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Dm took all the food for my kids!

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Littlechesnuttree · 17/06/2024 17:17

Newly single mum here hi!

dm visited this weekend to ‘help’ largely consisted of me running errands for her and bringing cups of tea.

here’s the thing, she brought her dog who she only feeds meat (she won’t listen) so steak, chicken, mince etc.

i went to the butcher on the weekend and bought our meat for the month, steaks, whole chickens, lamb leg, chicken breast, meat and even duck breast.

all in all £80 or more likely. Had them in fridge before I could sort and put in freezer.

i had a kids bday party so was getting kids ready whilst dm was packing up.

go to the fridge this morning and it’s all gone… all the meat.

she thought I bought it for her dog. So now not only got to do a freezer tea for the kids but ive got to rebuy it all.

dm didn’t offer to replace and lives too far away to return.

aibu to think this is barmy behaviour? You check before you clean out someone’s fridge

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Littlechesnuttree · 17/06/2024 19:07

Iamtired123 · 17/06/2024 19:04

You're being unreasonable for buying your kids that crap

by crap you mean meat from a butcher? Is this like the whole chilli and celery is junk food Mn nonsense?

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itsmylife7 · 17/06/2024 19:06

Littlechesnuttree · 17/06/2024 18:21

I wont get the money back, it’s boiled down to now that’s what my petrol was to get up and back plus an hourly rate to watch your children after school Friday afternoon

Christ, with a Mother like that who needs enemies.

ApolloandDaphne · 17/06/2024 19:06

Iamtired123 · 17/06/2024 19:04

You're being unreasonable for buying your kids that crap

What crap? It's fresh meat.

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Littlechesnuttree · 17/06/2024 19:06

SeatonCarew · 17/06/2024 18:58

She must surely have form for this sort of behaviour OP? Nobody suddenly becomes like this overnight unless there's something majorly wrong with them.

She’s not done anything this batshit before but she’s very me me me

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Iamtired123 · 17/06/2024 19:04

You're being unreasonable for buying your kids that crap

olympicsrock · 17/06/2024 19:04

Tell her that if she thinks you owe her £80 for babysitting her own grandchildren for an afternoon ( which she did badly by the way) she need not bother visit or help again .

i would make the point of cancelling her next visit. She is a thieving old bitch.

TheFormidableMrsC · 17/06/2024 19:02

Littlechesnuttree · 17/06/2024 18:22

^ but it was a genuine mistake apparently she thought I was saying thank you for coming up

This was not a mistake. She stole from you. She knew what she was doing.

saltinesandcoffeecups · 17/06/2024 18:59

Who is more important your kids or your mum? Just ask her to transfer you the money.

SeatonCarew · 17/06/2024 18:58

She must surely have form for this sort of behaviour OP? Nobody suddenly becomes like this overnight unless there's something majorly wrong with them.

Slugsandsnailsresidehere · 17/06/2024 18:58

She knows she's in the wrong because she keeps changing her story. What sort of person steals the food from their grandchildren?!

Don't invite her again. Hopefully she doesnt have your door key!

Roundroundthegarden · 17/06/2024 18:54

Can't believe a mother does this. Yanbu op, that's truly disgusting. She knows you're a single mother too!
My dm comes armed with loads of stuff, treats, food, thoughtful gifts for all of us when she visits. I can't imagine her doing this, all for a dog.
I would tell her that she has to refund you, or she isn't visiting again!

WitchyWay · 17/06/2024 18:52

Procrastinates · 17/06/2024 18:25

She's talking complete bullshit and if you honestly believe that you're a doormat.

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I'm sorry it's come to this mum, but I don't want to see you again. You're literally stealing food from my children and I and I cant respect anyone who'd do that to us. You didn't help, you sat around drinking tea and looked after your grandchildren for one afternoon, most grandparents do that because they want to, not as a paid position. Keep the £80 as payment and have a good life.

BarcardiWithGadaffia · 17/06/2024 18:51

Tell her not to visit anymore, easier for her and cheaper for you to pay someone for the childcare and you won't have to run around after her

She's not going to change os she suffers the consequences

EllaPaella · 17/06/2024 18:46

Does she not care that her daughter and grandchildren now have no food for the week? That's just totally fucked up.

AGodawfulsmallaffair · 17/06/2024 18:42

Littlechesnuttree · 17/06/2024 17:21

She put it in her car and took it home for later

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What? Seriously? Fuck me, get that money back and extra you spent before she sets foot in your house again.

ObsidianTree · 17/06/2024 18:42

Littlechesnuttree · 17/06/2024 18:22

^ but it was a genuine mistake apparently she thought I was saying thank you for coming up

How horrible she is to take all the meat meant to feel your kids for a month. And all for her dog? Surely she definitely knew what she was doing.

Hope you manage to sort something out for the rest of the month. Sorry your mother is horrible.

Whothefuckdoesthat · 17/06/2024 18:41

dm visited this weekend to ‘help’ largely consisted of me running errands for her and bringing cups of tea

I wont get the money back, it’s boiled down to now that’s what my petrol was to get up and back plus an hourly rate to watch your children after school Friday afternoon

When she talks about coming to visit you next month, tell her to stay at home because you can’t afford what she charges you. Tell her that if you hire a local babysitter, you won’t need to pay their travel expenses or run around after them, doing their errands and making their tea. She’s their grandmother, not Mary sodding Poppins. And at least a local babysitter won’t raid your fridge or leave your DC on baked beans for the month!

CanItReallyBeSo · 17/06/2024 18:40

She should pay as a gesture of good will - I'd feel mortified if I genuinely did this by mistake. The fuel is a shit argument unless you'd agreed to pay for it.

I know people always talk tough on here but I'd honestly not be giving her the time of day unless she does you right.

Scarletttulips · 17/06/2024 18:40

Tell her her dog can stay home, she’ll have to pay boarding fees.

What sort of mutt is it?

CheeseyOnionPie · 17/06/2024 18:38

OP, the fact that she hasn’t said oh gosh I’m mortified and insisted on transferring you the money immediately shows that this might have been more than a mistake. Is she struggling for money? she might have wrongly thought she would take the meat for dog, you would buy more and she would replace next month. The immediate switching to how busy she is but still came to help you is classic diversion tactics - now you’re the one feeling bad right?

Bringonthesunforthewashing · 17/06/2024 18:33

Your mother is a disgrace.

Dont let her get away with it ffs!! Find your anger, think of your children.

coconutpie · 17/06/2024 18:32

ManilowBarry · 17/06/2024 18:04

I'd phone her and say this.

You have two choices -

  1. You transfer the money to me this evening.
  1. We will be going no contact with you and your dog. No mother is better than a mother who steals from her grandchildren.

This.

Soboredofdiettalk · 17/06/2024 18:31

Littlechesnuttree · 17/06/2024 18:21

I wont get the money back, it’s boiled down to now that’s what my petrol was to get up and back plus an hourly rate to watch your children after school Friday afternoon

I know she's your mother, but she is an absolutely horrible grandma.

Please tell me you aren't planning to let her come back anytime soon!

Heucherarowan · 17/06/2024 18:31

So she's gone from having too much on, hysteria, to claiming it was a mistake to now justification of her actions.

That's an expensive few hours watching your kids. Sorry she's treating you like this. I'm sure it's not the first time and people like this are never I. The wrong.

huuskymam · 17/06/2024 18:29

Don't let her fob you off till next month. Give her 3 options

1 send the money immediately
2 book an online order for delivery
3 drop the kids off every day for dinner.

I can't imagine a grand mother just taking food from her grand kids, even by accident, and not bothering to replace it.