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happyhippo1 · 2024-06-18T08:15:58+00:00

I happened to speak to my neighbour a couple of weeks ago and she mentioned that she was going on holiday and her daughter was staying at home (she looks to be late 20s). She said to me that her daughter can be a bit lazy and not put the bin out and would I mind doing it for her. I explained that I’d add it to my list but my husband was working away, I was working in the office on the day the bins were put out so I’d be doing mine quickly and I’d have a quick check of hers while the kids were getting into the car in the morning. anyway, I see the bin sitting outside her house on the morning of bin day so I jumped in the car and went to work. when she came back from holiday she turned up on my door step furious that her bin hadn’t been put out. Turned out it was the neighbour’s binned positioned in front of her house. I’d dialled off a work call to answer the door to her and I saw red tbh. I asked why her jobless daughter had a problem putting the bins out when she was sitting in the house. she stormed off and I haven’t seen her since. tbh I do feel a bit bad but there was a bin outside the house, unmarked with no house number. Was I to rifle through the bins for signs it was hers? Go to the door at 7am to ask the daughter if it was her bin? Enter her property to check on her bins? why can’t people just do simple tasks?

Screamingabdabz · 25/06/2024 11:40

I’m glad you sent her off with a flea in her ear op. Makes a nice change from all these pick-me people pleasers. Go girl!

betterangels · 25/06/2024 11:36

JMaggs93 · 21/06/2024 13:13

Really shocked at people replying to OP saying that she was wrong for 'seeing red' and even remotely implying that she should have taken neighbour's bins out. The neighbour is in the wrong as well as the lazy, useless daughter. OP has done nothing wrong and I would have reacted the same way if I was at home working and had my hands full. Neighbour is a cheeky f**k. All those saying that OP was wrong to blow up are clearly very much like this entitled neighbour. Shocking

Agree. The mental jumps are something else.

YellowDots · 25/06/2024 11:36

Ilovecleaning · 25/06/2024 11:26

Calling someone ‘ a fucking useless parent’ is a bit harsh!

Perhaps but someone has brought up this generation of adults who can't feed a cat without their parents telling them to.

Ilovecleaning · 25/06/2024 11:26

Calling someone ‘ a fucking useless parent’ is a bit harsh!

RoastLambs · 25/06/2024 07:17

You’re a f*king useless parent too, if you still need to remind your twenty-two year old daughter to do rudimentary crap like put a bin out, feed a your apparently precious cats (if you love them so much why leave them with someone who cares so little that they need to be reminded to feed an animal that when hungry tends to meow loudly and follow humans until food is put out 🤷‍♀️) and bring washing in.

She’s a student with a job and a social life. Oh the demands 🥴 How the hell is she gonna cope when she’s got her own house to run, bills to pay, kids to raise. Will you be calling her to remind her to feed them 🙄*

Well said. It's absolutely insane to even think that a grown adult, who hasn't even gone away to university so isn't even having to look after themselves, needs to be reminded to feed a cat or do basic household tasks because they have some other completely ordinary things to do.

ParadoxicalHippy · 25/06/2024 07:10

beckybarefoot · 19/06/2024 15:26

@happyhippo1 i have a 22 year old daughter, she is neither lazy or ill.. but when we go away we have to remind her to put the bins out.. and feed the cats and bring the washing in.

we absolutely know she will simply forget to do it... she's working, studying a uni degree, exercising and having a social life.. the very last thing on her mind is if the bloody bin has gone out.

we have ring cctv, we use it mainly because my cats are my life and i stalk them when i am away (yes i know very very sad and boring but it is what it is) and if we see on said camera's that the bins not out, the washing isn't in then a quick text to remind.. if it gets done great, if it doesn't its no great shakes.

You’re a f**king useless parent too, if you still need to remind your twenty-two year old daughter to do rudimentary crap like put a bin out, feed a your apparently precious cats (if you love them so much why leave them with someone who cares so little that they need to be reminded to feed an animal that when hungry tends to meow loudly and follow humans until food is put out 🤷‍♀️) and bring washing in.

