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happyhippo1 · 2024-06-18T08:15:58+00:00

I happened to speak to my neighbour a couple of weeks ago and she mentioned that she was going on holiday and her daughter was staying at home (she looks to be late 20s). She said to me that her daughter can be a bit lazy and not put the bin out and would I mind doing it for her. I explained that I’d add it to my list but my husband was working away, I was working in the office on the day the bins were put out so I’d be doing mine quickly and I’d have a quick check of hers while the kids were getting into the car in the morning. anyway, I see the bin sitting outside her house on the morning of bin day so I jumped in the car and went to work. when she came back from holiday she turned up on my door step furious that her bin hadn’t been put out. Turned out it was the neighbour’s binned positioned in front of her house. I’d dialled off a work call to answer the door to her and I saw red tbh. I asked why her jobless daughter had a problem putting the bins out when she was sitting in the house. she stormed off and I haven’t seen her since. tbh I do feel a bit bad but there was a bin outside the house, unmarked with no house number. Was I to rifle through the bins for signs it was hers? Go to the door at 7am to ask the daughter if it was her bin? Enter her property to check on her bins? why can’t people just do simple tasks?

Waterbaby41 · 19/06/2024 18:56

BrightYellowDaffodil · 18/06/2024 11:16

OP, I think @Growlybear83 must be your CF neighbour!

That's what I thought too?!🤣🤣

Ilovecleaning · 19/06/2024 18:46

Is Growlybear83 just winding people up/deliberately being provocative??

Ilovecleaning · 19/06/2024 18:41

Growlybear83 · 18/06/2024 09:50

Good grief - would it really have been such a hardship to have helped a neighbour out under these circumstances? Most bins where I live only get emptied fortnightly now, and if a collection is missed in the summer, there's a good chance the bin would be revolting and maggoty after a month. If you said you would check your neighbour's bin on collection day, then I can understand why she was pissed off. Unless you've got an extraordinarily long driveway it only takes a couple of minutes to put a bin out.

This is laughable. Sorry but it is. Why the f**k should a neighbour do a task that next door’s lazy arse daughter won’t do?
I wonder how many quotes you will get 😃

Noodles1234 · 19/06/2024 18:27

Her daughter should have done it, or “oh we’ll have to be for next time”. Never a neighbours fault, yes great if they can help but not a requirement.

Feel for you wfh, it’s not all roses and I know the feeling, doorbell, home phone etc all going off while you’re trying to work, well done for managing all that with bloomin bin requests.

booksunderthebed · 19/06/2024 18:27

The neighbour is an idiot. If you were her paid employee, she would have a right to reprimand you for not doing a job properly. But she asked a favour, and you made an understandable mistake. She has burnt her bridges with you now.

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happyhippo1 · 19/06/2024 17:02

beckybarefoot · 19/06/2024 16:15

@happyhippo1 yes, you mentioned in your opening thread.. however youve added your own judgement of said young adult..

the lazy arsed bone idle daughter needs to pick up some responsibilities.

its one thing for a parent to call their child lazy.. its another for someone else to do so!

You're coming across very aggressive.. you seem to have some 'beef' with said daughter. your anger should be directed at the neighbour who put you in this position in the first place, and has then since come stomping to your door having a go at you.

it seems to have all blown out of preportion.. you were asked to carry out a task for whatever reason, and you agreed, with conditions. by all accounts, you believed that the bin had in fact been put out, which i agree, i'd probably assume the same. and then the neighbour comes back from holiday has a go at you for not putting her bin out.. and you are angry at the daughter when you should be angry at the neighbour!

the lazy arsed bone idle daughter needs to pick up some responsibilities

entirely accurate.

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beckybarefoot · 19/06/2024 16:15

@happyhippo1 yes, you mentioned in your opening thread.. however youve added your own judgement of said young adult..

the lazy arsed bone idle daughter needs to pick up some responsibilities.

its one thing for a parent to call their child lazy.. its another for someone else to do so!

You're coming across very aggressive.. you seem to have some 'beef' with said daughter. your anger should be directed at the neighbour who put you in this position in the first place, and has then since come stomping to your door having a go at you.

it seems to have all blown out of preportion.. you were asked to carry out a task for whatever reason, and you agreed, with conditions. by all accounts, you believed that the bin had in fact been put out, which i agree, i'd probably assume the same. and then the neighbour comes back from holiday has a go at you for not putting her bin out.. and you are angry at the daughter when you should be angry at the neighbour!

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happyhippo1 · 19/06/2024 16:00

beckybarefoot · 19/06/2024 15:34

@happyhippo1 Why should I have said “I’ll just put it out for her”?

the lazy arsed bone idle daughter needs to pick up some responsibilities.

