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To think this house is too remote to be feasible

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HungryHouseHunter · 17/06/2024 17:04

Name change. Posting in AIBU for traffic. We are considering putting an offer on this house. It's exactly the style we want with more land than we wanted but I'm worried it's too far from Winchester where we started looking. To get the train station I'll need to drive, to get to the shops I'll need to drive! Does anyone do this ? Do you end up resenting the inconvenience? For example I couldn't just pop out for a big shop, I think I would need to drive to Winchester and pay for parking etc. Would need to pay for parking at train station when using it (at least twice a week). Do these things just get more and more annoying. Currently live somewhere where car isn't even really needed.

Also value for money?

https://www.rightmove.co.uk/properties/145236887

Check out this 6 bedroom detached house for sale on Rightmove

6 bedroom detached house for sale in Shepherds Lane, Compton, Winchester, Hampshire, SO21 for £2,450,000. Marketed by Savills, Winchester

https://www.rightmove.co.uk/properties/145236887

OP posts:
Elle2018 · 18/06/2024 18:09

I lived remotely for 6 months where all travel was by car and the peace and quiet more than outweighed the issues of transport. The only thing that stopped us staying there was we had young children and they would have been quite cut off from school/nursery/friends. Now the kids are grown up I’d move back there in a heartbeat. There’s nothing like the peace tbh

ChefsKisser · 18/06/2024 16:43

CormorantStrikesBack · 18/06/2024 07:11

It’s lovely, shame it’s next door to a block of flats.

To be fair the flats are only 2, maybe 3 stories max and to the side of the house so can’t be seen easily from the garden or their balcony!

I sound like their estate agent 😂 but I’d love to live there!

HungryHouseHunter · 18/06/2024 09:26

Deadpretty · 18/06/2024 09:04

Wait for advice in property/DIY next time, there are usually a ton of helpful responses.

Yes my bad. I had 0 responses and assumed that would be it !

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HappyAsASandboy · 18/06/2024 09:10

I love the house, and I wouldn't mind the driving everywhere (I already do that - schools, GP, supermarket, corner shop etc are all a drive from my house).

I would feel very isolated, because it is the end house on that (very posh) lane. I'd be fine living in the group of houses further up, but the one you linked to is too "on its own" for me.

Also, there's a lot of glass without blinds/curtains and limited ways to add them. I have lived in a barn conversion with those sorts of windows and I felt very exposed at night, knowing anyone out in the fields could see in whilst I couldn't see out. Others in the house told me there was no one out there to be looking in, but I always wondered!

Deadpretty · 18/06/2024 09:04

HungryHouseHunter · 18/06/2024 08:42

This forum has actually been very useful- brought up some factors we had not considered. Thanks to everyone for the feedback.

Wait for advice in property/DIY next time, there are usually a ton of helpful responses.

HungryHouseHunter · 18/06/2024 08:42

Rubyupbeat · 18/06/2024 08:37

@Wavesaves I thought the same. I don't understand people coming on forums for such obvious advice, it's just showing off, probably no intention of purchasing.

This forum has actually been very useful- brought up some factors we had not considered. Thanks to everyone for the feedback.

OP posts:
Rubyupbeat · 18/06/2024 08:37

@Wavesaves I thought the same. I don't understand people coming on forums for such obvious advice, it's just showing off, probably no intention of purchasing.

HungryHouseHunter · 18/06/2024 08:32

Willyoujustbequiet · 18/06/2024 07:47

That's not remote/rural.

We have neighbours not on the electricity grid and others who get their water from the local springs. We have boarding wings at state schools because the journey takes over an hour involving quad bikes over fields and then 2 further buses. This is England btw.

Give your head a wobble.

Perhaps read the whole thread first!

OP posts:
catwithflowers · 18/06/2024 08:14

Sorry, that first paragraph was supposed to be quoting a previous poster but my bold highlighting failed 😬

catwithflowers · 18/06/2024 08:09

* Oh, and one other thing - the cost of a tractor to mow the lawn (no gardener will bring one to you) and consider where you would dispose of the grass. That’d about 4 to 5 green wheelie bins in grass cuttings alone.*

You don't need to dispose of grass clippings. We have a very large paddock area and large grassed areas and just leave our grass clippings on the lawn. They act as a mulch and within a few days they have disappeared. You will need a sit on mower OP. And somewhere to store it.

I think the house is nice enough but I wouldn't buy it as it has no real garden as such. You would have to create that from scratch. We live about a 12 minute drive from any supermarkets so two cars are essential.

Willyoujustbequiet · 18/06/2024 07:47

That's not remote/rural.

We have neighbours not on the electricity grid and others who get their water from the local springs. We have boarding wings at state schools because the journey takes over an hour involving quad bikes over fields and then 2 further buses. This is England btw.

