Dm took all the food for my kids!

So she visited for the weekend & fed her dog whilst there & then emptied the fridge of all of the rest of the meat because????

She didn't really think it was a thank you. She's coming up with shite to shut you up. Your mum stole from you and your children. You can't let that slide.

So if she’s deffo not skint tell
her you can’t wait til her next visit for her to buy meat and ask her to transfer now.

Hourly rate for minding her grandchildren when your marriage has broken down a fortnight ago?! Honestly OP don’t forgive and forget this. You all deserve better.

They can eat anything raw but cooked bones splinter.

Can’t cope with the OP refusing to ask for a bank transfer so she can go and buy it again…

Does she use online banking? If not, I'd ask/expect her to drive into town and pay you from the nearest branch of her bank.
What would she say to that? With the sports car and her coming to you, I'm assuming she has the mobility to do so.
It's unfair of her, and when you say she's very 'me me me' I can bloody tell.

Can't she do an £80 delivery of meat to you? From the same butchers ideally.

Let's say she opened the fridge and saw the note in the two steaks that said for her dog.

Let's say that she thought the note meant all
of the meat, eighty pounds worth!

Her eyes would most over and she oils be so pleased you had been so generous towards her previous Rover.

She would have been profuse in her thanks at which point you would have set her straight about the two steaks and nothing else being for the dog.

She didn't offer up her immense gratitude but instead chose to pilfer the whole.

She then made a swift getaway.

She knew exactly what she was doing.

Bloody cheap butcher
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I reckon you could get quite a good few joints of meat from a good size dog....

hilarious

I agree with the other posters, if she has that kind of money to splash out on a dog she can afford to send you £80 right away. It doesn't compensate your time of course.

I think you should go low contact for a bit to have some space. Ridiculous that she didn’t check who the meat was for before taking it. Ridiculous that she’s not automatically paid the cash back.

I can’t believe she’d think you got that much meat for a dog! Did she not see the meat labelled for the dog?

@Littlechesnuttree you are absolutely crackers. Why on earth do you let someone so toxic into your life especially when you are going through a difficult time? Mind boggles.

Don’t have her to stay again. Go absolutely silent on her, as low contact as you can muster. Don’t enable her.

You don;t say how old your DM is but could she have signs of dementia? I couldn;t imagine anyone in their right mind would think all that meat was for the dog. Also, could she be skint and she doesn;t want to tell you? If not, she stole from you and I would push to have her send me $.

This post made me laugh ... did she really think a meat from the butcher will be for her DOG?!? How dillusional is this woman?

I don't think you can do much. Some suggestions are just ridiculous, she is your mom, not your neighbour, you can't treat her like a criminal. But you can have a stern word with her and explain this is unacceptable and she needs to reimburse you next time she sees you.

I'm sorry for this situation ... it sounds really stressful, but kids are resilient they will be fine with no meat for a couple of weeks. :)

This is so terrible! How could she possibly think that was all for the dog! Did she not ask or make no mention of it post loading it into her car. It is like shop lifting what she had done to you! Can’t believe the cheek of it and to steal from your own daughter and grand kids!

My mum would be coming to my house with cooked food and ingredients rather than taking from me especially in the circumstances you are in now. Such selfish and odd behaviour! Does she have form for such Behaviour?! Why isn’t she transferring the money via online banking after you have told her you are skint?! What does she expect your kids to eat?! Is she poor? Does she work?! Does she think you are rich?!

Unbelievable!! Your dm thought "steaks, whole chickens, lamb leg, chicken breast, meat and even duck breast" was for her dog! Totally unbelievable.

I'd be asking for the money back! Unless you are very wealthy why on earth would she think you would spend so much on meat for a dog.
I just can't imagine anyone assuming all that was for a dog, I'm not sure I believe that she made a genuine mistake there.

Regular parents wouldn't take food from their child's fridge. Regular people also wait to receive a gift and don't just steal what they hope they're being gifted. Regular people would be mortified and send the money, apologising for inconveniencing you with an extra trip to the butchers.

What your mum did isn't normal and how she's reacting to being challenged on it it's normal either.

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That's even worse! She is complaining to you about stress when you are so newly separated. WTAF. I would have to spell that out to her in words of one syllable, that you are barely afloat, that her decision to help herself to the food has made it even harder for you, and if she cannot find it in her to reimburse you, then forget coming back next month. Can you tell her you cannot afford to pay her £80 a trip? That would pay for a cleaner for a couple of hours every other week (for example), which would be far more useful than paying her to feed Prince Fido.