... erm!

Not sure what you mean.

if you refer to my OP you’ll see that the mother referred to her daughter as lazy.

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Funkyslippers · 19/06/2024 15:37

Growlybear83 · 18/06/2024 09:50

Good grief - would it really have been such a hardship to have helped a neighbour out under these circumstances? Most bins where I live only get emptied fortnightly now, and if a collection is missed in the summer, there's a good chance the bin would be revolting and maggoty after a month. If you said you would check your neighbour's bin on collection day, then I can understand why she was pissed off. Unless you've got an extraordinarily long driveway it only takes a couple of minutes to put a bin out.

She did check. There was no way of her knowing, without entering the property, that it wasn't her bin.

What would you have done, out of interest?

beckybarefoot · 19/06/2024 15:34

@happyhippo1 Why should I have said “I’ll just put it out for her”?

the lazy arsed bone idle daughter needs to pick up some responsibilities.

... erm!

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happyhippo1 · 19/06/2024 15:32

beckybarefoot · 19/06/2024 15:29

@happyhippo1 i agree... but don't make assumptions about her daughter..

I haven’t. She told me she was lazy.

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beckybarefoot · 19/06/2024 15:29

@happyhippo1 i agree... but don't make assumptions about her daughter..

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happyhippo1 · 19/06/2024 15:28

beckybarefoot · 19/06/2024 15:26

@happyhippo1 i have a 22 year old daughter, she is neither lazy or ill.. but when we go away we have to remind her to put the bins out.. and feed the cats and bring the washing in.

we absolutely know she will simply forget to do it... she's working, studying a uni degree, exercising and having a social life.. the very last thing on her mind is if the bloody bin has gone out.

we have ring cctv, we use it mainly because my cats are my life and i stalk them when i am away (yes i know very very sad and boring but it is what it is) and if we see on said camera's that the bins not out, the washing isn't in then a quick text to remind.. if it gets done great, if it doesn't its no great shakes.

That’s great however, adults should be able to do simple tasks when they’re fit and able.

storming round to your neighbour’s house because your daughter is too lazy to do something is beyond my comprehension.

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beckybarefoot · 19/06/2024 15:26

@happyhippo1 i have a 22 year old daughter, she is neither lazy or ill.. but when we go away we have to remind her to put the bins out.. and feed the cats and bring the washing in.

we absolutely know she will simply forget to do it... she's working, studying a uni degree, exercising and having a social life.. the very last thing on her mind is if the bloody bin has gone out.

we have ring cctv, we use it mainly because my cats are my life and i stalk them when i am away (yes i know very very sad and boring but it is what it is) and if we see on said camera's that the bins not out, the washing isn't in then a quick text to remind.. if it gets done great, if it doesn't its no great shakes.

Bellaboo01 · 19/06/2024 15:22

ButtonsB · 19/06/2024 13:25

It is her business if her neighbour is asking for a favour when she has a able bodied child loving with her.

My neighbour asked me would my son be able to do a bit of yard work for her as she feels its too much for her now.
Her HUSBAND is too busy at work and her son is at college. She said she would "slip" him a few bob.
I politely told her my son was too busy working his part time job during university, but that she really should be insisting the TWO MEN in her house help her.
By asking me for my son to help her, she made it my business to be able to comment, and I did!

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And your point is?

Exactly what i just said, like what you (or your Husband said). "No - not possible, i wont be able to do it"?

It isnt any of a neighbours business there after to be concerned about what goes on behind closed doors - whether that be - putting out the bins, mowing the lawn etc etc.

ButtonsB · 19/06/2024 13:25

Bellaboo01 · 19/06/2024 12:38

Your views on her daughter and what she is and isnt capable of isnt any of your worry or business.

Just say - No i cant commit to that. Then her home issue is hers to deal with.

Like you say - lessons learnt :)

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It is her business if her neighbour is asking for a favour when she has a able bodied child loving with her.

My neighbour asked me would my son be able to do a bit of yard work for her as she feels its too much for her now.
Her HUSBAND is too busy at work and her son is at college. She said she would "slip" him a few bob.
I politely told her my son was too busy working his part time job during university, but that she really should be insisting the TWO MEN in her house help her.
By asking me for my son to help her, she made it my business to be able to comment, and I did!

MrsSwinburne · 19/06/2024 13:02

AbraAbraCadabra · 18/06/2024 19:27

Well you know what assuming does.

