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Boss called me an annoying snitch for complaining about my lazy co worker?

193 replies

Queenoftheuniverseandgalaxy · 17/06/2024 15:19

Her laziness is affecting my job.

We both clean in a restaraunt. It’s just me and her, no supervisors.
She is extremely lazy, doesn’t do her work, leaves dirt and mess in her area, leaves most of the work to me. Often sits around on her phone. When I show her the mess and dirt she leaves, she rolls her eyes. One time told me « I don’t care, shut up, you are so annoying and you are not my boss, just do it for me, and left »

Management is often angry at us on WhatsApp and often complains about the mess and dirt she leaves. We both get blamed for her lazy horrible cleaning.

I tried speaking to her a million times, she told me she doesn’t care and to stfu.

After 6 months of this and yet another angry complaint hinting they’ll fire us, I had enough and contacted the cleaning company boss, asking him to please speak to her and that the area they were angry about, was hers.

I get this message

She never blames you Kate. We do not blame each other. Snitching is gross behaviour Kate. You are both a team and should work together! You are being an annoying snitch. A tattle tale. Just disgusting behaviour from you. Stop snitching, I don’t want to hear it

OP posts:
Onethinnyatatime · 22/06/2024 06:50

If you are in the UK please call ACAS.
Your boss' behaviour can't go on, he's not suited to be an employer.
Also, resign ASAP, you will find another job in no time. Don't let anyone treat you this way.I hope you are ok and find a better place soon.

Imisssleep2 · 22/06/2024 06:21

Either find another job and leave or tell them you have no issues working as a team but need another partner to work with who has the same level of pride in their work. That is not an okay response from a manager, I would say take it to HR but guessing it's probably a smallish company without a HR department?

Hollybobs1 · 21/06/2024 22:50

I'd tell the boss to stick the job up their arse. Then watch everything go to shit... 😂

SmileyClare · 19/06/2024 18:59

@HysteriaOfTheWanderingWomb

It’s a fair point . Particularly as I was giving out advice! Dh was lecturing me about this a few weeks ago 😳

HysteriaOfTheWanderingWomb · 19/06/2024 17:51

SmileyClare · 19/06/2024 17:11

To be honest, I don’t have insurance. My customers know this.
However, a quick look at AXA - that’s around £6 per month for a SE cleaner or similar.

That's fine you have a mutual understanding.

But it's surprising how quickly someone can set that verbal agreement aside in the event of a very expensive piece of damage occuring, if they are suddenly faced with taking the hit, even on their own insurance, and don't want to.
As a professional cleaner carrying out services in their home, the law would be on their side if the bath got cracked and a whole new suite was needed etc or whatever.

So, I'm not criticising, but just be aware the insurance is to protect you more than them.

SmileyClare · 19/06/2024 17:11

HysteriaOfTheWanderingWomb · 19/06/2024 15:39

@SmileyClare ...And a good insurance policy.

To be honest, I don’t have insurance. My customers know this.
However, a quick look at AXA - that’s around £6 per month for a SE cleaner or similar.

Trainingfairy · 19/06/2024 16:16

Tell her to stick her job where the sun don't shine......

You don't need an attitude like your fellow worker OR your boss!

Grammarnut · 19/06/2024 16:06

oakleaffy · 18/06/2024 23:48

Easy...It's the boss and the lazy skiver always on her phone!.

Because they are on the phone to each other. Perfect explanation. Get another job - this company will be folding with the boss's attitude.

HysteriaOfTheWanderingWomb · 19/06/2024 15:39

@SmileyClare ...And a good insurance policy.

SmileyClare · 19/06/2024 13:51

You’re way better off doing domestic cleaning in peoples homes. It’s far more lucrative and rewarding than agency work.

Is there are reason you can’t set up on your own?

You literally need:
-a bag of cleaning materials
-a UTR number
-an advert on local social media
-gym clothes
and a good playlist on Spotify (that’s optional 😂)

Im happy to give advice. I set up as an independent cleaner a few years ago and built up a client base very quickly.