She’s a student with a job and a social life. Oh the demands 🥴 How the hell is she gonna cope when she’s got her own house to run, bills to pay, kids to raise. Will you be calling her to remind her to feed them 🙄

Lola2321 · 21/06/2024 21:48

BrightYellowDaffodil · 18/06/2024 11:16

OP, I think @Growlybear83 must be your CF neighbour!

I was thinking the same!

Ilovecleaning · 21/06/2024 17:49

rwalker · 21/06/2024 16:15

I strangely admire the cheek of the neighbour

I know! You can hardly believe the absolute cheeky-fuckery of some people 🤣

Loz2323 · 21/06/2024 16:30

Growlybear83 · 18/06/2024 09:50

Good grief - would it really have been such a hardship to have helped a neighbour out under these circumstances? Most bins where I live only get emptied fortnightly now, and if a collection is missed in the summer, there's a good chance the bin would be revolting and maggoty after a month. If you said you would check your neighbour's bin on collection day, then I can understand why she was pissed off. Unless you've got an extraordinarily long driveway it only takes a couple of minutes to put a bin out.

Did you miss the bit where she said she saw a bin outside her neighbours house and assumed the daughter had put it out already!!

rwalker · 21/06/2024 16:15

I strangely admire the cheek of the neighbour

SoYoung · 21/06/2024 16:14

I'd have said no in the first place. "My adult, able bodied daughter is too lazy to do it so can I burden you and add to your workload?" I don't think so.

Mostlyoblivious · 21/06/2024 16:07

Your neighbour was very wrong to do that. We’ve had people forget to put bins out and haven’t said a thing as it’s easy to forget and ultimately our responsibility. For her to march over like that is mad. I imagine she is projecting her frustrations about her daughter on you - still very wrong.
It was an easy misunderstanding to think that bin was theirs (happened to me yesterday with my own bin, thinking some kind neighbour had out it out!). At least she won’t ask you again 😂

1HappyTraveller · 21/06/2024 15:10

VJBR · 21/06/2024 12:48

I think you have hit a nerve with some people OP. They are very quick to defend young people who don't seem to have the capability to put out a dustbin. My friend couldn't understand why she was getting so many of the neighbour's parcels until she saw a note on their front door asking them to deliver them to her! It seems the daughter (early twenties) was there but didn't like answering the door. Never mind that the doorbell disturbed my friend's sleeping baby.

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Oh wow! What a CF! How did she handle that? I’d be fuming and lobbing her parcels in her front garden! That takes lazy and entitled to a WHOLE new level! 😳

Julimia · 21/06/2024 14:40

The truth usually does hit home! Good for you not your problem Dont feel bad. X

Ereyraa · 21/06/2024 13:15

JMaggs93 · 21/06/2024 13:13

Really shocked at people replying to OP saying that she was wrong for 'seeing red' and even remotely implying that she should have taken neighbour's bins out. The neighbour is in the wrong as well as the lazy, useless daughter. OP has done nothing wrong and I would have reacted the same way if I was at home working and had my hands full. Neighbour is a cheeky f**k. All those saying that OP was wrong to blow up are clearly very much like this entitled neighbour. Shocking

Some don’t like to see people women standing up for themselves.

JMaggs93 · 21/06/2024 13:13

Really shocked at people replying to OP saying that she was wrong for 'seeing red' and even remotely implying that she should have taken neighbour's bins out. The neighbour is in the wrong as well as the lazy, useless daughter. OP has done nothing wrong and I would have reacted the same way if I was at home working and had my hands full. Neighbour is a cheeky f**k. All those saying that OP was wrong to blow up are clearly very much like this entitled neighbour. Shocking

VJBR · 21/06/2024 12:48

happyhippo1 · 21/06/2024 05:32

Did you read my OP?

tiring when people don’t do the basics like read the thread (or put their bins out…)

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I think you have hit a nerve with some people OP. They are very quick to defend young people who don't seem to have the capability to put out a dustbin. My friend couldn't understand why she was getting so many of the neighbour's parcels until she saw a note on their front door asking them to deliver them to her! It seems the daughter (early twenties) was there but didn't like answering the door. Never mind that the doorbell disturbed my friend's sleeping baby.

saveforthat · 21/06/2024 12:34

shearwater2 · 21/06/2024 12:07

What an ageist comment. It's not a whole generation, it's one person.