My point is that she should just have agreed to put the bin out, rather than just saying she’d check that the daughter had put the bin out. Which she seemed to say as she thought the daughter should be doing it. Which she probably should, but the neighbour was asking for a very small favour as she knew the daughter probably wouldn’t/would forget and understandably doesn’t want maggoty bins. My point was that it was a small ask so she probably just should have agreed put it out in which case the random bin is not really relevant as if she was going she’d have know it wasn’t the right bin.

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Makes an ass out of u and... Ming? 🤔

Bellaboo01 · 19/06/2024 12:38

happyhippo1 · 19/06/2024 12:13

Tbh I really didn’t believe that a fit and capable 20 something would not put the bins out…but there you go. Lesson well and truly learned!

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Your views on her daughter and what she is and isnt capable of isnt any of your worry or business.

Just say - No i cant commit to that. Then her home issue is hers to deal with.

Like you say - lessons learnt :)

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happyhippo1 · 19/06/2024 12:13

Bellaboo01 · 19/06/2024 11:55

Then why on earth didnt you just say to your neighbour at that point of asking you to do it:

'No - i wont be able to do your bins'?

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Tbh I really didn’t believe that a fit and capable 20 something would not put the bins out…but there you go. Lesson well and truly learned!

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Bellaboo01 · 19/06/2024 11:55

happyhippo1 · 18/06/2024 22:58

AbraAbraCadabra….simple concepts don’t grab ya…but that’s ok. We can break it down just for you…

what’s also a nice thing to do is raise your children to not be bone idle and reliant on neighbours they hardly know to carry out chores for them….

So, you leave the house at 7am check your neighbours house (which you’d agreed to do) and there’s a bin sitting at the bottom of their drive (unmarked) - what else would you do @AbraAbraCadabra

As many people have said, I’m not enabling bone idle lazy jobless twenty somethings by saying “just leave your bins to me…they can just sit in the house and watch me do chores for them. GTF I think is the acronym I’m looking for here.

you’re funny though @AbraAbraCadabra ill give you that.

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Then why on earth didnt you just say to your neighbour at that point of asking you to do it:

'No - i wont be able to do your bins'?

HappyHippyChick · 19/06/2024 08:27

Mumsnet is mental! You could post “I heard bloodcurdling screams coming from my neighbours house last night, and this morning I saw my heavily bloodstained neighbour carrying a dismembered corpse to his car, should I call the police?” and you will, without fail, get someone who posts “it’s none of your business, keep your nose out of it”!

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happyhippo1 · 18/06/2024 22:58

AbraAbraCadabra · 18/06/2024 22:29

Because as I said in my first post it’s a two second job and a nice thing to do for your neighbour.

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AbraAbraCadabra….simple concepts don’t grab ya…but that’s ok. We can break it down just for you…

what’s also a nice thing to do is raise your children to not be bone idle and reliant on neighbours they hardly know to carry out chores for them….

So, you leave the house at 7am check your neighbours house (which you’d agreed to do) and there’s a bin sitting at the bottom of their drive (unmarked) - what else would you do @AbraAbraCadabra

As many people have said, I’m not enabling bone idle lazy jobless twenty somethings by saying “just leave your bins to me…they can just sit in the house and watch me do chores for them. GTF I think is the acronym I’m looking for here.

you’re funny though @AbraAbraCadabra ill give you that.

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INeedTheStuff · 18/06/2024 22:56

Moveoverdarlin · 18/06/2024 16:18

None of us are familiar with the layout of your neighbour’s property, but here are a few options.

Knock on neighbours door and speak to daughter. Hi Amy, I’m Sally from next door, just checking you’ve put the bin out for your Mum, she asked me to do it? No? Right I’ll do it now. You getting on ok with your Mum away? Give us a shout if you need us.
Enter property via garden gate and look to see if bin has been put out. No? Put it out.

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This is satire right? Tell me this is a piss take?

RedYellowPinkGreenPurpleOrangeBlue · 18/06/2024 22:53

Conniebygaslight · 18/06/2024 21:56

You are an appalling neighbour OP. You should bake a cake and take it around immediately to apologise for your shortcomings and offer to wash her car.
🙈 🤣🤣

Are you having a laugh. OP should pay off her neighbour's mortgage for her, and buy her daughter a house too, for being such a shit neighbour, and not being arsed to put her neighbour's bins out!

😂

@happyhippo1 Shame on you. You're a terrible neighbour! 😆

Itisjustmyopinion · 18/06/2024 22:37

The OP is in no way to blame for her neighbour’s parenting fails. An able bodied person in their 20s is bone idle and lazy, there is no other way to describe them and she should be embarrassed to admit that her daughter is like that and she raised her

OP I would have given her a piece of my mind too if she had started on me like that.

Waiting for the “but she might have anxiety about putting a bin out” comments as is the norm on MN…..