Give your head a wobble.

Tumbleweed101 · 18/06/2024 07:45

Yes, having to drive everywhere can sometimes get annoying and you can’t go out for an evening involving alcohol without having to pay taxi fares. The worse bit is when you have teens with their first jobs who need you to take them to work at 7am!

However to be detached and have plenty of quiet space is worth it. If
you’re considering a house in that price range I’m surprised you’ve mentioned parking costs though. They are not going to be a huge factor in your decision.

PickledPurplePickle · 18/06/2024 07:12

Having just moved from a very similar property it’s a no from me

Too far away from everything, garden maintenance expensive and time consuming, difficult to make it feel cosy

We also had a huge pond which was a nightmare

CormorantStrikesBack · 18/06/2024 07:11

pepperminticecream · 18/06/2024 06:14

This is the best house out of all the ones posted on thread, including OPs original house. Really beautiful and lovely gardens.

It’s lovely, shame it’s next door to a block of flats.

ChefsKisser · 18/06/2024 07:10

pepperminticecream · 18/06/2024 06:14

This is the best house out of all the ones posted on thread, including OPs original house. Really beautiful and lovely gardens.

It is lovely wish I could afford it! For the PP who asked they were both doctors

ChefsKisser · 18/06/2024 07:08

BIossomtoes · 17/06/2024 22:48

It’s got a bonkers layout. Two bedrooms with the only accessible bathroom up a flight of stairs. Somebody really didn’t think about that at all.

What? It’s got 6 bedrooms and a toilet on every floor!

AstonMartha · 18/06/2024 06:30

We are like @TMess , twenty minutes from everything, We have to drive everywhere.

You get used to being very organised, you don’t run out of toilet paper in the night more than once! No take aways or deliveroo comes near us.
We get shopping delivered but top up when we are at work.

We have a ride on mower which we use ourselves because it’s so therapeutic.

I have never been scared when home alone which surprises people when Dh is away. Not having people near by means we don’t really get noises outside and the only things that go bump in the night are badgers and foxes.

I love it. Reading threads on here about awful neighbours makes me realise just how lucky we are.

We own our fields so know that we aren’t able to be closed in by developers. I would worry that you may end up with a Tesco outside!

pepperminticecream · 18/06/2024 06:14

ChefsKisser · 17/06/2024 20:43

This is a friends house which is only ‘off the market’ as they were told things are slow at the minute. It is Gorgeous and a short walk into Winchester. https://www.rightmove.co.uk/properties/146146568#/?channel=RES_BUY

This is the best house out of all the ones posted on thread, including OPs original house. Really beautiful and lovely gardens.

merrymelodies · 18/06/2024 05:48

It's an ugly building, which would be hard to heat, but a beautiful site.

Tomatina · 18/06/2024 04:07

It looks very like a house used as the location for an episode of Inside Number 9. Particularly that kitchen.

QOD · 18/06/2024 04:00

We live in a similar location. Much smaller house and garden lol and yeah. No shops or pubs not on a bus route and no pavements
you just get used to it. Amazon prime is a bonus and Tesco is actually just 10 mins away in car

when Dd was little we lived on an estate with loads of houses. With a bus route. With pavement and with a play park.
no shops or pubs either … supermarkets were at least 25 min drive in either direction 🤷🏼‍♀️
had to drive Dd everywhere anyway

don’t be put off. Looks fantastic

and yes oil is expensive but you can set up a monthly plan
grass cuttings - we hâve an acre and a ride on mower which chops the cuttings super fine and leaves them behind. It was an extra to buy but did away with the endless cuttings (we had an agreement that we could tip onto the field and the geese would enjoy it - was hard work for dh tho to keep emptying )

Aria999 · 18/06/2024 03:02

It's a lot of money to live in a field. I wouldn't personally. It looks like a posh airbnb.

TMess · 18/06/2024 02:51

That’s not remote though? I’m a twenty minute minimim drive from anything and I mean anything. Over an hour for anything that isn’t bare bones basic. It’s great, worth any inconvenience for the peace and quiet!

Dibbydoos · 18/06/2024 02:20

Oh wow, I'd swap convenience for that house!!

Ive lived in the sticks a few times - you get organised.

Grabbing fish and chips when you fancy it might not be so easy but its still doable.

What would it be like coming home from a crappy day at work to a house like that?

Buy it.

Notthatcatagain · 18/06/2024 00:32

There's only one real problem with a barn conversion. You will be living in a barn, it's likely to be at least draughty and probably cold too. And all those beams, it will be a full time job keeping on top of the cobwebs. ( I don't much care for spiders, can you tell)

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