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Nah, it's more than one person. Not being able to put out a bin is a bit extreme but you only have to read a selection of threads on here to see how a lot of 20 somethings are still living at home but not expected to do anything that's a chore.

shearwater2 · 21/06/2024 12:07

Glittertwins · 21/06/2024 08:27

This thread illustrates perfectly how infantilised a generation has got. If a 20 something is capable of being unsupervised at home, they are capable of basic household tasks!

What an ageist comment. It's not a whole generation, it's one person.

shearwater2 · 21/06/2024 12:06

Growlybear83 · 18/06/2024 10:18

But the OP didn't check - she saw a bin outside but didn't look to see if it was the neighbour's bin. Presumably if she had looked down the driveway or wherever the bins were kept, she would have seen that the neighbour's bin was still there. I think the fact that the neighbours daughter was at home is irrelevant - if the OP had told her neighbour that she wasn't willing to check that the bin had been put out, that would have been fine, but that wasn't the case. The OP agreed to check so presumably the neighbour was irritated that she hadn't done what she had agreed to do.

If she wants someone to go into that level of detail she could bloody well pay someone to do it, the stupid cow. You don't ask your neighbours for a favour then moan at them.

1HappyTraveller · 21/06/2024 10:30

Growlybear83 · 18/06/2024 09:50

Good grief - would it really have been such a hardship to have helped a neighbour out under these circumstances? Most bins where I live only get emptied fortnightly now, and if a collection is missed in the summer, there's a good chance the bin would be revolting and maggoty after a month. If you said you would check your neighbour's bin on collection day, then I can understand why she was pissed off. Unless you've got an extraordinarily long driveway it only takes a couple of minutes to put a bin out.

Did you actually bother to read that the OP put?

There was a bin outside the house that she assumed the lazy-ar$e daughter had put out. Instead it was the neighbours bin.

Why should the OP go out of her way to help because the neighbour’s child is lazy and because the neighbour seems to allow this behaviour. Get a grip.

cloddy01 · 21/06/2024 09:34

Nextdoor55 · 20/06/2024 23:29

You are judgemental though you don't know anything about the DD except that you've "seen her go out ".
Just because she goes out doesn't mean she doesn't I don't know, have some other issues that you wouldn't know about.
At the end of the day you said you'd put bins out & didn't. Then she got upset with you because you failed to do what you said you'd do regardless of the DD. You knew DD was staying there so if you were going to use this as a reason not to do neighbour this favour then you should never have agreed in the first place.
Don't not do what you agreed then blame other people it's not a good look

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Why would you take the time to write all that but not take the time to read the OP properly?!!

Glittertwins · 21/06/2024 08:27

This thread illustrates perfectly how infantilised a generation has got. If a 20 something is capable of being unsupervised at home, they are capable of basic household tasks!

TellMeWhoTheVillainsAre · 21/06/2024 07:54

DejectedRejected · 21/06/2024 01:16

@Nextdoor55 OP said she would check the bin was out. She did. There was a bin outside the property. Wind yer neck in love, and get your daughter to do it next time. Or if she is so challenged to not be able to put the bin out, don’t leave her on her own.

Exactly! If she isn't incapable of wheeling a bin out to the gate should she really be left alone in a house for a week? Maybe you could contact someone @happyhippo1 , tell them you're concerned for the adult nextdoor who appears helpless and is regularly abandoned for days on end by her angry mother.

It's your civic duty!

misskatamari · 21/06/2024 07:25

It really boggles my mind, the amount of people who want to argue in defence of a complete stranger (the daughter), making up whole narratives about how she’s not lazy, there must be deeper issues, based on NOTHING, and insisting that the OP is being unreasonable, especially when it’s been clearly explained she CHECKED and saw the neighbours bin outside her house. Yes it wasn’t the actual bin, but any sane person would have reached the same conclusion in this scenario.

op you’ve done nothing wrong. The amount of people blaming you for someone else’s bins not being done, when the house the bins come from HAD AN OCCUPIER AT HOME is beyond me. It’s AIBU. I think some people just like an argument sometimes and to try and put others down and make them feel shitty and “wrong”.