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To think droves of teachers will make the decision by husband made today- to leave

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Peakyshelby · 17/06/2024 15:52

Well after 6 years of teaching my husband has broken down, gone to the doctors, been signed off and says he is done.

he has done 3 years in 2 schools and then done supply for 3 years. There is too much to list but the highlights have been

been told to go and fuck himself and other insults thrown at him by kids with hardly any consequences from parents and schools

having stuff chucked at him

having to appear as a witness in court when a parent beat up his own child at home time in the playground

having parents create a smear group on WhatsApp against him and 2 other newly qualified teachers because the parents said there little darlings behaviour must be down to inexperienced teachers not being able to handle them.

having parents laugh and him and tell him he is picking on their little darlings by trying to sanction them.

have children laughing at him and saying my mum and dad don’t care what I do

hardly any support from above.

There is too much more to write but today he had a 10 year old child walk up to him and pour a water bottle over his head.

he is done. He qualified with a group of 10 others and 8 of them have since quit. 2 did not get through there NQT year.

He says the system is broken

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SomersetBrie · 18/06/2024 10:25

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My DH works internationally with French speakers. Do you think he should give it up because I am not fluent in French?
Of all the weird posts on this thread, I've not seen anything like this before - you think DH is not a "high calibre" teacher because of his partner's grammar (which is fine for a mumsnet post anyway)?

LakeTiticaca · 18/06/2024 10:24

What is SLT?

notbelieved · 18/06/2024 10:23

Nobody with passes at GCSE, A Level and a 2:2 should be teaching secondary level, in my opinion

I assume you want a 2:1 as a minimum? Because the difference tween 2:2 and 2:1 is 1%? In all seriousness, what difference does it make?

namechangefandango · 18/06/2024 10:23

Bababa2456 · 18/06/2024 08:11

It's usually the parents.

If children aren't brought up to have some respect for teachers, and parents don't deal with it at home, who else is there to blame?

Yes, schools need a good leadership team, of course. Discipline in a school comes from the top .

However, there are also some people who are simply not cut out for teaching. (I say this as a former teacher.)

We all knew the colleagues who struggled and couldn't manage the class. They had no 'presence' and the students knew it and played up. In one of my teaching jobs, at least 3 new teachers left within a year because they couldn't control the classes (and this was in an independent school.)

sadly many of the more experienced teachers with 'presence' left as the government cuts kicked in alongside the widespread academisation of schools. SLTs don't care about the staff or the students, it's about running a business.
there's no provision for SEN, behavioural issues etc, the money isn't being spent on TAs, employing NQTs to save money who are taught teaching is crowd control.
The quality of teacher training is poor, the SEN knowledge is limited, the them and us attitude towards families is obvious, irl but also reading here.

instead of one to one or extra support the disruptive students are given punitive treatment and begin to play up to the label teachers give them.
all the comments here about 'little jonny' or 'the little darlings' show how little respect these people have for children and families who might need more support.
All of the societal problems including parents at the end of their rope and teachers leaving in droves can be directly attributed to government cuts over the last fifteen years including removal of Surestart centres, Connexions support in schools and NHS cuts resulting in ridiculously long waiting lists for diagnoses.

Cabincrew1 · 18/06/2024 10:22

BrownTroutBluesAgain · 18/06/2024 04:05

Any Party that gets into power gets in by a majority vote and clearly it’s that majority that has kept the Conservatives in power for 14 years. That’s democracy.
Its also worth noting, as other PPs have also done, that school children's behaviour, respect for teachers and the institution has been declining for a long time and also during Labours term in power.

Many people are born poor and many people have and can work themselves out of that situation……if they sat down in class, shut up, work hard and don’t have parents that seek to blame teachers or others for every ill in their life.

Edited

Have you considered there’s a huge portion of society who aren’t sycophants for the conservatives but don’t vote at all because what’s the point for them. Made worse because Starmer is just Tory lite.

Shinyandnew1 · 18/06/2024 10:21

Phonics was taught under the Literacy strategy and Letters and Sounds was freely available from 2007-both under Labour.

Bababa2456 · 18/06/2024 10:17

Supersoakers · 18/06/2024 09:43

Do you now know the Rose report was led by labour and ignored by the conservatives? That phonics was implemented by labour?

