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To think droves of teachers will make the decision by husband made today- to leave

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Peakyshelby · 17/06/2024 15:52

Well after 6 years of teaching my husband has broken down, gone to the doctors, been signed off and says he is done.

he has done 3 years in 2 schools and then done supply for 3 years. There is too much to list but the highlights have been

been told to go and fuck himself and other insults thrown at him by kids with hardly any consequences from parents and schools

having stuff chucked at him

having to appear as a witness in court when a parent beat up his own child at home time in the playground

having parents create a smear group on WhatsApp against him and 2 other newly qualified teachers because the parents said there little darlings behaviour must be down to inexperienced teachers not being able to handle them.

having parents laugh and him and tell him he is picking on their little darlings by trying to sanction them.

have children laughing at him and saying my mum and dad don’t care what I do

hardly any support from above.

There is too much more to write but today he had a 10 year old child walk up to him and pour a water bottle over his head.

he is done. He qualified with a group of 10 others and 8 of them have since quit. 2 did not get through there NQT year.

He says the system is broken

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FrippEnos · 17/06/2024 21:57

Famfirst · 17/06/2024 19:02

Sounds like he's not right for teaching. Not everyone is and it's best for the children that he moves on and they get someone who can do the job properly.

Oh look someone that doesn't know jack about what is going on in education at the moment.

DisorganisedMummyTurningOrgnaised · 17/06/2024 21:57

longdistanceclaraclara · 17/06/2024 16:04

H is a teacher and thankfully hasn't had to deal with this shit, however a heavily pregnant friend teacher in a different area was punched in the belly twice, while the kids set fire to a bin. It's all fucked.

Wtf is wrong with the schooling in our country?! This is horrific!!

HandaFae · 17/06/2024 21:57

edwinbear · 17/06/2024 21:47

Ah, I see. So it is, in fact, politics of envy and not at all about getting another 6,500 teachers into state school. Which it sounds like is going to be impossible to manage. Whilst bringing tens of thousands of new kids into to over burdened state sector.

As the stats shown above evidence, the state system isn't overburdened by numbers. There are plenty of school places.

Shinyandnew1 · 17/06/2024 21:57

There seems to be the widespread belief among some that if a child hits/kicks/doesn’t achieve their potential or do well in their exams or is arsing about not getting on, that it’s the teacher’s fault. They weren’t engaging enough, they didn’t spend long enough planning an exciting lesson, they didn’t adapt the lesson sufficiently, they weren’t ‘inclusive’ enough.

When you are working as hard as you can, but you’re still blamed for the above, and represented in the papers as being lazy or whinging, it can get demoralising. I don’t know a single other person from my PGCE still teaching which is pretty sad.

Hiddenvoice · 17/06/2024 21:56

I‘m a teacher and whilst pregnant, was attacked by a pupil. Nothing was done so I signed off with work related stress.

Teaching is not for the faint hearted and I think is massively underestimated. All I hear is I get great holidays so should just put up with the behaviour.
All I hope is that my own children don’t become teachers when they grow up.

VaccineSticker · 17/06/2024 21:55

Lifesucks2024 · 17/06/2024 21:47

Why is Henrietta any more important and deserves to be sheltered from this any more than Sarah, Billy or Jonny? No child should have to see behaviour like this whether state school or private.

The problem is the lack of respect of authority to teachers. Students and parents have no respect for teachers and their sense of entitlement is beyond belief.
no money from the private sector would fix that. Labour is selling you a dream like Brexit.
But would fix it is enforcing sanctions, exclusions, envoloving the police and protecting the poor teachers who are getting all the abuse.

llamarammma · 17/06/2024 21:53

Jifmicroliquid · 17/06/2024 19:40

I caught a child talking in an exam, twice. Warned the first time and second time I removed the paper and told them to get their book out and read until the others were finished. I explained at the end that if that had been a GCSE, they would have potentially been graded a U. Told child they wouldn’t be getting a grade (it was an end of year KS3 exam) but I’d base hers off her years work instead.

Parent complained that I embarrassed her child and I was hauled infront of SLT who told me that we have to bend to the parents and I needed to apologise to the child.

That was the beginning of the end for me. Weak leadership and ridiculous parents.

Parents need to start accepting responsibility for their children’s behaviour.

And SLT need to start accepting responsibility for their jobs.

PupInAPram · 17/06/2024 21:51

You need a Head and an SLT that stand behind the teacher and are prepared to stand up to parents and tell them to find another school if they don't like the behaviour policy.

LondonQueen · 17/06/2024 21:48

I'm a teacher and I don't want to quit, however I will probably go part time. My class aren't bad but the cohort I have next year are renowned for being difficult. Their current class teacher has been off sick with stress since Easter and they've had numerous supply in as the assistant principal refused to teach them due to the behaviour!

llamarammma · 17/06/2024 21:48

AngryLikeHades · 17/06/2024 21:34

That's absolutely appalling!!!!
Your poor DH. 😕
Kid's behaviour is obviously getting worse and it's disgusting that the parents allow and condone it.

TBF there have always been behavioural issues and some parents that don’t care. It seems to be coming from the top now with lack of support for staff that is causing this implosion plus the removal of experienced teaching staff. Current model seems to favour new grad churn and burn.

TempersFuggit · 17/06/2024 21:47

What would entice teachers back. I did primary training in a challenging school and I lasted six months. The toughest job I have ever done. The only way I would go back would be two days of planning, smaller class size and a TA. The primary my daughter went to was great though - same London borough as "my" school and very similar area, so just better behaviour policy maybe?
I'm really sorry your husband went through this OP I hope he recovers soon.

edwinbear · 17/06/2024 21:47

llamarammma · 17/06/2024 21:43

This is the problem - the enrichment of a few at the expense of the majority.