I clean 10 houses a week and turn over around £400 net a week working on average 5 hours a day.
My customers are all lovely and treat me very well.

I even started without a car and just cleaned locally. The set up costs are minimal.

Why give this idiot manager a cut of your hard earned money?
There’s so much cleaning work out there.

divinededacende · 19/06/2024 12:43

Queenoftheuniverseandgalaxy · 18/06/2024 16:13

I did. I messaged him twice, with photos and videos too, and he said he’ll look into it, but nothing happened after that

Ah, fair enough. You've done everything you can do. Your boss is a dick, there's no excuse for that sort of behavior. Get well clear.

NinaPersson · 19/06/2024 12:10

NinaPersson · 19/06/2024 12:08

Can you somehow video record what you have done and show this to the restaurant manager? It’s very unfair, I’m pissed off on your behalf

And then record the whole area that needs cleaning but block lazy bitch out

NinaPersson · 19/06/2024 12:08

Can you somehow video record what you have done and show this to the restaurant manager? It’s very unfair, I’m pissed off on your behalf

Queenoftheuniverseandgalaxy · 19/06/2024 12:02

Problemzapper · 19/06/2024 10:50

How old is your boss, out of curiosity? Because he expresses himself like an imature, cocky teenager, and his attitude is appalling. Yeah, you most certainly need to look for another position or go self-employed, but when you know you are leaving do give it to the manager with both barrels and your selfish co-'worker' too, you do not deserve to be treated this way by either of them, you are worth so much more than than.

He is 46

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T1Dmama · 19/06/2024 11:46

ABirdsEyeView · 17/06/2024 15:26

Do you have an HR department. I'd escalate this above your manager's level and forward on the managers response to you. This job is effectively toast anyway - you might as well make a formal complaint

This!
Formal complaint and resign!

There will be cleaning jobs in hotels, care home etc… you won’t have trouble getting employment!

Another option is to go to the restaurant manager and state that they need to ask for a different cleaner from the aganexy and tell them she’s lazy!

Tessabelle74 · 19/06/2024 10:59

Quit, find someone that appreciates your hard work

Problemzapper · 19/06/2024 10:50

How old is your boss, out of curiosity? Because he expresses himself like an imature, cocky teenager, and his attitude is appalling. Yeah, you most certainly need to look for another position or go self-employed, but when you know you are leaving do give it to the manager with both barrels and your selfish co-'worker' too, you do not deserve to be treated this way by either of them, you are worth so much more than than.

fruitbrewhaha · 19/06/2024 09:24

Yes leave, and yes start up on your own. Perhaps in competition with this twit.

anon666 · 19/06/2024 09:17

I'm desperate for you to leave and then he will be left with the problem.

You're doing the work of two right now, please don't carry on enabling them. X

senua · 19/06/2024 08:43

He sent another message saying I am to blame for management complains because working as a team, I should make sure my partner has help, tell her if she makes a mistake/leaves dirt and misses something…
Ask him if that means that he has promoted you to supervisor. With a corresponding increase in pay, ofc.

RailwayCutting · 19/06/2024 08:16

He doesn't deserve your good work. He deserves lazy bum's crap work and for clients to ditch their services and write stinking reviews about him

AmIEnough · 19/06/2024 08:06

Your boss is a child and an arse!!! How can they not see how badly her behaviour reflects on the company you work for? I would definitely look for another job you are not valued at all and deserve so much better.

Champers66 · 19/06/2024 06:25

oakleaffy · 18/06/2024 23:48

Easy...It's the boss and the lazy skiver always on her phone!.

Soo true haha!

oakleaffy · 18/06/2024 23:48

Champers66 · 18/06/2024 19:38

Which 2% voted YABU, are you both thick?

Easy...It's the boss and the lazy skiver always on her phone!.

oakleaffy · 18/06/2024 23:45

@Queenoftheuniverseandgalaxy Leave! Good cleaners are worth their weight in gold- Free yourself from this toxic workplace.