Neighbour annoyed at me over her bins

The earful she would have gotten from me, Lawd!

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Oh of course now that you've said that I'll stop commenting 🙄

Stop commenting then & it won't be active will it

I know! 🤣. See my previous post. Bonkers.

But the mother didn't say her daughter had some sort of "issue", she said she was lazy!

I can't believe this thread is still going, it's completely batshit 🦇💩 with people tying themselves up like a pretzel 🥨 trying to make out the OP is in the wrong.

If I want to have a laugh I read through threads like this.

This thread has gone from the ridiculous behaviour of a neighbour with a lazy cow of an adult daughter to suggestions of dirt phobias, disabilities both visible and invisible, arthritis, mental illness, sight problems and a vague reference to ‘disorders’ 😀

As one poster put it: ‘Who are the lunatic 3% who think she is being unreasonable?’

Maybe a handful of posters like to wind things up then sit back to see the results.
Unfortunately, some are just NUTS!

I can’t believe this has gone to 9 pages!

Lets just sum it up here….

Neighbour asked OP to put her bins out as a favour while she was away. Her daughter was staying there but neighbour admitted she was lazy… OP agreed to do so. OP saw a bin outside neighbours house and assumed the daughter had put the bin out. Neighbour comes home and it transpires it wasn’t her bin (despite being outside her house) and is annoyed with OP…

It’s a missed bin collection! A bit annoying but not the end of the world! And she should be having very serious words with her lazy daughter not moaning at OP… and I would be telling her so if I was OP. I would also point out that I agreed to do a favour despite lazy bones being quite capable but next time she can sort her own bins out.

Personally if I'd have agreed to do something like put bins out for a neighbour I would have done regardless

And if on your way to put out the bin you saw a bin already in position at the gate? What would you do then?

There was a bin outside!! Are you honestly saying you expect OP to go looking through it to ensure it's the right bin???

And I've said that there's loads of people with issues such as phobias & physical issues that might prevent handling rubbish or lifting etc.

Personally if I'd have agreed to do something like put bins out for a neighbour I would have done regardless

You need to accept that there will be another side of the story, you only have one side there will be at least one other version.

But I'm wondering what type of hidden/inactive disability is there that allows an adult to be left in a house alone to fend for themselves while their mother/carer goes away on holidays, but means they physically are not able to wheel a bin to the gate?

And why rather than tell the OP of the struggles and possibly arrange a carer to come and help the disabled adult daughter would the mother simply say the daughter was lazy and not reliable to put the bin out?

I've said that not all disabilities or additional needs are visible, & not active all of the time,

If you're so sure there's another side then you must have some theory.

I'd be interested to hear it.

Whether or not the adult daughter has a (hidden?) disability, if she is capable of staying home alone for a week, and capable of getting dressed up to go out at the weekend, and capable of getting into a taxi unaided, what do you think might be another side of this that makes it impossible/difficult for her to wheel a bin to her front gate?

Eh? Well no. I'm just saying that there's another side. Of course I can't give it that's the exact point I'm making. Don't be silly

What are you talking about? 🤣
Are you the neighbour?!
Would you like to give us the "other side" so we can better understand why your "lazy" daughter didn't put your bin out and why you think that's OP problem?

Oh give over. The girls mum said she was lazy.

Please stop making this info something it isn’t.

And just to add even if the girl did have a disability (which she doesn’t!) then it is still NOT APPROPRIATE for the neighbour to come round having a go at OP about a bin.

Oh right. Yes because people who have disabilities always just sit in corners or wheelchairs right? They never go out or do anything else but be disabled right?
You've quoted what the OP says, you realise that there's another side to this don't you?

"She said to me that her daughter can be a bit lazy and not put the bin out "

No mention of arthritis, mental illness, phobias, sight problems. Just laziness.

Also I don't know what kind of conditions such as arthritis, mental illness, phobias, sight problems allows a person to socialise on a Friday night but be unable to wheel a bin to the gate.

Really? Of course there are many conditions such as arthritis, mental illness, phobias, sight problem...
You don't know anyone more than I do.
And what a vile judgement comment. You must be a perfect parent to make such a comment.

She looked. There was a bin outside the property.
Should she have had a good look round everybody's houses and made sure everyone had their bins out?

Well, I agree with you there 😀

Agreed.
I'd root my children out of it if they were old enough to stay alone but couldn't be trusted to put a bin out or feed a cat.

My friend whose child was a lazy arse was sent to stay with her grandmother for a year every single time her parents went away. She protested but her mother was having none of it.
When after a year she gave her a chance she came back to a spotless house with all jobs done.
We leave ours at home regularly and they get a 12 hour ETA and they know better than to piss me off with coming home to their mess.

Damn. Mumsnet is a total trip. 😂

You should have put the bins out. And you should have checked to see if neighbour’s daughter needed her bottom wiped while you were there.

Shame on you.

Oh please! Do tell us what kind of issue the daughter could have that means she can’t put a bin out, but can live on her own for a week? She’s just lazy, and that’s her mums fault. The bin not being put out is a direct consequence of her shit parenting.