Ah, I see. So it is, in fact, politics of envy and not at all about getting another 6,500 teachers into state school. Which it sounds like is going to be impossible to manage. Whilst bringing tens of thousands of new kids into to over burdened state sector.

Lifesucks2024 · 17/06/2024 21:47

edwinbear · 17/06/2024 21:41

Gosh, this is a very different view of state schools being painted than the dozens of VAT on school fees threads. On those, ‘little Henrietta’ will do just fine in state school and nobody can understand what the fuss is all about.

Why is Henrietta any more important and deserves to be sheltered from this any more than Sarah, Billy or Jonny? No child should have to see behaviour like this whether state school or private.

jouper · 17/06/2024 21:46

AngryLikeHades · 17/06/2024 21:38

@jouper that's terrible.

It's not all bad, but increasingly the bad outweighs the good.
I think many parents from my school would read this thread and think at least our school's not like that'. We are an oversubscribed Outstanding school in a desirable area.
There have always been challenging schools and all schools have always had challenges. It seems now that all schools are challenging schools full of challenges.
There is a stat that says there are more qualified teachers no longer teaching, than qualified teachers teaching in schools.
It is often said that there is a recruitment crisis in teaching, but there isn't, there is a retention crisis.

florasl · 17/06/2024 21:45

This is exactly why we went private. DD did half a term term in a pre school attached to a primary school, rated as one of the top 100 in the country. We lasted half a term before moving her to a private school. A Class of 15 with one teacher and 3 TAs. She doesn’t come home hurt, no drug deals outside the school gate, no parents swearing and shouting in the pick up line.

Applepencilplant · 17/06/2024 21:45

Good for him. I hope he recognises he has done his very best and goes on to do something much more fulfilling.
No one should have to put up with this.

MrsKeats · 17/06/2024 21:43

AquaQuail · 17/06/2024 21:28

I think it’s probably a lot worse if you work for the police force

But at least someone would be arrested for assaulting a police officer. Nothing happens if you assault a teacher in most cases.

llamarammma · 17/06/2024 21:43

edwinbear · 17/06/2024 21:41

Gosh, this is a very different view of state schools being painted than the dozens of VAT on school fees threads. On those, ‘little Henrietta’ will do just fine in state school and nobody can understand what the fuss is all about.

This is the problem - the enrichment of a few at the expense of the majority.

wearemodernidiots · 17/06/2024 21:42

Our primary school's behaviour isn't quite that bad, but has been bad and stressful enough that we have lost at least 7 teachers over the last 2 years to non-teaching roles.... The local secondary school has a shocking rate of turnover and are struggling to keep decent teachers due to the behaviour in school.

Parents really aren't getting it ... there will no one left to teach their children if they don't start teaching their children to behave and face consequences at home!

llamarammma · 17/06/2024 21:42

noblegiraffe · 17/06/2024 21:29

Some of it is. Some of it is social media and ubiquitous screens, including parental use leading to disengagement with child-rearing. Some of it is the shitty state of schools full of unqualified staff simply being the required warm body in a classroom while chaos reigns unchecked due to inability to hire teachers. Some of it is an increasingly young and inexperienced teaching workforce who simply haven't built up the knowledge of how to create routines and consistency. Some of it is the lack of pastoral staff due to budget cuts to mentor these kids into better choices. Some of it is the lack of SEN provision that is needed to help some of them be able to engage.

A lot of it is the last 14 years of underinvestment and lack of care for education and young people, particularly during covid, and post-covid.

A £15 billion covid recovery programme for kids was proposed by the government's own advisor and then rejected for being too expensive. Very false economy.

I would add the stealth privatisation through the academies and SEN provision to your list. I don’t think the decline of education and the rise of the above is a coincidence.

PupInAPram · 17/06/2024 21:41

Parents are on phones or at work, so disengaged from children. They think being on the child's side against the school is good parenting. Maybe it's a guilt thing. I've also been called a cunt and sad old bitch, and I work in a school with an excellent Head and SLT. I just have to remind myself that our students are children and their brains are not fully developed yet.

edwinbear · 17/06/2024 21:41

Gosh, this is a very different view of state schools being painted than the dozens of VAT on school fees threads. On those, ‘little Henrietta’ will do just fine in state school and nobody can understand what the fuss is all about.

OonaStubbs · 17/06/2024 21:41

Schools need to be a lot more strict, and stick to the rules, if pupils break them, expel them at the first instance.

Horsebox27 · 17/06/2024 21:41

HandaFae · 17/06/2024 21:27

No worries for us, we have plenty of maintained places. Admission statistics for 2023 show about 70% of our schools with spare places.

My LA have supported governing board requests to close, losing 16 schools in just over 5 years, due to low numbers impacting on sustainability, financial and the quality of education provided.

We would be delighted with more children.

National data supports this.
72% of schools have spare places. 93% of schools have capacity or only exceed numbers by 10 or more pupils.

Around 18% of state-funded schools were at or in excess of capacity in 2022/23, this is similar to 2021/22. The majority of these exceeded their capacity by less than 10 pupils, with around 7% of schools exceeding their capacity by 10 or more pupils.

https://explore-education-statistics.service.gov.uk/find-statistics/school-capacity/2022-23#

Interesting. I wonder how that is split across the grading of schools? I’m sure there is plenty of space in an underperforming school. But who wants their kids going there?!

AngryLikeHades · 17/06/2024 21:38

@jouper that's terrible.

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