The Government will not go ahead with plans for the new primary curriculum, drawn up under Labour, following Sir Jim Rose's review.
The curriculum, was due to be introduced in schools from September 2011, but the reforms of the curriculum did not make it through the passing of the Children, Schools and Families Bill before the election, because it was opposed by the Tories (News, 15 April).
The new curriculum, was due to be introduced in schools from September 2011 but the reforms of the curriculum did not make it through the passing of the Children, Schools and Families Bill before the election, because it was opposed by the Tories (News, 15 April).

On Monday schools minister Nick Gibb said, ‘A move away from teaching traditional subjects like history and geography could have led to an unacceptable erosion of standards in our primary schools.

‘Instead, teachers need a curriculum which helps them ensure that every child has a firm grasp of the basics and a good grounding in general knowledge, free from unnecessary prescription and bureaucracy.
‘It is vital that we return our curriculum to its intended purpose – a minimum national entitlement organised around subject disciplines.’

@Supersoakers If you're going to copy and paste, can you link to the actual sources please? Just so that bias, if any or not, is clear.

It's impossible to know where the above is from, where you own words stop and direct quotes start. You've also copied and pasted the same sentences twice.

The Labour government ended 14 years ago.
Phonics have since been implemented.

RosesAndHellebores · 18/06/2024 10:16

@LoopyPooly oh dear. I think you yourself have missed the point entirely Grin. You is perfectly sufficient.

OldieButBaddie · 18/06/2024 10:16

I suggest as many of you as possible send a link to this thread to [email protected] he is (hopefully) the next minister for schools. You never know he might respond

IsEveryUserNameBloodyTaken · 18/06/2024 10:13

Willyoujustbequiet · 18/06/2024 07:28

Not cynical just wrong.

There has been a benefit cap on 2 children for many years now.

The benefit cap is lifted if you can get any sickness claimed for.

LoopyPooly · 18/06/2024 10:13

@Giantpaw I would say that’s the exception rather than the rule.

It also used to be that only those who achieved highly could even go to university in the first place. Now, pretty much everyone and anyone can go, regardless of academic record.

namechangefandango · 18/06/2024 10:13

RishiIsACuntWaffle · 18/06/2024 08:13

This would be a good debate question.

Can't just throw money at the problem. Need to retain current experienced teachers. Even with 30000 bursary teacher training is not attracting enough STEM trainees.

I do know teaching was very different before 2010 as I taught both before and after.

Things that need addresssing which have been worse since 2010
Austerity, taking away sure start centres, less teaching assistants, bigger class sizes, it taking 5 years for a diagnosis and therefore in some authorities appropriate help, having to memorise huge quotes to pass english gcse. Cost of living crisis as poorer families who work as having to work more hours to make ends meet; therefore having less time with their children. Teens need parents to be present too. Even in many caring working families both parents have to work full time or more to be able to pay the bills. Many families are time poor.

Being a parent and a teacher is extremely hard in term time. No time for your own family.

Quality, flexible childcare is needed.
Holiday clubs for all children including teens, not just those from families who get benefits.

all of this

ForGreyKoala · 18/06/2024 10:13

LakeTiticaca · 18/06/2024 09:17

Many of the children back then, including my dad, left school at 14 out of necessity (his dad left school at 12)they had to work to help support the family. No state handouts back then. Or NHS.
Bad behaviour back then was punished harshly. Persistent criminals were sentenced to the birch, or a short sentence in a nasty institution. People tended to behave themselves because they knew what the consequences would be if caught.
I remember as child, my Dad's favourite expression was "you kids nowadays don't know your born!!" Kids didn't answer back for fear of a thick ear. Looking back my dad was probably right

My own Dad left school at 14, but that is hardly the same as attendance at school being optional as a pp claimed.

He left because the school was in lockdown (polio) and he decided he might as well be working as sitting at home.

LoopyPooly · 18/06/2024 10:10

@RosesAndHellebores Not an own goal at all, two entirely separate issues in education - albeit with some cross overs.

One issue is behaviour and failure of SLT to do much (in fairness they have their hands tied a lot of the time). I’m glad your DD is getting on well, but as you can see from this thread, many do not.

The second separate, but linked, issue is why would someone who is a high achiever academically want or need to go into teaching? For staters it is badly paid and has a litany of issues (including behaviour). The government ‘solved’ this by making the entry requirements to become a teacher much lower, rather than actually tackling the reasons why those who have an academically gifted record don’t want to teach.

