Dp has a friend they are very close, him & his wife have a dd who is friends with mine, they don't get to see each other that often because it's only ever me that takes them out. The mum has never once offered to take them anywhere.
I have also paid for the majority of play dates, however, as soon as I started realising how much she was taking the p i started saying, the girls want to go to xyz, the tickets are xyz, and gave her the choice, she would then say yes but just give me the bare minimum for the ticket, so food and drinks were always paid by me.
There has been a time she said yes dd can go but can i transfer it to you tomorrow, tomorrow came no transfer. I didnt remind as to be honest i find it so insulting. There have been very long gaps in between because I am getting sick of it. her dd is lovely & I do feel sorry for them as it's purely down to how her mum behaves.
We recently invited her dd to dd's birthday party, she didnt bring a gift or even mention why she hadn't. There was only 4 girls so it was very obvious and awkward that she hadn't.
We are getting married next year, we aren't doing a big thing, only a handful of kids, that are family or the kids of guests who are friends with ours.
If i had it my way i'd just invite his friend & dd, but obviously I cantdo that, so now I am thinking we just invite the couple without their kids.
To be honest I know this is petty, but their whole family coming will cost us a hell of a lot, and yessss i know you absolutely dont invite people for the gifts, but i just know they wont get us one.
I just feel really used and disrespected