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Dm took all the food for my kids!

637 replies

Littlechesnuttree · 17/06/2024 17:17

Newly single mum here hi!

dm visited this weekend to ‘help’ largely consisted of me running errands for her and bringing cups of tea.

here’s the thing, she brought her dog who she only feeds meat (she won’t listen) so steak, chicken, mince etc.

i went to the butcher on the weekend and bought our meat for the month, steaks, whole chickens, lamb leg, chicken breast, meat and even duck breast.

all in all £80 or more likely. Had them in fridge before I could sort and put in freezer.

i had a kids bday party so was getting kids ready whilst dm was packing up.

go to the fridge this morning and it’s all gone… all the meat.

she thought I bought it for her dog. So now not only got to do a freezer tea for the kids but ive got to rebuy it all.

dm didn’t offer to replace and lives too far away to return.

aibu to think this is barmy behaviour? You check before you clean out someone’s fridge

OP posts:
Soboredofdiettalk · 17/06/2024 17:36

Littlechesnuttree · 17/06/2024 17:33

I’ve said that’s the kids dinners for the month gone and tonight and she said I’d have to get more and she was sorry, I said I can’t afford it and she said she’ll take me to the butchers next time She visits next month

its the money and the time too,

Say "no, you will not take me to the butchers next time - transfer me the money today. Here are my bank details"

Everydayimhuffling · 17/06/2024 17:36

"Unfortunately, mum, I can't not feed the children until you come back. Please send the £80 so that I can replace what you took. I'll need it by Wednesday when I have time to go back to the butchers". And then think about whether you really want to see her in a month.

ItsFuckingBoringFeedingEveryoneUntilYouDie · 17/06/2024 17:36

'Mum, that was my kids meals for the month. Only the steaks labeled for the dog were meant for you. You know I am on my own now and cannot afford to spend another £80 to feed your grandkids, while your dog eats like a king. Please could you transfer me the money, so they don't go without.'

SleepingisanArt · 17/06/2024 17:36

Tell her your children - her grandchildren- can't wait a month so to transfer the money so that they can eat. If she doesn't then you don't let her into your house again.

WinterMorn · 17/06/2024 17:35

So…..have you asked her for the money or not? Why won’t you answer this question?

LordSnot · 17/06/2024 17:34

I don't know where to start with this. She is batshit crazy. You need to be really firm with her that she has to send you £80 today.

Procrastinates · 17/06/2024 17:34

Littlechesnuttree · 17/06/2024 17:33

I’ve said that’s the kids dinners for the month gone and tonight and she said I’d have to get more and she was sorry, I said I can’t afford it and she said she’ll take me to the butchers next time She visits next month

its the money and the time too,

Well then to tell her tough shit she can't just say she's not paying for it!

FortunataTagnips · 17/06/2024 17:33

Ask her to transfer it!

Littlechesnuttree · 17/06/2024 17:33

I’ve said that’s the kids dinners for the month gone and tonight and she said I’d have to get more and she was sorry, I said I can’t afford it and she said she’ll take me to the butchers next time She visits next month

its the money and the time too,

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feathermucker · 17/06/2024 17:32

Give her your bank details and ask her to transfer the money. There's no point being this pissed off but actually doing nothing about it.

I'd be livid.

TomeTome · 17/06/2024 17:31

Text her now and ask for the money. Then rebut and tell her she is an absolute pain in the arse.

Procrastinates · 17/06/2024 17:30

Littlechesnuttree · 17/06/2024 17:28

yes she will ask me here and there to get meat for her dog and she did ask me to get some steaks but I got 2 and told her as such, they were labelled as ‘for dog’

So what's she said about sending you the money and stealing the whole lot? Surely the conversation didn't end with she can't return it because she's too far away?

WinterMorn · 17/06/2024 17:30

Have you actually asked her for the money?

ActualChips · 17/06/2024 17:29

Obviously tell her to send you the money for the stolen food.

Littlechesnuttree · 17/06/2024 17:28

Listress · 17/06/2024 17:26

I’m confused why would she think you bought it for her dog? Are you in the habit of buying butcher meat for her dog? Ask her to transfer the money to you and tell her under no circumstances has she to remove food to take home from your fridge again. This is all very odd.

yes she will ask me here and there to get meat for her dog and she did ask me to get some steaks but I got 2 and told her as such, they were labelled as ‘for dog’

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Dweetfidilove · 17/06/2024 17:28

Jesus wept 😱.

I agree with the person who said she stole from you. And her grandchildren 😥.

Do you usually buy £80 worth of meat for her dog? Why did she think this may have been the case this time?

Listress · 17/06/2024 17:26

I’m confused why would she think you bought it for her dog? Are you in the habit of buying butcher meat for her dog? Ask her to transfer the money to you and tell her under no circumstances has she to remove food to take home from your fridge again. This is all very odd.

VickyEadieofThigh · 17/06/2024 17:25

Really? 🤔

QualityDog · 17/06/2024 17:25

Nobody sees £80 of meat in someone else's fridge and thinks they bought t for a dog but doesn't mention it and then takes it and still doesn't mention it!

Floralnomad · 17/06/2024 17:23

Tell her to transfer the money or return the meat - her choice .

ASwimADay · 17/06/2024 17:23

Definitely just ask for the money!! Can dogs even eat duck breast?!

Beautifulbythebay · 17/06/2024 17:23

Send her your bank details to transfer the money. Why wouldn't you?.. We took mil out for lunch.. First time I had met her.. She ordered the best steak.. Then wrapped it up to take him for their bloody mongrel!!
Never invited her anywhere again.

WinterMorn · 17/06/2024 17:22

Hermittrismegistus · 17/06/2024 17:21

Why haven't you told her to transfer the money to you?

Yep, this does seem hard to believe

Badassnameforadojo · 17/06/2024 17:22

Tell her she needs to pay for it. This isn’t hard.

MatildaTheCat · 17/06/2024 17:22

Then she’s a thief. Tell her to send you the money immediately.