Nobody with passes at GCSE, A Level and a 2:2 should be teaching secondary level, in my opinion.

BusyMummy001 · 18/06/2024 10:10

LoopyPooly · 18/06/2024 09:49

I will also say - and I know some won’t like this and it will be controversial - but the quality of teachers has definitely slipped. Teaching used to be a respected profession which attracted intelligent and academically successful individuals.

I have known many teachers in recent years who have scraped passes at GCSE / A Level, then achieved 2:2 degrees who go on to teach in secondary schools. How can you possibly teach children how to get those higher grades (7, 8 and 9s) if you yourself performed poorly. This is unacceptable, but unfortunately teaching isn’t attracting high achieving individuals for all the reasons mentioned on this thread.

Agree to some extent - but given that the grads with 3-4 A’s at A Level and 2;1s/1sts can walk into STEM jobs paying £60-80K, and are usually graduating with £50k plus of student debt, it’s no wonder that the brighter graduates aren’t attracted into the profession.

Just as there is no money for NHS staff, there is none for these either. We have a broken welfare state system where people want everything provided for free and at the best quality, but there is no money in the pot. And just for balance, the current conservative govt (or rather Cons/Lib government for the first 5 years) inherited a deficit so large that there was nothing to fund any of the necessary and recommended changes in education - Gordon Brown spent spent spent, but made no attempts to find the funds to pay for it. The Labour Chief Secretary for the Treasury, Liam Byrne, left a note on his desk for the new Con/Lib offcier stating : ‘I am afraid there is no money’.

Easy to blame the Tories for the current state of affairs, when they were well and truly shafted by Labour - and then add in covid, Ukraine and everything that has contributed to fuel price rises and the CoL.

We are where we are because of decades of mismanagement by governments of all colours.

Giantpaw · 18/06/2024 10:06

@LoopyPooly the best head teacher my DH ever worked with had a 2:2 degree. He got amazing results from his classes, the best in the area by miles and the kids and staff all respected him.

LakeTiticaca · 18/06/2024 10:04

Teddleshon · 18/06/2024 09:18

@MaryMaryVeryContrary totally agree and in most poor countries people eat generally relatively healthy home cooked food.

And generally these children are happy and proud to be able to attend school 🥰

RosesAndHellebores · 18/06/2024 10:01

@LoopyPooly I think if you yourself live in a glass house, you should refrain from throwing stones. Whilst I agree with you, (rather than yourself), you have scored an own goal there.

TBF my dd is teaching in a challenging school and aged 26 is absolutely thriving and managing 15/16 year old six footers with all sorts of problems really well. They seem to respect my dot of a daughter and she has had some lovely cards of thanks from parents who clearly struggle with the chaos in their lives.

DD is not struggling with prep, marking or assessments. Some the children's circumstances sadden her but she is finding the children and their parents manageable, despite having had to break up fights. What she finds more challenging is the calibre of the SLT and flakiness of some other staff.

LoopyPooly · 18/06/2024 09:49

I will also say - and I know some won’t like this and it will be controversial - but the quality of teachers has definitely slipped. Teaching used to be a respected profession which attracted intelligent and academically successful individuals.

I have known many teachers in recent years who have scraped passes at GCSE / A Level, then achieved 2:2 degrees who go on to teach in secondary schools. How can you possibly teach children how to get those higher grades (7, 8 and 9s) if you yourself performed poorly. This is unacceptable, but unfortunately teaching isn’t attracting high achieving individuals for all the reasons mentioned on this thread.

Supersoakers · 18/06/2024 09:43

Bababa2456 · 18/06/2024 09:25

So you're choosing to ignore the improvement in literacy with this government?
The implementation of phonics was the direct result of the Rose Report.

Edited

Do you now know the Rose report was led by labour and ignored by the conservatives? That phonics was implemented by labour?

The Government will not go ahead with plans for the new primary curriculum, drawn up under Labour, following Sir Jim Rose's review.
The curriculum, was due to be introduced in schools from September 2011, but the reforms of the curriculum did not make it through the passing of the Children, Schools and Families Bill before the election, because it was opposed by the Tories (News, 15 April).
The new curriculum, was due to be introduced in schools from September 2011 but the reforms of the curriculum did not make it through the passing of the Children, Schools and Families Bill before the election, because it was opposed by the Tories (News, 15 April).

