Dm took all the food for my kids!

It was butcher meat not supermarket own brand meat. One adult two children with a balanced diet could spend that easily. Op also mentioned steak and duck breast so it not cheep value mince.

Anyway this post is about a grandmother stealing her newly single daughter and grandchildren food. What possesses you to kick someone while they are down? Are you happy with who you are?

OP , I bet you didn't think you'd be fully interrogated when you started this thread !

You're going through a new and difficult time , take care and move on 💐

She cooks the dog's meat, the OP says.
And who's said the OP 'only' feeds her kids meat?

She cannot feed a dog raw chicken ffs it'll get salmonella! JFC

Also, why are you only feeding your kids meat? £80 worth of meat is far too much for two kids for a month, that's insane. If that's their diet for their entire childhood they'll end up with blocked arteries as adults

I don't know why some people are being such twunts to you, OP.
Your mother is clearly abusive and manipulative. I'd not have her and her dog over again, personally.

OP it was shitty of your mum but I don't know why you're being piled on because you apparently haven't asked for the money back. There's pretty much nothing you can do to get your own flesh and blood to give something back when she was welcomed into your home.

I think you know that you can't rely on her. Don't ever count on her for childcare again. Also, make sure you ensure that she isn't welcome in your home until she refunds the money and you don't lift a toe to facilitate any access between her and her grandchildren. It works both ways. You're too busy for this shit and she is not helpful or enjoyable. Whether she's your mum or not you don't have to accept that in your life

Next time she comes down to 'help' make sure everything is run down and you just shop for the days food. Eat beans on toast for tea etc.

My friends mil used to babysit and would empty all the food as she left. My mate then just shopped for food every day and cooked after her mil had left. It seems some grandparents are happy to take food out of their grandkids mouths.

When she asks where the food is just say you.live hand to mouth or you can't afford a mix up like last time.

That was a horribly selfish thing to do. Quite rude and thoughtless too. I wouldn't be in a hurry to invite her again. Of course she should have paid you back the money for the meat.

Your going to get mad but the reason so many posters say it is because its true.

You keep saying you have 'asked for the money' but when you post what you claim to have actually said you haven't 'asked' you made roundabout statements.

You also don't need to 'ask' you need to straight up 'tell' her that she stole and to give the money straight back, its not an 'optional' thing she can say 'no thanks' too. Put consequences in place.

This is just bad communication and lack of backbone from you.

Your willing to let your kids go without rather than stand up to your mother... do you usually put your kids last? because thats what you are willfully accepting.

@Littlechesnuttree just popping in to say you sound an amazing woman to be dealing with this shit show so well. Your DM is a nightmare. Good riddance to your (unD) H. Massive unmumsnetty hugs x

I honestly wouldnt host her again. Tell her you can't afford it and she has to send you the £80.

If this is true, I'd be cutting my mother off for this.

I'd eat some of that.
Too much intel?

Please ignore the posters who are trying to kick you whilst you are down.

You are doing great keeping your shit together, even if it doesn't feel like it.

What your mum did was awful but she's shown her true colours so most probably best you don't get more 'help' from her, or if you are desperate, adjust your expectations.

Hang in there. Shit husband out of the picture, and shit mum out of the picture. Rebuild your life with more worthy people in it OP. You deserve it.

Sympathies to you for having such a truly awful mother OP. Maybe try to reduce the contact that you have with her in order to protect your own mental health.

I wouldn’t allow the cunt in my home again.

Could you get something delivered from a supermarket? They all deliver until 11pm. Ocado has some great meat.

im so sorry about your mum. She sounds selfish and difficult.

My mum would never ever do something like that. If anything she’d buy me double and try to cook some of it to help me.

But she was a lovely mum and I know I won the lottery ticket of mums with her.

You sound like an amazing mum too. You’re just trying to do your best for your kids. Sounds like your DM loves her dog more than you abs your DC. She sucks.

Id not have her back in 4 weeks. Put it off for longer. She creates trouble and extra work.

Try to look after yourself OP. You’re doing really well given the circumstances. I really hope things get easier for you.

Next time your mum comes don't get any meat in for the dog. She can go to the butcher and pay for it herself.

I understand that you are just hanging on. But you need to think about future interactions with your mother. My mother absolutely doted on her grandchildren - she had only been able to have one child later in life being me - and she adored having two grandchildren. She spoiled them and saved money for them and was all round wonderful when she visited, happy to babysit while we went out to dinner and happy to climb up giant slides with them and even on one horrendous occasion cross on a rope bridge. She adored her dogs but the idea of prioritising a dog ahead of her grandchildren would have been completely foreign to her. I am afraid you do not have a mother like that (and now I don't either and I miss her years later fiercely).

Your mother is toxic. The mental breakdowns and threats of suicide are just to control you. And you buckle under it. The next time she talks of suicide I'd treat it with the contempt it deserves and observe it's a pity her dog will have to be put down because frankly who is going to take it on in the style to which it has become accustomed. I would wait long enough to get the money back and cut her off. It is beyond belief that she thought all the meat in your fridge was for her dog and just made off with it. Even more unbelievable is that idea that when you told her you couldn't afford to replace it, she was completely blasé about maybe doing a shop in a month's time. Wake up - she is horrible and does not have your best interests at heart. I wouldn't want my children associating with a woman who lacks honesty and empathy to this extent. Being honest, what positive things does she bring to your life? And if she does bring anything positive, surely it is outweighed by the negatives?

I came from a poor immigrant family who went on to become successful. The one overwhelming belief for us is that children get the best of what we can provide, not the family dog. Yes, our animals have all been well looked after and loved and have generally died of old age after a long life but the idea that we would feed an animal over a child is just madness to us. My grandmother always told children upset over the demise of an animal that they should not grieve to that extent because it could have been a family member rather than a pet.

She has asked her for the money. You clearly have a reading problem.

Her mum sees the meat as "payment " for looking after her grandchildren and won't reimburse. She will replace next time she visits which is 3 weeks away.

Tell your mother to not bother coming again as you can’t afford her rates

Can you not call the butchers and re-order by phone? Either pick up a ready order (extra few mins) or ask for delivery.
explain yiur situation, maybe they’d be willing to give a discount as a one off?
doesnt sound like you’ve even bothered to try. There’s no money from mum, so just sort it!

Stick a fork in me, I'm done! 😆😂

I know it's a typo, but it's just perfect!

Bloody hell, what's she got - a T-Rex?