour annoyed at me over her bins

This!

If you had read it, you would surely have seen the bit where there was a bin outside her neighbour’s house. She was on her way to work and on seeing that, thought it was done. That’s why people assume you didn’t read it…

Did you miss the bit where she checked and there was a bin outside her neighbour’s house?!

Don't write utter nonsense and someone won't tell you not to write nonsense. It's really simple.

OP saw a bin outside the house, assumed the daughter (who is an adult entirely capable of putting a bin out) had put the bin out and that was that. If you'd read the post-you'd have seen that part-and not suggested that the OP could have put the bin out. The bin that she already assumed was out?

Christ-if that's you reading the whole post-your reading comprehension is atrocious.

I did read the fucking post. Don’t be so rude and presumptuous.

I explained that I’d add it to my list but my husband was working away, I was working in the office on the day the bins were put out so I’d be doing mine quickly and I’d have a quick check of hers while the kids were getting into the car in the morning.

Why didn't you say no?

@Growlybear83 OP agreed to help her neighbour who asked her to put the bin out She assumed quite understanably that the bin she saw belonged to said neighbour and that the daughter had put it out, how is OP at fault??

Fuck me, some people on MN must be absolute pushovers IRL if they think you were wrong 😂

I think that you’ve had some mad answers.

Yanbu to assume that the bin outside your neighbour’s house was hers and that her dd should be able to do something so basic.

I don’t like getting up early on bin day so I bring out my wheelie bin the night before . That way the bin men always take my bin.

Hopefully she will never ask you again.

Why would you have to ask someone in their late twenties if they’re getting ok without their mum, and to shout if they need you!! The dozy mare should have put the bin out, and that’s it.

Christ this thread is bonkers.

I think you could have read a post and saved yourself time typing that nonsense out.

Just read the ruddy post properly!!

Why didn't you just tell her what happened and that there is no need for her fury?

I think you could have helped a neighbour out. It takes two minutes to put out a bin. We often do our neighbours when they are away. It's not difficult and means they'll do ours for us so win-win! I don't think the fact her daughter was there is relevant. Some young people are fucking useless so she was trying to avoid a maggoty bin by asking you. And it's not really a big ask.

Having said that had I asked a neighbour and they'd agreed, I wouldn't go round having a go if they didn't do it/forgot! That's odd. People are doing you a favour, you don't go round shouting at people because they've not done you a favour.

The knots some people are tying themselves into on this thread to try and justify why the OP is wrong are a truly hilarious spectacle.

Oh, I'm sure you're absolutely going to those lengths in the morning when you're trying to get to work to help out your neighbours (who have a fully capable, functioning adult at home), aren't you?

Give everyone a break.

But she is idle and lazy if the daughter can't wheel her own damn bin to the end of the path, isn't she? Sans a medical condition (which the OP states she does not have and the neighbour has been honest that her daughter is lazy) there's no excuse for the daughter to not put the bin out.

Incredible that there are people who think it's not ok for the OP (who has zero to do with the neighbour's bins) to not put the bin out (despite there being a bin in front of the house-which she thought was the bin) but it's absolutely ok and not bone idle of the daughter to not put the bin out.

The hoops some people on here will jump through just to pick a bunfight because no one is genuinely this stupid.

Oh, come off it.

It's quite obvious you're deliberately picking a fight here.

No one in their right mind is going to go out of their way to check to see if a bin that has been put outside of the neighbour's house is actually the neighbours bin. It would be an easy and obvious assumption to make.

The neighbour should be having a go at her lazy, do-nothing daughter and leave OP alone.

I reckon the neighbor said "lazy" to avoid disclosing more; and the daughter is unwell, depressed something like that. Either way I think it's a case of miscommunication. OP replied basically a polite "no" - "I will look if bin is there but do no more" and neighbor understand "OP will make sure bin is taken out".

oh dear.. to be honest, perhaps in hindsight, knowing that the daughter would be at home, i'd have said, no! then it would have been down to the neighbour to nudge her daughter the night before.

i wonder if there's a bit more to this story we are not aware of, i know i certainly would not knock on a neighbours door unless i got on really well with them and ask them to put my bins out?

on our street we all look out for each other, we wait for the old folk to put theirs out first, only cos then we know which bin needs to go out.. its chaos when they go on holiday cos no one knows what colour bin goes where.. and if we see a neighbour hasn't put theirs out (a lot of our neighbours because of the layout of the houses keep their bins at the front... i personally hate it, but each to their own). and then, depending on if the bin cleaner is due (he comes every 4 weeks to clean the grey bins) we will take in other peoples bins..

but its not expected.

She asked you to check.
You did
If she wanted to lose the plot at anyone it should be her daughter who was asked to put them out and didn’t bother.

None of us are familiar with the layout of your neighbour’s property, but here are a few options.

1. Knock on neighbours door and speak to daughter. Hi Amy, I’m Sally from next door, just checking you’ve put the bin out for your Mum, she asked me to do it? No? Right I’ll do it now. You getting on ok with your Mum away? Give us a shout if you need us.
2. Enter property via garden gate and look to see if bin has been put out. No? Put it out.

Bloody hell, if my adult daughter was too lazy to put out her own bin, I wouldn’t be advertising the fact or asking for help, I’d be cringing at the lazy cow I’d raised!

The neighbour said her daughter was lazy.