On Monday schools minister Nick Gibb said, ‘A move away from teaching traditional subjects like history and geography could have led to an unacceptable erosion of standards in our primary schools.

‘Instead, teachers need a curriculum which helps them ensure that every child has a firm grasp of the basics and a good grounding in general knowledge, free from unnecessary prescription and bureaucracy.
‘It is vital that we return our curriculum to its intended purpose – a minimum national entitlement organised around subject disciplines.’

LoopyPooly · 18/06/2024 09:37

@MaryMaryVeryContrary I’ve worked and lived in two affluent areas, both different Home Counties / villages / commuter areas and considered very middle class and expensive.

Both local secondary schools have some real issues with behaviour. Anyone with real wealth educates their children privately. In both areas I have lived, there are easily half a dozen private schools compared to one or two large state schools. This means that the state school attracts children from the less affluent areas. Although I do concede that many of these children are a result of their upbringing and not at fault, these are the few ‘bad’ kids that ruin it for the rest. Swearing, attitude, anti-social behaviour, just generally being vile. One or two terrible children in the classroom can ruin it for everyone else, as others have mentioned there are no real sanctions and it’s almost impossible to exclude a child.

I have been sworn at, called names, had teenage boys behaviour violently around me, for example, one aggressively smashed a laptop to pieces as I was attempting to help him. These are schools in very ‘posh’ areas!

Bababa2456 · 18/06/2024 09:36

hevs03 · 18/06/2024 09:24

My DD is in her 2nd year as an Early Years Practitioner (a good old fashioned Nursery Nurse), she is responsible for 15 children aged between 2 and 3 yrs old. She has been bitten, headbutted, had black eyes, bloody nose, boobs squeezed, kicked, spat on and told by a 3 year old girl she was going to get her 'fucking throat cut' by said girl. She said a lot of the children swear regularly and she has at least 4 children who are definitely SEN but when the parent consultations take place the parents of these children simply expect the Nursery to diagnose the children (rather than the parents taking the children to the GP etc. ) So it starts young it seems with some children.

So we can imagine the types of homes these children come from can't we?
Children learn their vocabulary from what is spoken at home.

Sadly, we now live in a society where fewer people respect authority. We see it on our streets, with knife crime, muggings, phone theft, where people blatantly shop lift, in sport where footballers challenge referees in ways they never did, and yes, in schools and in medical settings. Everywhere.

Teaching used to be a respected profession. I've seen a slow decline and it's not all outside teacher's control. I've noticed a decline (and you may think this is petty) in how teachers dress for work (mainly in primary schools.) They don't look professional, in clothes that are far too casual, not suitable for a professional role. Children notice this.

I also think that - as has been the case for decades- that many graduates drift into teaching because they don't know what else to do. They aren't cut out for it and they realise that fast. Even going back to my old school days we all knew the teachers we could mess around with, who just didn't have 'it' to control a class (and this was a grammar school.)

And the worst thing is that many heads are just downright useless. I've seen it where I've taught and without a strong head, the school sinks.

Meadowwild · 18/06/2024 09:34

Pritas · 17/06/2024 15:56

Sorry to hear all that. My DS is a teacher and I know it's tough.
Apparently Labour are going to recruit 6000 new teachers. If they looked after the ones they have there would be no need.

Exactly. Why are those in charge so obsessed with creating new things instead of mending broken systems. There are vast numbers of experienced teachers who would return to the job or not leave it if they had support over pupil behaviour, if they could focus on teaching not tickboxing, if our society promoted and fostered respect for teachers and proper discipline in schools (I don't mean physical.)

hurklebum · 18/06/2024 09:34

Just another 'me too' - Left teaching after 24 years because of unrealistic workload, pressure from SLT being leaned on by Ofsted etc. It took me a breakdown and, once recovered, the offer of a job unrelated to the State Education system to get me out. The pupils, even in the most deprived inner-city schools, were the good part of the job and I miss them.

Supersoakers · 18/06/2024 09:31

Bababa2456 · 18/06/2024 09:25

So you're choosing to ignore the improvement in literacy with this government?
The implementation of phonics was the direct result of the Rose Report.

Edited

You still think phonics was introduced by the Tories? I’m amazing they didn’t scrap it in favour of rote learning.